https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 22:34:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2516320 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:45:45 +0000 Bluebonnet 2516320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know someone in a similar situation (with school aged children). They have a full time (live out) nanny and pay well above market rate because her schedule changes weekly and they sometimes need her to stay overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2516299 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 15:22:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2516299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I totally get it. My dad SAH and my mom had a demanding job that required frequent travel. In fact she worked out of the state for a year and half instead of relocating the family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2516146 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 13:46:04 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2516146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two friends who were pilots and they had similar schedules. TBH, one became a SAHP. They had another before their first was two, probably because of this issue I'd imagine. Now they are done with kids, and their oldest is 2.5, so they are changing it up. The dad recently took a 9 to 5 as a recruiter so he only travels for work once or twice a month. The mom now flies at night twice a week. And the kids do a morning out program 3 days a week. So basically mom is there during the day and does morning out so she can do appointment/groceries/etc. Dad is there at night/early morning while mom flies. Dad is gone during the day but his job is local so he can do the school drop off. It is amazing to me but they make it work. Not implying that one of you should become a SAHP but I will say, that's one of the reasons people become SAHPs and also try to space their kids closer together.</p> <p>ETA: mom does two trips a week, but I'd guess they take longer than one night. So more like two nights and two mornings a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2516133 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 13:40:18 +0000 looch 2516133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd get a live in nanny or an au pair if I didn't have access to reliable grandparent care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515975 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 11:58:31 +0000 lamariniere 2515975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: since you are open to a live-in situation, maybe you should look into an au pair? I think it's somewhat cheaper than a traditional nanny and maybe your LO could pick up another language? We have friends who are moving back to the US in a few months and they are looking into getting an au pair for their toddler so he can keep up his 2nd language. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515780 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 09:41:18 +0000 hellobeeboston 2515780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was first pregnant I left the job I was in partially due to the travel, but also due to the LONG hours &amp; weekends... But that job required definitely 1 travel a year that was 4-5 weeks consistently on the road, and various other trips. </p> <p>My DH just left his job after our second was born after they tricked him into requiring more travel than he was led to believe would be happening. It was turning into 5 days away every 3 weeks and neither of us were OK with that, as our older son was really impacted missing his dad, I was super stressed with two kids (and a new baby) and knowing I would be back to work &amp; commuting, etc etc. I know many people make this kind of situation work, but it wasn't for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515721 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 09:06:36 +0000 BKCaribBaby 2515721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually left my last position in part because I was being pressured to travel more than I could. I was doing once per month 2-3 nights away and/ or sometimes long day trips where I would leave early in the morning and come back late at night so I could reduce my time away. LO was under 1 when I started this. At the time, DH was traveling a lot too including international trips. We have a nanny and that's what's worked best for us. In that situation you described, a nanny (with a strong consideration for a live-in) and/or really helpful and involved family is needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515713 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 09:04:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2515713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like a live-in would be the optimal solution. The increased travel job would come with a raise, which would be the only way I could see affording a nanny without it impacting other things we already do &amp; want to continue doing. I'll cross my fingers that I get the opportunity where I have to way that option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515653 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:30:30 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2515653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: He said he would, but I could tell he wasn't really a fan of the idea or the fact that I would still want DS to go to daycare while away. I get I would probably want to stay in my own home too instead of sleeping elsewhere.</p> <p>He keeps calling his mold spores up half the wall benign mold. Yeah-ok! I have had to decline several times an offer to stay at his home during the move transition. I really don't think he gets that his house isn't even safe for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515643 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:25:10 +0000 Mamaof2 2515643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would need a live in nanny for that much travel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515638 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:23:15 +0000 LBee 2515638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Mother's Day Out :happy: - the big thing is just finding a village. Have you thought about a nanny share? The MDO is just for his socialization and to give my parents a mid-day break those 2 days. I would be lying if I didn't say that we need something from someone (usually my parents or sibling) at least once a week.</p> <p>It is really nice to have the nanny because she's someone my son just LOVES (which as they get older and more anxious around strangers becomes a more relevant thing) and we know that he is safe / happy with her. We don't have to reinvent the wheel every time we need emergency childcare. We are also her only family (she's in school) and she can do her classes online.</p> <p>ETA: Both of our during the day travel is what you described. We are both at least a minimum of 1 hour from our son during the day in terms of distance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515617 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:09:20 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2515617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think at that point you need to look at a nanny that could also be available for those overnight trips that both of you are OOT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515614 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:08:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2515614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: what does MDO stand for? The other likely scenario for my work schedule is daily OOT travel, meaning a hour+ commute somewhere. In that case I would be able to do daycare drop off &amp; pick ups (many are 6:30 am-6:30 pm), but mid day pick ups I would need help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515613 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:07:12 +0000 babynumber1 2515613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Without a live in nanny or some serious grandma care it sounds impossible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515612 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:07:10 +0000 KayKay 2515612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you have family that is able/willing to provide the overnight care in those situations, you could do that w/ more "normal" care during the day (full-time nanny or daycare).</p> <p>If not, I'd probably try to find a live-in nanny/au pair. </p> <p>I gave up my full-time travel job when we had LO1 because I wasn't really comfortable with a live-in nanny (house too small, DH's weird schedules) and we had no family able/willing to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515610 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:06:29 +0000 lamariniere 2515610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yikes! I assume that means he will be unwilling to travel to your house for one-off care? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515608 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:05:23 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2515608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: this isn't quite us yet anyway. With this move that's definitely going to be DH's schedule and *may be* my new schedule too. </p> <p>@lamariniere: my dad will live about 20 miles from us, but he isn't able to provide round the clock childcare. He suggested for one off times when I need help the baby goes to his house. Umm no- he did a DIY repair mold repair job in his basement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515604 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 08:01:53 +0000 LBee 2515604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I both travel during the day (home at night) about 75% of the time overlapping (and at least one of us is out of town pretty much every day). Not exactly the same thing, obviously. We have a nanny 3 days a week, grandmacare, and he goes to MDO. We also have a HUGE village. It's still hard and I always feel like I am needing something from someone in regards to DS. Yesterday my son somehow showed up to MDO without a cup (mom of the year) - they called me, but I was traveling for work as was my husband. If my parents weren't around to "save the day," I'm not sure what I would have done. The nanny also gives us a lot of flexibility because we don't have to worry about being called to come get him, etc. You also have to think about doctor's appointments and illnesses. Not only is it hard logistically, but it's hard on my heart to often miss things. I missed my son's first day of MDO, I can never go to his Muffins with Moms stuff, and my mom took him to his 18 mo appointment. It's tough. Feel free to wall me with any questions!</p> <p>I think in your scenario it sounds like getting a trusted caregiver (probably a live-in) is a must! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515602 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 07:58:16 +0000 Freckles 2515602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find a nanny (or grandparent care) works best in those situations. Friends with travel heavy schedules have nannies or moms to watch the kids when they are gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515600 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 07:54:25 +0000 lamariniere 2515600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not me, but friends of ours both the mother and father travel often for work, the woman about once every 4-6 weeks for a week at a time, the man maybe every 2-3 weeks for 4-5 days but sometimes a week or more. They had a full time live in nanny (who was also a relative) until their son was almost 5. Now, they have a live-out nanny that does daycare pickup and stays over if they both happen to be out of town. It's pretty rare that they are both gone at the same time but occasionally they overlap by a day or so.</p> <p>ETA: they have no family at all nearby (other than the nanny). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515599 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 07:53:59 +0000 jetsa 2515599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Well my situation is not exactly like yours but my husband travels a lot and really it has only worked so far for us because I have flexibility. We just hired a nanny and she has made my job a lot easier, I can work and take on extra responsibilities and know my kids are fine. I would think in your situation, a live-in caregiver would be required and ideal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-heavy-jobs-amp-caring-for-los#post-2515595 Tue, 05 Apr 2016 07:51:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2515595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do/would you and your SO cope if both of your jobs require significant travel? What kind of childcare arrangement does/ would work?</p> <p>Significant travel: 75% of the year both of you were OOT for 3-4 nights in a row. Some (many) weeks both of you would be on business trips. </p>