https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Jul 2026 09:10:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1522581 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:59:54 +0000 wonderstruck 1522581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! I think telling him over the phone would be better than texting, but I'd probably try again to get him to meet you after work Saturday or on Sunday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1522562 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:55:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1522562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@_mylittlepeapod: I think just because he said he could meet on Saturday and because of work schedules you guys couldn't meet earlier doesn't mean he's not interested. He's still making the time and planning to meet you at the earliest convenient time for you guys. Try not to stress about it, just focus on your plans and what you need to say/talk to him about when you guys do get together </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521804 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 08:47:56 +0000 theotherstark 1521804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to send big hugs! I bet he isn't even thinking it could be related to pregnancy, so he's just being an aloof, silly guy. Hopefully you guys can sit down soon and have the discussion! </p> <p>Congratulations :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521449 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 23:34:55 +0000 deactivated_account 1521449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@_mylittlepeapod: I'm so sorry, lady. Be strong. Guys can be so dense. You will get through this!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521404 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 22:43:33 +0000 Mrs. Train 1521404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@_mylittlepeapod: I'm so sorry he is a bit unresponsive. He could be worried or scared or just uninterested in general, either way it's not going to be easy for you. Hopefully you can get together Saturday. If he keeps delaying or refuses to sit down with you eventually you might have to do it over text. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521263 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:50:59 +0000 _mylittlepeapod 1521263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that it is hard to read a person over text and that's why serious conversations should be avoided via texting. I'm just getting ahead of myself I suppose and shouldn't be too upset over anything just yet. this is just an emotional time and I didn't even expect to be bothered at all if he didn't seem interested </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521256 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:49:23 +0000 _mylittlepeapod 1521256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. 64: yes of course, adoption is just what I immediately thought of when I found out. it's what felt right, and whatever is going to happen I would like to come to a decision sooner than later so that I can plan (or at least try) as much as I can. I of course want to take his opinion into consideration if he has one being that he is or should be just as much a part of this as I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521231 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:39:21 +0000 mrs. 64 1521231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is a conversation that needs to happen in person. I agree with raindrop that he might think you are trying to pursue a relationship and might not even be thinking pregnancy. Do you plan on sharing your adoption plan? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521226 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:36:23 +0000 Raindrop 1521226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm... he might not know what you are trying to say.</p> <p>He might actually think you want to be his gf which I think scares a lot of guys. A lot of guys think they have no time for a gf so they run away.</p> <p>*hugs* Sorry you are going through this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521222 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:34:35 +0000 Honeygold89 1521222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't be too upset about him not being too interested right now that's just how most men are plus it's a little hard to "read" a person through text. And I wouldn't sorry too much about negative feedback because there are plenty of people who go through the same thing every day so good luck, congrats and have a H&amp;H 9 months mama. It really is an exciting time. I live motherhood </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521214 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:30:58 +0000 littlek 1521214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@_mylittlepeapod: I'm really sorry that you are going through this. Bug hugs. I'm not sure how he will respond, hopefully he won't be an a$$. BUT, don't be surprised if he's mean and don't take it personal. Hopefully, he will be understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521208 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:27:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1521208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also to add I think a lot of us that are married and pregnant dealt with our husbands/SO not really wanting to talk about it right away. Guys just need to process it differently in their own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521205 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:25:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1521205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're right. He probably has a suspicion (based on timing?) and he may be processing the thought/idea. It sounds like Saturday would be best. Honestly it's not that urgent because the situation isn't going to change in the new 4 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-to-tell-the-father#post-1521202 Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:23:14 +0000 _mylittlepeapod 1521202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure if sharing this is even a good idea. I hope not to get too much negative feedback. my pregnancy was unplanned and the "father" if he can really even be called that, isn't someone I know very well. he was a good friend of one of my close friends.</p> <p>I was able to get in contact with him today and told him I needed to speak to him about something urgently and that I thought it would be best to talk in person. he said it would be difficult to find a time to sit down, but suggested we do it Saturday. he then said I could meet him at work and talk on his break. I told him I couldn't because I had work, told him what time I was off and he never responded. I hate having this conversation over text, and I think part of him may suspect what I have to say but I'm a bit upset he wasn't more interested in what I have to say? I know I may be expecting too much, but if someone told me they had something important to tell me I would reach out to them. okay, end rant. </p>