https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 01 Nov 2026 16:28:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149964 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 23:47:46 +0000 lemondrop 1149964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use moderation. I need a daily treat for myself, sometimes I share with him, sometimes not. He has to eat the healthier stuff before he gets offered the fun stuff. I use it in animal training terms- if you do it every day, it isn't enrichment, it becomes habit. </p> <p>He gets more when we are visiting family, I let the grandmas spoil him, I don't fight it- to me it's a grandma's job to spoil and give treats. If he saw them every day or most days, we would have limits, but since he doesn't, I don't worry about it.</p> <p>As for age- we've always shared what we are eating with him since he started solids. He got a taste of frosting at 5ish months, a taste of ice cream or a paleta (popcicle) when we get it (monthly if even that, my husband is diabetic, so he has the occasional splurge night and we really try to make the most of it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149886 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 21:35:09 +0000 skibobrown 1149886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually give some sort of dessert after dinner -- either fruit, a couple of animal crackers, or another baked good that we have sitting around. It's only a small amount though, and it is often fruit instead of cookies. I have noticed though that due to daycare, plus my husband's love for animal crackers, my 18-mo old now knows how to say "cookie". She says "coo coo", and then signs more and says "please". Sigh. It's hard not to give into that request. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149882 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 21:32:21 +0000 Penny Lane 1149882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I like this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149869 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 21:21:44 +0000 sarac 1149869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: Yeah, seriously. We don't even talk about 'treats' or good food versus bad food. I'll talk about food that will make her faster and stronger, but all in positive terms. Foods are either neutral or good in my house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149832 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:59:00 +0000 photojane 1149832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, Sadie's only 8 months, so no! But, when she's a little older, we'll definitely do treats. I don't see anything wrong with treats in moderation. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149830 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:56:54 +0000 Penny Lane 1149830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO is only 14 months, and hasn't really had any treats (with the exception of his 1st birthday cupcake)</p> <p>I don't plan on treats being a basic necessity, or expectation, but like PP have said I don't want to forbid them, and make them seem more exciting than they are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149818 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:52:17 +0000 autumnlove 1149818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: oh, sounds like my childhood! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149816 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:52:15 +0000 luckypenny 1149816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: yup! Us too.</p> <p>I want her to have a healthy relationship with food. I grew up in a house with a lot if negative self talk about our bodies and how they "shouldn't have eaten that" or "now I feel so fat". I want her to know its ok to have everything in the right portions and with moderation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149765 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:33:39 +0000 sarac 1149765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Yes, exactly this. We don't do 'forbidden foods'. We just model moderation in everything, even sugary dessert stuff. So, if we go out to dinner and we all get soft serve for dessert, she gets a tiny toddler sized version. If I make cookies, she gets a small one. If I'm eating candy, she gets a piece.</p> <p>This works because none of us eat these things especially often. We don't keep many sweet things in the house, and when we do eat them, we eat them in small amounts. If she's awake, she gets to share a proportional amount. I don't want to fetishize any foods for just that reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149743 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:24:58 +0000 chopsuey 1149743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to Ikea yesterday and DD and I each got an ice cream cone :) She doesn't get treats often, but enjoys them when she does! She's 2.5! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149730 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 20:19:50 +0000 stargal 1149730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if im nibbling on something like a cookie and he's around and comes up to me and wants a little piece, I give it to him. no harm in my book. he doesn't get a lot and really doesn't seem to know the difference between sweets and healthy food at 15 months. all in moderation.<br /> he doesn't get juice though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149171 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 13:44:27 +0000 jmarionsmith 1149171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yup! i like letting my lo (13 months) explore all different tastes! but with that said, he doesn't get his own serving. if there are cupcakes at a party he can have a few bites, not whole thing. if i have a brownie, he gets a corner off of it. everything in moderation. </p> <p>also, i like for only dh and i to give him treats, that way we can control what and how much he eats.</p> <p>and like @sorrycharlie: said i don't want him to go crazy on sweets and junk food when mom and dad aren't around because he's never allowed it at home (though we're a few years away from that ;) ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149152 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 13:36:44 +0000 sorrycharlie 1149152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend growing up - and her parents made a HUGE huge huge deal about only having healthy foods in the house. when she came to my house, she binged on junk food and then once we could all drive in high school, it continued to include fast food, lol. so yeah....we don't make cookies/candy etc staples, but once in awhile she can have a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149122 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 13:21:29 +0000 lamariniere 1149122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is almost 3 and he gets treats several times per week. I feel like we eat very healthy home cooked meals 90% if the time and I don't want anything to be off limits or create a bad relationship with food. I think moderation is key, saying, yes you can have a treat, but you can only have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1149116 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 13:18:03 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1149116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She definitely knows what a treat is and yes, she gets them.</p> <p>Not often since we aren't' big sweets people, but she will get an Honest Kids juice here and there, bites of ice cream or froyo, bite of a donut, etc. The only thing I say NO WAY to are chocolate and caffeine, for obvious reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148968 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 12:18:41 +0000 pinkcupcake 1148968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: same w/ us. We eat ice cream and cookies occasionally and when we do, we always share bites with her. I don't want to make a big deal out of forbidden foods. Everything in moderation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148964 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 12:17:00 +0000 Ree723 1148964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't go out if my way to give my almost 16 month old treats, but I don't avoid them like the plague either. I firmly believe in everything in moderation and not making foods 'forbidden'. She has a small cup of diluted Nudie juice every morning (made solely from fresh fruit, no additives, no preservatives, no added sugar etc). When I have a morning pastry a couple of mornings per week (I bake a lot), I will give her bites of my cinnamon roll or blueberry muffin. When I bake oatmeal raisin cookies, she sometimes gets bites of those too. </p> <p>To be honest, she doesn't like or want a lot of sweets. She won't try ice cream, most cookies, or any pastries other than my cinnamon rolls and blueberry muffins. She'll ask for a bite, I'll break off a piece for her, she pokes it, maybe puts it to her mouth and then puts it down and doesn't want it. I'm ok with that.</p> <p>ETA re the juice: I don't really consider it a treat, especially as she eats loads of healthy foods (including lots of real fruit) the rest of the day and drinks loads of water. Ideally, she'd drink a cup of milk first thing in the morning, but that's still a work in progress, so for now, it's a little hit of vitamin C when she wakes up. I only included it above since it seems so many people look at it as a huge treat that should be avoided at all costs, whereas I honestly don't really feel that way. LO is on the skinny side though, I'd maybe feel differently if she weren't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148951 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 12:08:03 +0000 Bao 1148951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty laid back about this. She will get a bite here or there of something if we are eating it. I think all in moderation is what's important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148902 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:45:42 +0000 HLK208 1148902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not regularly but she's had froyo and a few times a week she'll have honest juice (not very sweet). She's 16 months.</p> <p>B seems to have treats more often especially since he's in preschool and some parents bring cupcakes and juice for their child's snack day (bleh). My parents always seem to give him a treat when he's with them too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148900 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:43:49 +0000 mamimami 1148900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should mention my newly minted 1 year old has no idea what a treat is and when I tried to give her some of her birthday cake over the weekend, she wanted nothing to do with it! I'm sure that won't last! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148899 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:42:52 +0000 mamimami 1148899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, my almost 3 year old gets treats all the time, almost daily if not daily, and he definitely knows what they are. I wish I could echo what some of the other ladies have said, but sweets are part of our lives! If I want to have dessert every night, I don't feel like I can keep my son from doing so as well -- only if he has eaten well, of course! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148890 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:38:09 +0000 HabesBabe 1148890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She had one little bite of chocolate cake this weekend (we went to two birthday parties!) with no frosting... she seemed to like it, but wasn't asking for more, so that one bite was it (she's 15 months). </p> <p>We probably give her a bite of cake once a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148881 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:31:41 +0000 junebugmama 1148881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We love dessert here! Although I've never given him his own dish of ice cream or piece of cake, we share bites with him. We don't do any juice drinks though. </p> <p>He's also had 2 dum dum lollipops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148868 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:27:20 +0000 autumnlove 1148868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not often. We eat treats after she is asleep. </p> <p>We let her eat a bite of cake or other sweets when we go to parties and special events....usually every few months but we went to 3 parties last month! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148865 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:26:35 +0000 looch 1148865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is almost 3, he has eaten cake at birthday parties and occasionally he will have a few bites of a chocolate muffin. He won't eat ice cream or popsicles, although, I would be okay with ones made from fruit puree and yogurt.</p> <p>I don't want to make anything off limits to him, honestly, because I had a bad relationship with things that were forbidden. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148859 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:25:42 +0000 regberadaisy 1148859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She (17.5 m) occasionally gets really watered down 100% juice. She had homemade ice cream once. </p> <p>I found out last week when ILs took her grocery shopping the ladies at the bakery counter gave her a cookie. Sigh. :(</p> <p>But no, generally speaking she does not get treats from us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148853 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:23:17 +0000 MamaMoose 1148853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. She's only ten months though... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/treats#post-1148842 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 11:21:29 +0000 mediagirl 1148842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your lo get "treats?" How old are they? How often do they get them?</p> <p>(To me, treats are ice cream, birthday cake, dessert, juices, popsicles, cookies. Anything that would be considered a dessert or something special, normally something sweet.)</p> <p>I firmly believe M doesn't need "treats" until she is old enough to know what they are, why they are treats and why they are a special thing. She has had ice cream once and that was only because we were all out together getting it. The only other time she has gotten treats has been at daycare, which really bugs me.</p> <p>I look forward to allowing her to have them when she knows what they are and why they're special </p>