https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 18:34:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801652 Wed, 22 May 2013 16:40:10 +0000 78h2o 801652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@andrea86: I don't know what else you can do. If the baby is a week or two late, that really wouldn't be feasible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801640 Wed, 22 May 2013 16:35:09 +0000 andrea86 801640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've decided I'm going to call my brother and explain that there is a very real possibility that I wont be able to make it on the new date. Chances of this baby being late are pretty high. With my first I was induced 1 week late and with the twins I was induced at 38 weeks (I wasnt dialated or anything at that point). I hate to miss his big day (we are super close) but I just dont see how its even possible to work out. I feel bad because I don't think he understands what its like to have a newborn and I think he is getting pressure from the rest of our siblings and my parents because they want to go on their vacation. However, ultimately I have to put my baby and my recovery first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801256 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:33:46 +0000 avivoca 801256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's no way I would go. I would send a nice gift, but I imagine a trip like that would be difficult 1-3 weeks pp with a newborn. I'm sorry the date was changed, it seems kind of rude to change it for a family trip, knowing that other family members weren't invited/not able to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801224 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:25:56 +0000 78h2o 801224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think skipping it would be totally justified, but if you and your brother are close, maybe you could play it by ear and try to go. Could you maybe fly, just you and the baby, and leave the kids home with your DH (depending when the baby is born)? </p> <p>I guess there is the germ factor to consider... I flew cross country (2 flights) by myself with my LO when she she was 7 or 8 weeks and she did great. She was still sleeping a lot at that age. Maybe you could get a ticket on Southwest - if you cancel it, you don't get a refund, but you get the entire amount back as a credit for future use. If LO is born 1-2 weeks early, maybe you'd be comfortable flying with LO 4-5 weeks old? If you have to drive, I don't know. I still wasn't that comfortable sitting for long periods of time at 3-4 weeks. How did you feel after the births of your other children? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801217 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:23:50 +0000 edelweiss 801217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would skip it also. something similar happened to my friend--her brother in law planned his wedding for 3 weeks after her c-section date for twins. there was no way she could go. they decided her husband should go even though her mom told her it was a bad idea, and it did indeed turn out to be a bad idea. it was a very, very rough weekend for my friend. i'm sure if they had to do it again, both of them would stay home and not regret a damn thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801205 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:17:27 +0000 sslm 801205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way would I be going! My LO came 12 days late so keep in mind your baby could be only a week old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801190 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:12:49 +0000 daniellemybelle 801190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Of course they want you there, and you want to go too, but it doesn't seem like it is going to work. Traveling that far with a 3 week old, right after giving birth, not to mention your other kids - it's just too much! </p> <p>Personally, it would make me really sad if my brother planned his wedding right after my due date, if they already knew when the baby was due, but maybe they just don't understand how hard this will be for you. Have you leveled with him? I know if it were my brother, he would rather change his wedding date for me to be there once he understood it would be impossible for me to go otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801175 Wed, 22 May 2013 14:06:57 +0000 lomom 801175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Skip it and don't feel bad. I had an easy recovery and a very easy baby but I wouldn't want to make a trip like that a few weeks after giving birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801142 Wed, 22 May 2013 13:57:49 +0000 Crisark 801142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I'd skip it.<br /> To be honest, your parents asked for it to be moved up knowing it would be bad for you on top of planning a family trip that you can't attend, sounds like your needs were not high on their priority list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-801094 Wed, 22 May 2013 13:48:05 +0000 birdofafeather 801094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah, sounds like a huge hassle. you never know how you're going to feel and doing it alone with older kids sounds crazy difficult, even for your brother's wedding. why would they plan it so close to your due date if they wanted everyone there?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800864 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:47:05 +0000 Bookish 800864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@andrea86: Oh heck no. If that's the case, then definitely don't worry yourself about it. They shouldn't be pressing you to come after you specified a weekend that *would* work and then they went with a weekend that was better for someone who isn't dealing with a newborn :p Not cool!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800857 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:44:11 +0000 andrea86 800857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thats kind of what I think too! I just dont want to miss the wedding and regret it later. Its also irritating because originally (after talking with me) my brother and his fiance planned on the next weekend, which is labor day weekend. I told them I could more than likely make that work because DH has Friday to Monday off. That way either I could fly with just the baby or if we did the drive we could make more stops and take our time. Well my Mom asked them to change it to a week earlier so that they (my parents, 3 brothers, and their wives) could go on a "family trip" before brother #2 goes back to college. So lets just say, I'm a little bitter about having my family be the only one not included in that as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800855 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:43:36 +0000 googly-eyes 800855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would skip it. You'll be recovering, and who knows what the new lo will be like, even if your older ones are more predictable... Way too much stress imo.</p> <p>If you really want to go, I'd say fly. I wouldn't have even been comfortable driving for ten hours at that point...but then again I had a slow recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800847 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:41:29 +0000 MamaMoose 800847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would skip it. If they really wanted everyone there they would have tried a little harder to accommodate your situation. I would never take a baby that little on a plane... And it's not fair to have your kids miss the first few days of school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800844 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:40:52 +0000 Bookish 800844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, no way. Like PP's have said, what if LO's late?? I can't imagine I would want to go dress up and deal with a newborn (+ your other LOs!) at a family function that soon after giving birth.. And 10 hours away?! Fuhgeddaboudit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800838 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:38:43 +0000 illumina 800838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote skip or a tentative yes depending on when LO arrives and how you're feeling. Like @Foodnerd81: says, what if LO is late? I'd probably not even feel like going after they have obviously been so inconsiderate in not thinking of your situation!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800816 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:34:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 800816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why would they plan a wedding that they want everyone to come to knowing that your baby is due three weeks before? What if the baby is late? That sounds like way, way too much hassle. If they really wanted everyone there, it seems like they should have consulted you. </p> <p>FWIW, my family is having an anniversary party for my parents 4 weeks after my baby is due, 4 hours away, and I have not even considered going, nor has anyone suggested that I even try. It's my first, so I'm guessing I'll be more overwhelmed with the newborn part than you will be, but you will also have other kids to take care of! I wouldn't do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800814 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:33:05 +0000 knittylady 800814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And what if you go past the due date! I think it adds too much stress that you don't need. They knew the due date when they planned it, I would give apologies but explain that it would be really hard to impossible....</p> <p>hope that's not mean! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/travel-with-a-newborn#post-800792 Wed, 22 May 2013 12:27:44 +0000 andrea86 800792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just found out that my brother and his fiance are planning their wedding for 3 weeks after my baby is due. The location is 10 hours away from where we live. They keep telling me that they want everyone to be there for family pictures and stuff but I just dont know how to work it out. My kids start school 3 days prior to the wedding, so I dont really want to leave early and have them miss the first few days. My husband is in a very rigorous school program and is unable to go. In fact he doesnt even get time off when the baby is born. </p> <p>My mom did offer to fly here and drive back with me and the kids, but she would need to be back at least a week before the wedding. That would put the baby at 2 weeks (tops). </p>