https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 12:35:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877896 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 18:24:17 +0000 Silva 1877896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I'm glad you have support :heart: Hope things continue to go well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877891 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 18:20:04 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1877891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: not out of line at all. It can be very helpful to share ones own experiences. I probably could use counseling at some point for support in a myriad of areas but at this point I dont feel that I've quite reached that point in my anxiety. Talk to me in a few weeks but for now the stress and challenge of trying to work that into my life and schedule outweighs the need. I do belong to some good support groups for moms with children with sensory issues. Its actually looking like my sons stuff may be very slight and managable or even fully treatable through early intervention therapy which thrills me. The tuna thing was a response to an article I had read regarding heavy metals and sensory issues but I have since made my peace with that and chosen not to worry. If my anxiety starts to keep me up at night or harm my marriage or interfere with my ability to parent or function normally I will absolutely consider outside help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877858 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 17:57:17 +0000 Silva 1877858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I don't mean to comment out of place, as we don't know each other well and this advice might be better received from a close friend, but have you considered seeing a counselor? I struggled with ante partum anxiety and found counseling to be extremely helpful. I still worried, but was able to say to myself "this is just my worry/anxiety," and found it much easier to manage.<br /> I just recall that you were expressing concerns on a previous thread (maybe the tuna one?) about somehow being at fault for your son's sensory issues because of some mistake during pregnancy, and that is a heavy load to carry (and not one that you should carry!)<br /> Anyway, I really recommend counseling, even every other week if scheduling is difficult- you want to be able to enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible, not be consumed by guilt and worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877852 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 17:52:56 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1877852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: you'll be in my thoughts my dear. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877677 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 16:09:35 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1877677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: thanks, lady! I'm anxiously awaiting yet another beta result after a scare with bleeding yesterday morning. I am sure I look neurotic, too... So be it. I can't just be patient &amp; wait it out when there are a few tools to give me a glimpse at how our little bean might be doing in there.</p> <p>Eta: whew!! Another good beta result, so maybe my short bout of bleeding wasn't a sign of pending m/c after all. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877653 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 15:50:33 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1877653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: thanks sweetie! I am still very sick and cramping a lot but very happy to hear that it's most likely not going to be harmful to my little one. Sending you sticky thought for yours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1877614 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 15:34:36 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1877614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I hope you get better quickly... It isn't fun to be sick, anyway, let alone while pregnant. I don't think you were irrational to worry, either. There's a lot to think about these days--I almost envy the generations before us who didn't know all the potential harms out there to our unborn children. Hang in there! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1876356 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 23:45:55 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1876356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: I will admit that I am definitely neurotic but to be honest I don't feel like I am at that point yet. I post on here when I'm having anxiety so it might color me more so than I "normally" am. Im always open to it though if it were to become something that interfered with my life in a bigger way. </p> <p>@cascademom: that's something I will definitely look into. </p> <p>Still feeling pretty sick over here and more vomiting but I'm trying to relax, drink liquids and get through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1876301 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 21:55:19 +0000 cascademom 1876301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really like the book "The Panic Free Pregnancy." It's helped me in the past with food restrictions and pregnancy issues in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1876137 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 19:21:47 +0000 MsMini 1876137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you think you might benefit from talking to a professional about your pregnancy related anxiety? You really seem to have an abnormally high level of anxiety regarding your pregnancy. Quite often this can feed into PPD/PPA post partum ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1876079 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 17:56:57 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1876079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: oh, good, fx it's just a stomach bug &amp; nothing more!! :goodluck: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1876030 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 16:45:54 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1876030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: thanks doll! </p> <p>Hooray! Doctor says its not sounding at all like listeria! She said there's a mild stomach bug going around though so I should stay hydrated, eat mild foods and rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875907 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 15:26:19 +0000 travellingbee 1875907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are stressing. I'm sure you are ok but I understand being anxious.<br /> If it helps, my doctor specifically told me that I could eat all of those things and the risk is so very slim. You can't avoid all risk completely. That's living. He said the only things I should avoid are: Smoking, drinking, too much caffeine, limit my deep sea fish and sushi. Period. I even read an article about how women are actually not get a well rounded diet during pregnancy anymore because they avoid so many foods. Do what you think feels right but you know.... it's all a risk. You know that there is the risk of a car accident while driving but you still drive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875897 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 15:21:14 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Aimed: aww you are sweet! Thank you! </p> <p>Just spoke to the nurse, she doesn't seem overly worried but she is running it all by the doctor and will call me back. In the interim she said I need to take it easy, eat bland food and might want to consider some over the counter miralax and some tums in case it's bad gas or constipation. And staying hydrated very important, she also said I could have something not agreeing with me, unlikely listeria but there are other small things that might be making its way through my system. And other worst case would be a UTI. Waiting to hear back.</p> <p>Thank you all for taking time out to reassure me over this. It's much appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875837 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:53:33 +0000 Aimed 1875837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I'm sure everything will be fine, just a note, during my pregnancy, my anxiety was through the roof (different reason, but still through the roof!) and I found it really helpful to talk to a counselor. Feel free to tell me to bog off if I am overstepping, but pregnancy can be such an anxious time and it can be worthwhile to talk to someone if its affecting things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875832 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:48:47 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GreeneB2: thank you. I sure hope so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875831 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:48:20 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: thank you honey.!</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: im hoping it will help to hear back from a professional who has been around the block with this stuff. They may ask me to come in for blood test and antibiotic though. Who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875830 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:48:16 +0000 GreeneB2 1875830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been going to town on Whole Food's pre-made chicken salad and was craving a turkey sandwich a couple of weeks ago and had one. So far so good. I think you're ok from eating some rotisserie chicken. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875822 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:44:37 +0000 yoursilverlining 1875822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: If you feel like you’re failing at not worrying about food restrictions; do you think talking to your doctor about his/her specific food concerns would help? Because definitely not all doctors/midwives are going to freak out on you for eating cooked chicken or turkey sandwiches. Most won’t. Would hearing that from an actual health provider cancel out the internet dire food warnings? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875817 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:37:57 +0000 Dandelion 1875817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: If you have listeria, you'd feel a lot worse.</p> <p>Really, try not to worry. The risk of these things they tell you not to eat is so extremely low, it's ridiculous they even make you worry about it. Stop beating yourself up for eating things you like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875786 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:08:51 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: ugh just realized I ate two turkey sandwiches last weekend as well. I should know better there but wasn't thinking because husband made me lunch and I was hungry. I'll be erring on the side of much more caution from here on our just for my piece of mind alone. </p> <p>@Chillybear: that's why I did call my doctor. Still haven't heard back though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875777 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:04:48 +0000 Chillybear 1875777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a firm believer in that you know your body best and are your best gauge for knowing when something is not right. </p> <p>I woke up in the middle of the night at 20 weeks with stabbing pain in my side/lower abdomen. 2 phone calls to my Dr, 2 trips to L&amp;D and about 8 hours of unbearable pain I learned I had a kidney stone and was admitted for 3 days, so i could have IV pain meds and be monitered until it passed. But I knew something wasnt right, even after they sent me home from L&amp;D the first time saying i must have pulled a muscle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875774 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 14:03:58 +0000 Snowdrop 1875774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: exactly! I'm the same, was pretty careful up to 12 weeks but then I actually read up on the research surrounding this things and a) it is pretty iffy b) it makes you I'll not the baby....yeah, I've never got sick from brie or unwashed salad, a dirty takeaway on the other hand....but no one warns you against those! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875766 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:57:40 +0000 JoJoGirl 1875766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>? Rotisserie chicken is fine - I've never heard of that being off-limits. It's just deli meat that has been a concern in the past.</p> <p><a href="http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-complications/listeria/" rel="nofollow">http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-complications/listeria/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875765 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:57:38 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1875765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo: @MrsMccarthy: @Snowdrop: when I first found out I was pregnant all I wanted was summer sausage &amp; I ate an entire roll in 3 days all by myself. I've also had pre packaged salad. &amp; rotisserie chicken. &amp; last pregnancy I didn't even know about lunch meat &amp; ate a ton. The risk of oat of these things is just so low. I think half of these "rules" are just because everyone in America is so sue happy that everyone has to go above &amp; Beyond to cover their butt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875758 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:53:38 +0000 Cherrybee 1875758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: Worry not. Listeria takes at the very least several days before it makes you sick - and can take several months on the other end of the scale. If you ate the chicken last night and was sick thus morning I think you're safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875757 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:52:47 +0000 Snowdrop 1875757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I eat rotisserie chcken all the time. We were never told about not eating it. The list of stuff I hear you shoudn't eat on here s endless! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875752 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:50:46 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: thank you! I'm trying very hard to just do what I can but not worry about what I can't change. </p> <p>@tororojo: it's not off limits you just wanna nuke it in the micro or something to be safe. It's a low risk item though as people have said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875744 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:47:53 +0000 tororojo 1875744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had no idea rotisserie chicken was off limits! I am 34 weeks w/our second and have eaten a ton of it. Whoops. I hope you feel better soon and that it's nothing and that your doc gets back to you quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-not-to-worry-and-failing#post-1875739 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:46:36 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1875739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I'm sorry you're feeling worried. :sad: Whatever it's worth, I think your rotisserie chicken is extremely low-risk, since it was piping hot in the store...and would therefore have had to have been contaminated on the way or after arriving at your house, which seems very unlikely. Also, haven't they (the powers that be) loosened the restrictions on seafood somewhat? I think as long as you're not eating tons of tuna steak/albacore, swordfish, or the other high-mercury ones, you (and LO) should be safe! :happy: I hope your doc gets back to you and you feel better soon! :heart: </p>