https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 18:00:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1067043 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:35:12 +0000 Vegmama 1067043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I miscarried naturally, we tried again right away. It took 3 months of charting &amp; actively trying to get our next BFP, and I think that was a good amount of time to feel confident in my body again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1066545 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:08:35 +0000 milano14 1066545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started trying again after my 1st AF. It has always taken us 5+ months to become pregnant, so I didn't want to waste anymore time. It took us 6 months to become pregnant again and I think it was actually a good amount of time because I was able to emotionally heal. It's such a personal descision, but I'm not so sure I would have really been ok if I had gotten pregnant again right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1044863 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:55:43 +0000 runsyellowlites 1044863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: Yes I was.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: No worries. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1044858 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:52:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1044858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I did see the news. Sorry I didn't comment. I've been pretty hectic and didn't have time to sit down and really process before responding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1044607 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 15:25:34 +0000 swurlygurl 1044607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said right away, but I had a really early miscarriage (5 weeks). I don't know what I would do with a later miscarriage :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1044591 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 15:19:04 +0000 lovehoneybee 1044591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, we were still trying for #1, and it already been 10 months. I was furious and devastated that I had finally gotten pregnant and then lost it. I was desperate to try again as soon as possible. For me, trying again right away was what I needed to help me heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1044582 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 15:14:28 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1044582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to start trying as soon as my doctor says I can. I know I won't be able to wait too long.</p> <p>@runsyellowlites: you were in the March due date group, right? I'm so sorry for your loss. I didn't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043670 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 10:01:04 +0000 runsyellowlites 1043670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I would still really like to tandem, but it's not as pertinent as it was (maybe b/c everything is still so fresh). I know nursing is safe in pregnancy &amp; won't cause a healthy pregnancy to miscarry, but it was pretty stressful in amidst of it all feeling like I had to "choose". I think P will probably nurse for a long while but after 2 I won't feel so pressed to her weaning (completely, partially, or for a period) if that arises again.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks for weighing in. I didn't know if you had seen the news. You're right about the needing time &amp; that having G &amp; P already probably affects my needs alot more/different than if I didn't. I think if we were trying for our first I'd be alot more apt to want to try again right away. I feel like it's been forever already but it hasn't even been a week yet. ugh. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043487 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 08:47:32 +0000 runsyellowlites 1043487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for sharing ladies. </p> <p>I was really only asking what some of you other ladies experienced in timeline &amp; was just speaking aloud for myself. I know there is no right/wrong answer, it's just nice to actually see that in others experiences &amp; not <i>just</i> be told that. :)</p> <p>I haven't given myself any set timeline &amp; for now I think that's best &amp; am okay without a "plan". :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043351 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 07:49:28 +0000 littlek 1043351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have nothing new to add but I agree with everything that @Mrs. Jacks says. I think it's an incredibly personal decision that you and your family need to make to determine what is best for all of you. There is nothing wrong with taking time to grieve or not taking time, you just need to do what is good for you guys. Hugs!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043316 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 07:34:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1043316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems to me that you are asking two different questions here: what did others do and what should you do. What other people did really doesn't come into play for your situation because it is rather different than anyone else's. You already have two children and one of them is really young.</p> <p>I think the right considerations are "when an I physically, emotionally, financially and logistically ready to add to our family?" "When will my children be ready?"</p> <p>Only you and your partner can decide these things, but I just wanted to make sure you realized that a lot of the perspective you are receiving is from folks who had a loss when they had either no or one child, and I think the considerations *may be * different. I don't have similar experience, so I can't say for sure. Give yourself time to be sad and think about things with a clear head. Sorry you have to think about these things at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043227 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 06:30:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1043227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: How do you feel now about tandem nursing? I believe you really wanted a baby soon so you could tandem nurse P and the next one. Is that still a goal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043217 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 06:03:48 +0000 imbali 1043217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we waited one month after a 20week loss (waiting on genetics results) and then started again straight away. We struggled to wait at all, we just wanted to be pregnant so desperately. Took another 5 months to conceive though. I really agree with pp, do whatever works for you and your family - there's no right or wrong and only you can know what will feel manageable for you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1043132 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 23:33:33 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1043132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you love doll! I agree with everyone else that you should follow your heart! Perhaps there is a happy medium and you can meet somewhere in the middle of now and later. Sending you a lot of baby dust when the time is right. In the meantime snuggle your sweeties to get you through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042625 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 18:27:29 +0000 Torchwood 1042625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor said to wait a couple months, but I *really* didn't want to. I did some research and everything seemed to suggest that the main reason to wait was emotional and to make dating a future pregnancy easier. Emotionally the number one thing I needed was to try again. I was just sitting around thinking about how I wasn't pregnant anymore, and needed to have something to DO to actively move on. AF took 5 weeks to show up (and obviously no luck that month). Used opk's and charted after that, and got pregnant that first cycle after AF returned.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042492 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 16:30:59 +0000 yin 1042492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until it felt right, and for me that took a full 9 months. One day I realized that the baby would have been born that month, and I felt ready to move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042417 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 14:44:05 +0000 singingbee 1042417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we were so far along, we had to wait at least 2 cycles and then we waited one more because we felt we needed a little more time. I would do what you feel comfortable with and what your medical person advises. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042385 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 14:05:26 +0000 Cherrybee 1042385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried right away and was pregnant 2 cycles later. I felt that it helped me to heal. You will know when you are ready, deep in your heart. Perhaps you could NTNP and just leave it in God's hands? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042336 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 13:13:21 +0000 stargal 1042336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Took one cycle off and then tried and got pregnant with p on my second month of trying. I desperately wanted to be pregnant again.<br /> In really sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042320 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:58:12 +0000 MamaMoose 1042320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took one cycle off after the mc and the tried again. But I had a very early loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042312 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:54:43 +0000 heffalump 1042312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tried again right away. The whole mc process was pretty long as I explained in a previous post (tried pills twice and ended up needing 2 d&amp;cs) so by the time I was allowed to try again I was ready. But I didn't have any baby/toddler to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042287 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:35:57 +0000 MCD919 1042287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a MC at a little over 9 weeks &amp; started trying before I even got my 1st period. I ended up conceiving again the 2nd cycle, but lost it at 5 weeks. My Dr suggested maybe my body wasn't quite ready for pregnancy yet.. Who knows? But I conceived this pregnancy 7 cycles later (very regular cycles).. Maybe I just needed more time. Good luck whatever you decide </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042279 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:19:23 +0000 lilteacherbee 1042279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I waited until after my first period (so about 40 days). I have really long cycles, so I knew it could take awhile, especially if the m/c made my cycles even more weird. It ended up taking from the beginning of September until the end of February to get pregnant again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042271 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:09:42 +0000 LovelyPlum 1042271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time, it was so early that we didn't wait. The second time, we waited a month. I agree, I don't think there is a right answer, provided you have time to heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042268 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:08:29 +0000 Dandelion 1042268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt so empty handed after losing s. I only waited 3 cycles to try again. But everyone is different and my dh left it totally up to me. So you just try again when you and your family feels ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042267 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:08:25 +0000 Ash 1042267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited 2 months per the recommendation of my midwife. I feared getting pregnant again and my body not being ready and losing another baby. But we both wanted to try asap... but waiting 2 months and the time it took to get pregnant again helped me heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042266 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:08:02 +0000 winniebee 1042266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a natural miscarriage around 6 weeks before T. My doctor told me we could start trying after I got my period again following the miscarriage. It took 6 weeks to get my period and we started trying again right after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042259 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:01:26 +0000 mrs. bird 1042259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on how far along ppl are. With a chemical pregnancy there's really no reason to wait that I heard, but further along it takes more of a toll on your body &amp; I've been told 3 months is usually the recommendation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042258 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 12:00:06 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1042258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to try again right away, but I knew that wasn't the right thing to do for my body.</p> <p>We agreed, based on personal reasons, to wait a few cycles. My RE suggested we wait until October, so we will be doing a medicated cycle then.</p> <p>I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to this question, though. It's a very personal decision, and perhaps one that might be best made with the guidance of your doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-again#post-1042250 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 11:52:25 +0000 runsyellowlites 1042250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long did you wait to try again?</p> <p>Part of me what's to wait until next year when I'm more okay with P possibly weaning, but another part of me just wants to be pregnant again.</p> <p>I know there really is no wrong answer &amp; that when I feel ready (given I allow myself to heal) is fine, but just wondering what the common consensus is. </p>