https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 01:30:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356649 Sat, 14 Nov 2015 20:35:58 +0000 Dagny 2356649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh yes! My 3 mo is very difficult and my 2.5 yo is so emotionally needy the past couple months. I keep reminding myself that baby will only be a baby for a short time and it's rough, but it doesn't last that long. But....I just want to sleep!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356550 Sat, 14 Nov 2015 18:22:55 +0000 Mrs. D 2356550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is what I worry about when we have a second. She won't go to bed without me by her side, but when we have a newborn, that won't always be possible, and with daddys job, he won't be home most nights to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356228 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 23:53:34 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2356228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Golden: I only do mornings on my own so far and I get frustrated too! It's tough, hang in there. I just keep telling myself in the tough moments that lo1 became three in the blink of an eye and before I know it they'll go from newborn and three to three and six. It helps but I roll snap at the three year old because she can be SO defiant and talk back and argue and constantly negotiate EVERYTHING. </p> <p>I also think that not the snapping but the not having constant attention is in the long run going to be a good thing for the older kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356147 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 20:59:04 +0000 plantains 2356147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am there with you.the baby is 6 weeks old and my 3 year old is so needy now. Constantly wanting cuddles right when I have to mute him and showing up in our bedroom at 2am crying because she specifically wants me and waking the baby in the process. Awful. It will get better though, it has too!!! I can't believe I ever thought a newborn was tough, they are so much easier than toddlers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356123 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 20:05:56 +0000 MrsH 2356123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Golden: word. Mine are 18 months apart and I feel awful that DD1 just doesn't understand :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356121 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 20:04:07 +0000 Golden 2356121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@OhCaptain: I would consider dropping nap but she needs them, she still will sleep 2 hours at nap and moving bedtime any earlier won't work with our schedule. If I could I'd make bedtime 4:30 :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356117 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 19:59:32 +0000 Golden 2356117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the kind words, and to know I'm not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356052 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 18:09:42 +0000 jetsa 2356052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Rockies11: give it some time at 6 months and 26 months things are pretty great and I feel like I'm mastering things again. It happened with J too it took me a little while to feel on top of it so while I didn't expect it this time, I think everything just takes time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356028 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 17:42:39 +0000 travelgirl1 2356028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Golden: hugs mama. I constantly feel like my kids are short changed. My toddler doesn't get attention because of the baby, and vice versa.<br /> Drink all the coffee, try go easy on yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2356004 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 17:20:58 +0000 OhCaptain 2356004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This exact scenario is the reason i let my three year old quit napping. It only ended in tears and yelling. We moved bedtime up and life is much easier (well, at least on the map time front. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355964 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:48:53 +0000 erinpye 2355964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The transition to 2 was so much harder for me than 0-1. I promise, it will get better and easier. Be kind to yourself, mama. Your babies, and you, will be just fine. For now, do whatever you need to, to make it work. Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355961 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:41:57 +0000 MamaG 2355961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read something on here once that was eye opening. I can't say it worked for me all the time but it's something to consider. Someone suggested tending to your older first and letting the baby cry/fuss for a minute. The minute it takes to get your older settled with a snack or activity will be worth it when they stay patient while you are with baby. And the older is used to having a quick response from you while the baby doesn't have any pretense. </p> <p>I know it's hard to let your baby cry and I'm not sure this would have helped in this specific situation, but give it some thought.</p> <p>And yes, two is hard. But it will be worth it one day when they busily entertain themselves and plot their revenge against the parents ;) I've been there (am still there as my little is turning one and the four year old is still jealous). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355950 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:30:32 +0000 Kemma 2355950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give yourself grace and let it go, Mama. Balancing two is tough and will get worse before it gets better but once you find the balance you'll be awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355927 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:14:19 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2355927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it's hard, but please let go of the guilt. Honestly, this will happen more than you think it should but remember, it's an adjustment for everyone. Your 3 year old needs to understand that (at this time), the baby is going to need you a little more. The newborn will learn to wait a little, and you will learn to do it all. </p> <p>&lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355921 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:09:43 +0000 regberadaisy 2355921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awwww. I have been there many, many times. Believe it or not, I have lost my cool then apologized to my 3.5 year old later. I feel so bad afterwards. Sometimes when I know I'm getting to the point where I want to scream, I leave the room. </p> <p>She's not going to grow up to hate you. Promise. And neither is your son. :heart: </p> <p>Both my girls still have mommy preference. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355916 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:07:38 +0000 meredithNYC 2355916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is extremely hard. So many people say that the 1 to 2 transition is easy, but I really did not find that to be the case at all. It does, however, get easier - or I think you just get used to the chaos? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355902 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 16:02:27 +0000 hilsy85 2355902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO MUCH YES. 2 is so hard, and not because the newborn is hard, but because the toddler is so needy!!! I want to rip my hair out multiple times a day. You are not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355894 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:58:23 +0000 Golden 2355894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. She's up now and we're having cuddles. I really hope she doesn't remember these episodes. It's a short time while the baby is so needy, I just hope there aren't lasting effects where she doesn't feel like I'm there for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355883 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:49:36 +0000 Ash 2355883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Going from 1 to 2 was (and still is) so hard. Much harder than going from 0 to 1. I struggle with the attention thing daily. You're doing everything right - give yourself a break. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355870 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:42:44 +0000 Mamasig 2355870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard in the beginning but it gets better! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355855 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:29:51 +0000 Freckles 2355855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through the same when both were at home with me during the summer. It's so hard and plus you are tired all the time!! </p> <p>I also apologize quickly and give her a hug, and try to explain briefly why I'm upset. It won't be this way forever and you'll find your groove eventually. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355851 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:24:02 +0000 Greentea 2355851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just apologize/explain and don't beat yourself up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355849 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:23:22 +0000 Rockies11 2355849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, it's hard. I had such a hard time and felt like a failure every day. It gets better and now it's so good most of the time. But it is so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355846 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:21:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 2355846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that sounds really rough. I have had quite a lot of moments like that with my 2 year old and I'm still pregnant with baby sister. I'm trying to at least apologize when I lose my temper. And I tell myself she won't remember those rare moments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transitioning-to-2-is-hard#post-2355837 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:17:20 +0000 Golden 2355837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel so bad. When my daughter was born she was the center of my universe. Now I have a newborn and it is soooo hard raising him with as much love and attention while still being totally present for her. I seriously lost it today when he was screaming to be breastfed and she was supposed to be having independent quiet time. I literally watched her work herself into a tantrum to compete with his hunger cries and I just yelled "stop it!", which set her off for reals. I tried to explain he needed mommy and I need her to be a good big sister, but finally just left the room to feed my poor newborn. My DD eventually quieted down so I got to BF for 10 minutes before calling down that she wanted quiet time to be over. I lugged the semi-asleep and content newborn up to her room so we can lay in bed for her so she'll nap, waking him completely in the process. Now I'm Bfing in her bed with her hugging my arm and me sternly telling her to close her eyes and take a nap. She finally fell asleep. He fell asleep. I had a coffee. But I feel soo guilty about being so stern with her. She's only 3. I'm afraid she's going to hate me and I'm going to be a mean mommy. </p>