https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Jul 2026 00:58:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-572122 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 11:15:05 +0000 Adira 572122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Thanks for the info! That's cool you got an extra week off - I'll only have the 12 I think. I'm just trying to work up until I get birth so I can maximize the time with the baby. I know going back to work is going to be so hard, but I hope you find it easier than you expect! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-572109 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 11:12:11 +0000 DillonLion 572109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for your support everyone! It is so weird being back. Having my first pumping session now. So glad I have my own office! </p> <p>@Adira: LO will be 12 weeks tomorrow, and I took off a week before she was born so I actually was off for almost 13 weeks. Still not nearly long enough in my opinion, but that's about the maximum I can expect around these parts, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-572087 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 11:05:06 +0000 sandy 572087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: thinking of you and hoping your day gets easier :). It must be so hard to be away from your LO but you are doing awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571971 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 10:25:16 +0000 Cherrybee 571971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I'm so, so sorry you're having to deal with this. I've already had a couple of meltdowns about having to go back to work and I'm on;y 17 weeks pregnant!!! I think the worst thing is not having any choice about when you go back/ if you go back. The comments above are really comforting/ encouraging and I'm sure that once you get into the swing of things it wont seem anywhere near as big as it does right now. In the meantime, know that we're thinking of you. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571928 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 10:10:19 +0000 tororojo 571928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( Sorry you're having to go back today. But I hope it goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571890 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:50:51 +0000 hellobeeboston 571890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck back to work -- it will definitely be a transition. I have been back for 2 weeks, the second week was easier... It is awesome getting home and seeing the babe!</p> <p>Pumping isn't ideal, but it's going pretty well. It's a nice little break that I think of as me time. I usually catch up on shows ( on my iphone or laptop) or get some Internet time in - it can be a pain but I try to relax and just chill.</p> <p>You will be good, it gets easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571861 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:35:19 +0000 Charm54 571861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* I hope your first day back was okay...I imagine the first day is the worst! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571843 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:26:01 +0000 oliviaoblivia 571843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I'm so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>@highwire: I hope you have an ok day today. I've heard it gets easier every day. I hope that's true for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571841 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:25:40 +0000 Adira 571841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Booo, sorry that you're going through this! How long was your leave for - the standard 12 weeks in the States? I haven't had to deal with this yet, but I will be doing the same thing - going back full time after 12 weeks of leave. NOT looking forward to it. Let us know how your day goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571840 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:25:13 +0000 MsLipGloss 571840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Highwire: (((Hugs)))I went back to work in December to a job I don't love (I am an attorney). I am not going to tell you it has been easy. Because it hasn't. But I can tell you that it is doable, and that knowing what DH and I will be able to provide for LO because I am working makes it even more doable. What I tell myself each morning is that the hardest thing I have to do all day is to walk out the door and leave BabyGloss, and that it is all downhill after that, and that seems to help me. </p> <p>I also totally agree with @MrsTricycle in that the anticipation of going back to work was much worse than the actual event. While I miss her terribly, I find that there are moments I am so caught up in work that I am able to not fixate on how much I miss her, and that those moments occur more frequently now than when I first returned to work. </p> <p>As for the pumping . . . *sigh*. I have needed to supplement pretty much since I went back to work, and now I am okay with the idea that while she gets mostly breastmilk, that she gets formula too, and that's okay. Pumping makes it difficult to plan work days and work events (like depositions and court appearances), and I am considering reevaluating my current efforts when LO hits 6 months (she will be 6 mos. in March). It's just too much, emotionally, for me to deal with (the constant stress of work, pumping, and worrying about my dwindling supply), and for sanity purposes, I may decide to stop pumping (and it's not like I have a freezer stash to fall back on either - that's another long story) and just BF at night/early mornings. </p> <p>I write all of this not to discourage you - I just wish people had been more honest with me about how difficult it would be to go back to work, because I feel like I would have been better prepared emotionally. And it's okay if it doesn't get easier right away . . . it hasn't gotten *easier* per se, for me, but now that I know what to expect, I am much better prepared for it. It's also okay if it does get easier! </p> <p>I will also say that not being with her during the day has made me incredibly *present* while I am with her. :) </p> <p>@BabyJMama: Yep - pumping and worrying about supply can really take its toll . . . and I am totally in the sanity above all else camp! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571834 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:21:12 +0000 Bao 571834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, hugs to you and I hope you both have a good day today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571808 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 09:02:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 571808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: so sorry to hear about your grandma. </p> <p>@highwire: going back to work is very stressful but once you get in the groove, it becomes habit. In regards to your libido... Just want to share that I hardly had any, until I quit breastfeeding and then it was insane. I think it had something to do with the fact that it was my body again, not just a milk factory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571797 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 08:54:48 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 571797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there!! I survived going back last week - the anticipation was way worse than the actual event. And believe it or not, I enjoyed being there - it was nice to be able to actually accomplish things during the course of the day. I was exhausted, but I think it's going to be doable. Hope it goes ok for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571625 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:46:25 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 571625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :( I was just getting weepy over this today and my baby isn't even due until next month! I hate the thought of going back to work. Most of the moms I work with felt/feel the same. That doesn't make it easier, but it helps me knowing that at least others understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571619 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:38:55 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 571619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. I hope tomorrow isn't too bad for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571617 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:38:24 +0000 DillonLion 571617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I'm so sorry for your loss </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571615 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:37:49 +0000 JoeysMama 571615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry! That totally sucks! This is my last week of maternity leave so I will be in your shoes next week. Just think of how great it will be to see LO's face at the end of your day!</p> <p>Hope everyone has a better day tomorrow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571602 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:23:06 +0000 autumnlove 571602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! I hope tomorrow goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571598 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:21:32 +0000 doodlepoodle 571598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Ugh. You poor thing :( Your situation sounds very similar to mine. I had issues with my supply and was SO stressed about going back to work and pumping. I made it a few months after but for me it was just too much stress and then once I quit I had HUGE guilt and tried to start back up the next week and it didn't work. *sigh. Just take it one day at a time, if you feel like it's too much to handle just get on HB and talk it out. That's what I did! Finally for me it was honestly a question of my sanity. </p> <p>My libido was really low until...oh last week. J is 8 months old. DH and I were in a bit of a rut (a huge friggin rut) but we've had lots of conversations and are working pretty hard on things and it's certainly making a difference! </p> <p>@artbee: I'm so sorry you had the funeral today and a cranky toddler :( I hope you have a few hours to recoup and enjoy a little time before the work week starts. Much love to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571594 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:19:29 +0000 matador84 571594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember how it feels! It'll get better! Who knows...it might not even be as bad as you think. I thought it was like the world was ending (me going back to work), but it really was okay in the end!</p> <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571592 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:18:57 +0000 singingbee 571592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571585 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:13:03 +0000 MaisyMay 571585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. I hope that the transition is easier than you are expecting. :( hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571582 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:09:06 +0000 Smurfette 571582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I can imagine how hard it is going to be. Will be thinking about you tomorrow!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571580 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:05:29 +0000 heffalump 571580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, that does suck.</p> <p>My grandma passed away on the 14th and I had to go to her funeral today. It was 4 hours away so we had to drive there yesterday, and drive back today, with an 18 month old..... And the funeral started at her nap time so we had to deal with a cranky toddler while mourning the death of my grandma. Yes, I'd say it was rough. Glad to be home though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571579 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 22:02:05 +0000 aprk 571579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are having a rough night. I think these major transitions are always hard. Good luck tomorrow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/totally-bummed#post-571576 Sun, 17 Feb 2013 21:58:11 +0000 DillonLion 571576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My maternity leave is over. I go back to work full time tomorrow and LO is off to daycare full time.</p> <p>I'm just totally bummed out. I'll be pumping at work and all the logistics of that are stressing me out. But I never made enough to EBF so I have to deal with mixing and sending formula also.</p> <p>And on top of that breastfeeding has given me the absolute lowest libido of my whole life. I thought I had libido issues before. This is a whole different ball game.</p> <p>I'm sad that LO and I can't be together full time anymore. I'm mad that our debt (student loans) prevent us from being able to afford for me to stay home.</p> <p>Woe is me. Anyone else having a rough evening? </p>