https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 18:56:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460885 Sat, 13 Feb 2016 16:03:08 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: haha! Awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460730 Sat, 13 Feb 2016 10:19:19 +0000 Finfan 2460730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: I started a parents of Threenagers support thread for us LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460585 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 23:34:23 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: Let's start a Parents of Threenagers support group! 😁 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460562 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 22:18:21 +0000 Finfan 2460562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: omg this. I have a 3.5 year old and a 3 month old and the threenager stage is my personal hell. Love that kid but ack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460560 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 22:16:16 +0000 Ms maths 2460560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find the actual parenting of 2 kids to be about as easy as parenting one kid. What I find harder is getting everything else done; two kids just means a lot less down time than I had with one (which already felt like no down-time). But I have two young kids--27 months and 11 months--so they are both at an age where they require a lot of attention. And somehow I have to fit in my share of household stuff, along with work that I end up bringing home because I can't spend enough time at my office :bummed:</p> <p>Edited to add: It didn't feel hard at all to me until LO2 hit six months. Before that, LO1 was still in daycare part-time, I had minimal work responsibilities, and LO2 was a pretty chill baby. Now, I am back at work full-time and LO2 has lost her chillness. (In a good way, but she just doesn't tolerate sitting around while I do something else like she used to.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460543 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 21:37:05 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: for us, it's more about the difficulty of having a 3-year-old! LO2 (3 months old) is a piece of cake in comparison! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460451 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:21:03 +0000 pastemoo 2460451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: There are some bees on here now that are in that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2099279 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 20:13:47 +0000 plantains 2099279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a scary thread. Has anyone gone from 1 to 3? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2099008 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 12:47:45 +0000 Maysprout 2099008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 wasn't bad even though lo1 was the more demanding baby. I think what made lo2 challenging was more my husbands work and travel schedule and feeling guilty that lo1 didn't get as much attention. Also it was super cold so i felt a bit more cooped up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098993 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 12:22:50 +0000 Mamasig 2098993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having DS1 was such a shock - the sleep deprivation and major change in lifestyle. Going to two kids was so much easier. My body was already used to less sleep and I was used to minimal down time. I also think @Adira is totally right. I WOH - if I was a SAHM I might have a different opinion. My mom watched DS1 while I was at work so on maternity leave she still came over and totally helped me. I was able to take an afternoon nap when DS1 did and she watched the baby. </p> <p>I found it's gotten harder as DS2 has gotten older. He was a very laid back baby but now at 10 months has serious separation anxiety. He must be held at all times or cries. It's exhausting. </p> <p>I want a third but am scared of that transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098961 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 11:04:00 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2098961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1-2 was easier. I was more confident and knew what to expect, and #2 was an angel baby. #1 was my hard baby (colicky, always wanted to be held, reflux issues, allergies...). #1 was also in daycare/preschool 5 days a week so I was able to give #2 focused attention during the week. I think it makes a huge difference in experience if you're juggling two kids 24/7. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098900 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 09:37:17 +0000 lamariniere 2098900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was much harder. LO1 was a high needs newborn, we had major BF issues and he barely slept. LO2 was a perfect angel and didn't do anything but sleep and eat the first 3 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098885 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 09:19:03 +0000 winniebee 2098885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: oh yeah having just the baby at home is a cinch! Babies are easy after having one. It's the combination of 2 with me at home that is more difficult. Even on the days my older goes to preschool I have to do everything myself including getting both kids out the door by 830. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098801 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 05:29:41 +0000 wonderstruck 2098801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, it depends on what aspect of parenting you're talking about. In some ways 1-2 was easier; I was much more confident as a parent and having a newborn felt wayyyyy easier the second time around. But as far as sleep goes, 1-2 was hell compared to 0-1. With my first I would squeeze in naps wherever I could, especially during those newborn days where they often have days and nights flipped. The second time around I was kind of screwed because I was up all night with the new baby and my toddler still woke up ready to start the day at 7AM.</p> <p>I think @Adira: definitely has a point on the fact that this depends on your work status. If my toddler was in daycare while I was at home taking care of the new baby it would have been much easier than it was as a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098602 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:12:22 +0000 Pancakes 2098602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: LO1 is in preschool 3 mornings a week although it's been hard this semester with the weather and school closings. I'm only taking one class and kind of struggling to keep up. If I get accepted to my masters program, I think I will have to hire a mother's helper or something. My classes are distance learning so at least I have that flexibility.</p> <p>It's such a crapshoot though. For my sister I think it was much easier to go from 1-2 because her second was very laid back and a good sleeper. I guess LO1 was my easy baby... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098590 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 20:50:02 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2098590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 to 2 was way easier than 0 to 1. with DD1, i had no idea what i was doing and was completely unprepared for what it was going to be like. so that was miserable, even though DD1 was a very easy baby. with DD2, i know what i'm doing, i am not as anxious about everything, she is an easy baby as well and DD1 has adjusted really well to her new baby sister. it is still early days (DD2 is 7 weeks), but i have found it tremendously easier this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098585 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 20:39:54 +0000 Kemma 2098585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I've been told that looking after three or more is just a case of blocking the exits!</p> <p>One of my best girlfriends had her third child last year and reckons that she's never felt more in control of her life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098573 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 20:30:26 +0000 pastemoo 2098573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: This is exactly what I am afraid of. I'm sorry. How do you do school with no baby sitters? That would be way too hard for me. I'm in school now and send my son to preschool so I can go to class. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098543 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:58:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2098543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The second was easy and much less stressful (sit and enjoy versus stress about details). But lo1 was in daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098538 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:53:14 +0000 Pancakes 2098538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: my girls are 3.5 years apart and the transition from 1-2 has been much harder. For one, LO 2's sleep isn't very good and it seems that LO 1 has been waking up once a night as well so I feel like a permanent zombie. I used to bring LO 1 in bed with me in the morning and nurse her and doze off but I can't really do that now because LO 1 wakes up and comes in our room and will wake the baby. There are days like today where LO1 fell down the stairs while I was putting the baby down (she's fine), but the baby was woken up bc I had to put her in the crib so fast, and she wouldn't go back down so she was a crabby mess this evening. Then LO1 shut her fingers in the drawer while I was putting her sister to bed tonight and came in crying and woke baby up.</p> <p>Also, I'm in school and between the 2 of them it feels so difficult to find time to work. If I had better sleepers or if I weren't in school with no additional child care, I might feel differently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098527 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:44:38 +0000 pastemoo 2098527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tysonja: Oh, good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098523 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:42:57 +0000 tysonja 2098523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got 2, 16 months apart, with one more on the way. for me, 1-2 was easier in general. I would say physically about the same tiredness/busyness, but emotionally and mentally considerably easier. </p> <p>I truly hope that the 2-3 transition is as smooth as people make it out to be!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098514 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:30:09 +0000 pastemoo 2098514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wow, a lot of variety! So how easy/difficult your babies are and how much help was available mattered more? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098438 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 17:35:00 +0000 SweetiePie 2098438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, I only have one, but my sister has three and told me that 0 to 1 was hard, but 1 to 2 was hardest for her. 2 to 3 was easiest so far. She doesn't want more, but I asked if she could imagine having 4. In her words: once you have 3, you start to think "eh, what's another". :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098337 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 16:05:43 +0000 Adira 2098337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I think one of the reasons I found going from 1-2 easier is because I WOH and Xander's in daycare full-time. Even during my maternity leave, he continued to go to daycare and he was only home if my husband was also home, so we could tag-team the two of them. I STILL haven't been alone with both boys and I'm scared to do it! So I think if I was a SAHM, I'd have a different opinion about this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098290 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:48:42 +0000 matador84 2098290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0 to 1 was a doozy for me. 1 to 2 has been a cakewalk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098282 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:42:57 +0000 bhbee 2098282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 was an easy baby, I was totally ready and that transition was pretty easy. Had its moments but overall I loved it.<br /> #2 is a needier baby which is tricky with #1 also having needs, but totally different ones. It was fine until I was staying home alone with two, then it started to be busy/stressful with a lot of somebody crying. But it's getting better as a loose sleep schedule sets in for the baby. I love having two but it's also the first time I would get a chance to run an errand by myself and wonder if I had to go back! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098262 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:36:44 +0000 meredithNYC 2098262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have not had #2 yet - am pregnant and due in April, though. I have no idea what is to come and I'm hoping for the best, but preparing for the worst. However, I can honestly say that I just feel so much more settled in general now, like for the most part I'm ready. And I don't know that I ever felt that way with LO #1 and her newborn days were a nightmare.</p> <p>I will say that I'm very, very happy to be having a spring baby (I wouldn't even TTC during months that would result in a winter baby). I get seasonal depression and I have a spirited toddler. Knowing that we can get out a lot earlier AND that my 3 year old will go to preschool next year for 5 mornings a week makes me feel more sane. But... best laid plans and all that. We shall see how it goes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098257 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:33:01 +0000 JCCovi 2098257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found 0-1 pretty easy and I've found 1-2 a lot harder. I think some of it may have to do with #2 being a winter baby and me not being able to get out as much. With #1 I thrived on getting out and showing her off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2098248 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:29:25 +0000 winniebee 2098248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1-2 has been really hard. I don't have much help and feel like I had a lot of help and support the first time around. And I hear a spirited toddler and the second baby was a horrendous sleeper until 8 weeks and only went down to. 2 wakings around 11 weeks. There is just no time for anything with 2. With 1 there is at least some down time. </p>