https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:01:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed/page/2#post-2923158 Fri, 02 Apr 2021 08:55:20 +0000 Mommy Finger 2923158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Aaaaaaaand ordered. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed/page/2#post-2923154 Thu, 01 Apr 2021 17:14:34 +0000 catgirl 2923154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: Definitely a fan :wink: . We've only really used it around the house - in part because we don't really go anywhere, but also because I'm still a little nervous to use it elsewhere. It was really easy to set up and we haven't had any connection issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed/page/2#post-2923149 Thu, 01 Apr 2021 13:05:50 +0000 Mommy Finger 2923149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Any review on that lovense lush 3? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed/page/2#post-2922622 Fri, 19 Feb 2021 11:19:28 +0000 808love 2922622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fire emoji </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922514 Sun, 14 Feb 2021 00:03:42 +0000 Chuckles 2922514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: @muffinsmuffins: thanks for the reviews and suggestions. I'm glad that your purchase doesn't need to be returned :wink:<br /> @bhbee: I'm sure your DH will love whatever it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922512 Sat, 13 Feb 2021 22:36:10 +0000 bhbee 2922512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, you ladies inspired me to buy something on Amazon (ha) for Valentine’s Day. Now I just need to get over being a bit embarrassed to break it out! (I did try it myself ... but man I feel so unsexy and awkward these days) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922426 Mon, 08 Feb 2021 18:05:01 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Ha! Now I want to buy ALL THE TOYS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922425 Mon, 08 Feb 2021 17:16:43 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2922425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: oooh fun! Great review and glad it’s not being sent back :silly:<br /> The Pom, also by Dame, is another great option....or so I’ve heard :wink: it’s pretty quiet and quite versatile. I really like their designs and look, really high quality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922424 Mon, 08 Feb 2021 16:55:19 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: Ok, so I feel like it's my duty to report back and give my review. :wink: </p> <p>I take issue with Dame's claim that Eva is "whisper" quiet. When you turn it on, it is definitely loudish. That being said, it was by no means so loud that you couldn't use it. And once it was "in use", it was much quieter. This isn't something that I think will be good for solo play. And it will definitely NOT be getting sent back....if you get my drift.... :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922384 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 18:00:59 +0000 catgirl 2922384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I’m pretty excited to try it! We have a small remote control bullet but the range isn’t great. So hoping this will be way better!<br /> Also, I really feel like scheduling can get a bad rap but I think it’s great. DH and I have struggled with the initiation thing as well - I sometimes feel awkward doing it and he feels bad that I’m so tired some nights. Scheduling takes that away. It can also up the anticipation as the day goes on. We tend to be flirtier throughout the day when we know it’s scheduled for later! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922382 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 17:54:18 +0000 Chuckles 2922382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Ooh, I have always wanted to try one of those, but I'm not sure DH would be up for it.<br /> I talked to DH last night and we're going to try scheduling sex for one night a week. I think it's going to be really good for us to take the initiation piece out of it. I always feel like I'm initiating, which makes me feel kind of crappy, and DH says that because I'm often tired and going to sleep early, he's never sure when it would be okay to initiate, or he doesn't even think about it until it's too late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922381 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 17:46:47 +0000 catgirl 2922381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: directly from lovense! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922380 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 17:45:12 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Where did you get this deal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922379 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 17:41:04 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: Crap! Well, it just came in the mail today so we'll see. I guess if it doesn't work out, i can return it for something else on the site. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922378 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 17:24:33 +0000 Chuckles 2922378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: just FYI, there was just a post on the other site about Dame products and several people commented that the Eva was so loud that they couldn't even use it. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922376 Fri, 05 Feb 2021 14:45:02 +0000 catgirl 2922376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The new toy that I ordered this week is the lovense lush 3. DH and I have been talking about it for awhile. It’s pretty expensive but it’s 40% off as part of a Valentine’s Day promotion, so I decided to go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922364 Thu, 04 Feb 2021 17:56:46 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2922364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: thanks for the info! Definitely looking into this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922363 Thu, 04 Feb 2021 17:55:39 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2922363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: it does put a damper on things! DH had his vasectomy 2 weeks ago, and I’m so excited to not worry about condoms or birth control ever again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922362 Thu, 04 Feb 2021 17:21:24 +0000 Chuckles 2922362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks to everyone who posted and shared here. I was just thinking, man this pandemic has to get better soon so that DH can get a vasectomy. Needing to use condoms really puts a damper on having sex outside the bedroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922332 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 11:25:53 +0000 josina 2922332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: I mean, we have a mini van so I guess there's plenty of room and always a stash of wet wipes lol.<br /> My oldest (6) was conceived in out truck - and that was the last time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922331 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 10:30:42 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: Thanks for the recommendation! Did a little research last night and made a purchase off the Dame site. Went with the Eva II, in case anyone is interested or has any personal experience. :)</p> <p>@josina: Ha! So the car thing is something I would be into and have suggested. I mean, why else did we get the big car with the fold down 3rd row???</p> <p>But yes, as others have mentioned, we're in a rut at times too. I feel the whole too much togetherness as I need my alone time and DH doesn't necessarily understand that. Also, I need to get out of my own head and have a hard time turning off the day. I wish DH would put more effort into making a date at home instead of just watching tv and then trying to get some but that doesn't seem to happen no matter how many time we talk about it. Yay romance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922330 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 09:06:17 +0000 josina 2922330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I would say we were definitely trying new things often when we were first together and even up until kids but definitely got more 'vanilla' since then. DH's toy/lingerie purchase was pretty random actually but great. </p> <p>I know DH would LOVE to 'park' somewhere and have car/truck sex (It's been FOREVER) but I will really have to talk myself into that one, lol, its so much easier in a bed!</p> <p>@Jessiemuller88: Amazon's got everything. :grin: Google 'personal massager'. I believe mine is the Luna brand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922329 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 08:34:30 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2922329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I highly suggest a toy purchase! DW and I fell into a rut with little kids and being so tired, it was just easier to not, plus two periods that don’t always sync up leaves us a small window where everyone feels sexy each month!. Last Valentine’s Day I bought a new toy as a surprise and bought a nice (lockable) storage case and organized the few items we had from a while ago so they were easily accessible and ready to go. We’ve had our ups and downs during the pandemic, but it definitely has added some variation and it’s going really well. It definitely doesn’t have to be complicated like others have said. The couch vs the bed, showering together after kids are in bed, a sexy music playlist all feels new and exciting when you haven’t done those things in years :silly:</p> <p>ETA: we’ve been together for 15 years, married for 10 this year, kids are 6 and 2 now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922328 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 08:24:41 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2922328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The past two years have really put a hurt on DH’s and my sex life. We didn’t have much sex while I was pregnant with the twins, and then after they were born, we were both too tired! I feel like we are finally getting back to being intimate again, and it has really changed our relationship in a positive way. I love reading everyone’s post, and I have been inspired to schedule sex two times a week. I talked to DH about it last night, and of course he was game! As far as changing it up, we like to do it in different rooms in the house. Other than that, we are pretty boring I guess. The thought of toys does interest me, but I wouldn’t know where to start... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922327 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 01:44:00 +0000 ALV91711 2922327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’ve been together 14 years, crazy! When DS1 was a few years old we did like @Bluemasonjar: and scheduled once a week. It definitely took the pressure off and made sure we both took the time. </p> <p>After DS2 the first year was blah but he’s 3.5 now and this last year we’ve changed it up. No real discussion but DH bought a toy and some lingerie. We don’t have a scheduled day but we usually pre arrange earlier in the day. Yes, it’s less spontaneous but we’ve been having more fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922326 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 21:48:45 +0000 Chuckles 2922326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DillonLion: whoa! Good for you guys! The pandemic has made me appreciate DH more because it's reminded me of what a good team we are, but also, it's like, how can I miss you if you won't go away? It's just a lot of togetherness. And I need alone time. So some nights I just want to be by myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922325 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 20:43:54 +0000 DillonLion 2922325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being stuck at home together for the last year has really done a positive number on our sex life! We are doing it more now than we ever have in the history of our relationship. In the past we were doing it around 1x a week. Now we are at 4-5x, which is just insane, I know. </p> <p>We reached a stage where we have worked out a lot of our issues (as a couple and by ourselves) and that really opened the door for some deeper levels of intimacy. </p> <p>We have tried some super duper wacky off-the-wall things over the last few months. Some of which have been super amazing, some not quite as great. Happy to share my experience in a slightly more private venue than this if interested :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922324 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 20:29:44 +0000 Chuckles 2922324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: good question! I have one from this brand <a href="https://www.lelo.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.lelo.com/</a>. It's high quality and from a woman-friendly shop. The website cupofjo.com is always recommending toys from Dame, but that's all I know about them. Any others? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922322 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 20:03:27 +0000 Mommy Finger 2922322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So this is the part where I ask for some recommendations for some good toys. :) We could always use something new! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922321 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 17:33:15 +0000 catgirl 2922321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bluemasonjar: exactly. If I can’t relax it’s not going to happen. We started scheduling it too! When we were first starting to up our effort we scheduled it once a week and then eventually twice a week. Now it’s officially still scheduled twice and we usually fit another time in. I’m more likely to do a lot of things if I treat it as a priority and block it out on my schedule. At first I thought it would make it less fun but like you said - it actually takes the pressure off to initiate. </p>