https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 28 Jun 2026 21:51:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trouble-with-specific-classmate#post-2845905 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:59:34 +0000 looch 2845905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was my son in kindergarten. He and this one other boy just could not get along, they had to be separated because they just created situations where they baited each other.</p> <p>A lot of it is maturity and she will eventually learn how to actively avoid, but it's tempting at this age to engage. My solution was actually to get them together in non school activities, so they could see that they could manage to get along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trouble-with-specific-classmate#post-2845904 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:58:31 +0000 psw27 2845904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS is also very spirited, active, etc. and he has problems with another little girl who is similar. They went through a rough month or so, but now they are actually getting along. </p> <p>I say exactly what you said - there will always be people you like more than others but you have to be nice to everyone. I also tell him to choose to play with other friends and that if he cannot use his kind words or calm body towards O (other kid) then he can't play with or near her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trouble-with-specific-classmate#post-2845900 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:55:51 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2845900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always just told my daughter that she doesn't have to like everyone, and not everyone has to like her, but being rude is not acceptable. When talking about people she doesn't like, I focus on the action/s that bother her rather than not liking the person, so the door is open to changing her mind.</p> <p>I also chalk some of kid talk up to them being kids. They don't always hear things the same way we hear them as adults, so I try not to project my emotional reaction on my kids and just read/ask what their response is. </p> <p>Lastly I would encourage finding her voice and even practicing what to do when L says/does the things that spark these interactions (when it's him starting it.) This sounds like a tough one but it sounds like this teacher has things under control and everyone is working together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trouble-with-specific-classmate#post-2845892 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:48:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 2845892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 5 year old started a transitional kindergarten class this year. She’s always been a spirited child, at home and increasingly at school. This year, apparently she is really having trouble with one particular boy, L. There have been hitting and pushing incidents (from both of them) and verbal fights. I know the teacher is on top of it and aware that these two kids tend to butt heads and she does her best to redirect before it gets to that point, and she is working with me and with L’s parents on behavior issues (separately). I also have seen this kid at a party and he’s rambunctious, but I don’t think he’s actually mean. So, the situation kind of sucks but I think we are all dealing with it as well as we can. </p> <p>My question is more about her attitude towards this kid. I had told her if she has a problem with L, just play with someone else, no problem. But now she’s saying she doesn’t like L, she hates L. I don’t quite know how to explain that there will always be people you like more than others but you have to be nice to everyone, or how to encourage her to just not be too close to this kid without her turning it into excluding this kid. Advice on how to deal with this kind of situation? </p>