https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 05:29:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820874 Mon, 07 May 2018 15:35:57 +0000 beatrixkiddo 2820874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: so so happy and excited! How confident are you of conception date? I'd guess pretty certain? I think if it were me I'd wait the extra few days until 7 weeks to avoid the anxiety of possibly not seeing a HB at 6.5. Even 7 weeks isn't definitive I think. Ahhhh those first few weeks are the worst! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820870 Mon, 07 May 2018 15:25:29 +0000 cyntist 2820870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations!!!!! I’m so, so happy for you. Stick, baby, stick! (I don’t think we’ve “met” on hellobee before, but I’m L.B.’s mom from our Feb ‘16 group.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820799 Mon, 07 May 2018 12:15:06 +0000 buttermilk 2820799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations!!!! :grin: :heart: :bfp: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820797 Mon, 07 May 2018 12:13:43 +0000 hellobeeboston 2820797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: ALSO - I missed your happy update! Amazing! Fingers crossed for you &amp; that baby! yay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820781 Mon, 07 May 2018 11:46:45 +0000 crazydoglady 2820781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: I am so stinkin' happy for you!!!! Grow, baby, grow!<br /> AFM, I would probably ask for a u/s at 7w even. By then, you should see a heartbeat if there is one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820779 Mon, 07 May 2018 11:45:38 +0000 crazydoglady 2820779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: @hellobeeboston: Same here! I was only trying for about a year, but we got pregnant naturally the month we were about to do testing, SA, and our first IUI. The only thing I did differently was acupuncture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820768 Mon, 07 May 2018 11:16:58 +0000 pachamama 2820768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: Absolutely. There have been SO many things like that with me and other girls I know. For example, I went to the RE b/c I hadn't had a period in 50 days and literally an HOUR after I met with the doc, bam, period! This time I was definitely "trying" but I wasn't as stressed. I truly believed I could get pregnant - despite everything the doc had told me. I just wasn't fully on board with her diagnosis (that I was menopausal). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820766 Mon, 07 May 2018 11:16:22 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2820766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: congrats!!! ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820762 Mon, 07 May 2018 11:03:42 +0000 Shantuck 2820762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay! I lover this update. Sending good vibes your way for a sticky baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820757 Mon, 07 May 2018 10:42:41 +0000 Ajsmommy 2820757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: I soo agree.. same happened to me!!! We were doing fertility treatments and so frustrated we decided to stop, stop it all... and next cycle... BFP </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820756 Mon, 07 May 2018 10:41:53 +0000 Ajsmommy 2820756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YAYYYYYY!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820748 Mon, 07 May 2018 09:57:20 +0000 LAZB 2820748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: awesome! Congratulations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820747 Mon, 07 May 2018 09:57:09 +0000 Mama Bird 2820747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! I hope all goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820732 Mon, 07 May 2018 09:11:13 +0000 hellobeeboston 2820732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: I seriously believe this is a thing... you hear it so often, and it happened to me! I had been trying for my first for almost a year, desperately wanting to get pregnant. And we were getting so upset. Ultimately, we figured we would take a break, and I had a job interview across the country and we thought it might be a good time to pick up and move for a few years before we had children. So we started to get excited about the move, etc. Guess what. I got pregnant while out there for the job interview. I SWEAR it had to do with the mental shift in thinking.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820727 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:47:06 +0000 pachamama 2820727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pollywog: I'm taking progesterone now which I really believed masks miscarriages so I will push. With #2, I lost the baby at 8w and at 12w had no indicators- no cramps, no spotting, etc and I was on progesterone. Maybe not but I know it builds your lining and prevents your periods under normal circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820724 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:38:07 +0000 Pollywog 2820724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: That would be when I would try. You'd likely see w heartbeat, but it might still be early. With J I went in at 6.5, 9, and 12. With R they wouldn't see me before 8, which was frustrating. But they were a different practice and didn't have my history. I definitely would have prefered sooner </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820723 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:34:47 +0000 pachamama 2820723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raspberry: Thanks so much. Worrying and having terrible anxiety is going to do nothing but harm me so I am trying to just enjoy this as it's probably (hopefully!) my last pregnancy, and I really love being pregnant :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820722 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:33:44 +0000 pachamama 2820722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pollywog: My OB assured me after my D&amp;C and subsequent freak out visits she would let me get checked early and often, so I was hoping to get in maybe at 6.5 weeks, what do you think? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820721 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:32:08 +0000 Raspberry 2820721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:shocked: :heart: :bfp: How wonderful!!! Congratulations! I know the anxiety but you must be thrilled as you should be! Best of luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820719 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:29:18 +0000 Pollywog 2820719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: I am so happy to see this update :-). I am crossing my fingers that this little one sticks! When do you get your first ultrasound? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2820718 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:22:55 +0000 pachamama 2820718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys, I have some news. I am pregnant. It is very very early (4w4d) But it happened- NATURALLY. Not so much as a progesterone suppository I thought I "needed". I was scheduled for an IUI/ clomid/ Ovidrel this month after my CD baseline and for some reason I didn't want to do it. My RE had given me a pretty dismal outlook...<br /> 0.1 AMH (yeah....)<br /> 3 follicles<br /> the month I conceived.<br /> I am very very nervous about miscarrying and I know it is a real possibility. But I am already feeling quite sick. And I am hopeful. </p> <p>So you can get pregnant when you try (I was very much trying, using OPKs!, POAS at CD10), when you are kind of stressed (though this month was way better, and when your fertility specialist says "Let's make a decision about donor eggs when you're 40" :shocked: ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2809276 Mon, 12 Mar 2018 14:04:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2809276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Asherman's syndrome! That's exactly what I had. It was so bad that two sides of my uterine wall were connected to each other with scar tissue preventing pregnancy. I'm hoping this new RE is helping you slowly rule things out and get to where you need to be to conceive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2809254 Mon, 12 Mar 2018 13:01:10 +0000 pachamama 2809254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepaperbutterfly: It's so hard not to stress and "try". But like you said it is definitely 100% out of our control! Maybe that's the worst part! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2808993 Sun, 11 Mar 2018 01:46:49 +0000 thepaperbutterfly 2808993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have infertility issues that I know of, but I have long cycles. It took about a year to get pregnant with my first child. I thought stress was really impacting me, so I went to a fertility accupuncturist and got pregnant on that same cycle XD That BFP cycle I was really stressed out and crying because I thought it was going to be another anovulatory cycle. After my chemical pregnancy my cycles had stayed around 40 days, but this one would have been 55 days had I not gotten pregnant. So yeah, I guess I was under a lot of stress when I got pregnant. Also, I had an unstable job situation at the time and was kind of in limbo about whether or not I was going to get fired. That definitely added to the stress over potential infertility. One thing I couldn't do was take my temperature on a daily basis because that stressed me out so much. I used OPKs and checked cervical mucus, but I couldn't temp because it was emotionally draining. I cried every cycle that I didn't get pregnant too :( We just started trying to conceive baby #2 and there is less pressure, but I still worry about it more than I should &gt;_&gt; I try to remind myself that we are doing all we can do to get pregnant, and beyond that it is pointless to worry about whether it will actually happen because there are so many factors out of our control. At least this is what I tell myself. It's hard not to worry about everything, especially since I'm neurotic in general XD </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2808944 Sat, 10 Mar 2018 15:39:43 +0000 pachamama 2808944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: I met with a new RE and I feel like for the first time someone is really looking into my case. Long story but she thinks I might be having symptoms of my mom's thyroid disease (Hashimoto). She's looking into antibodies and will rule out (hopefully) Ashermans.<br /> I went 53 days without a period. My labs are a complete disaster. Off the charts for everything :-(<br /> confirmed DOR<br /> confirmed most likely perimenopausal.</p> <p>I'm glad it wasn't "in my head" and there are some clear reasons for why things have deteriorated for me reproductively. I have a very long road ahead of me but maybe one day I will be pregnant again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2806618 Tue, 27 Feb 2018 19:33:09 +0000 pachamama 2806618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: That is definitely what I think is happening, surging LH bc my body is trying to ovulate but I have little to no eggs. I'm not sure I can commit to temping. The OPKs are enormously disappointing. How can one even conceive on such long cycles? Isnt your lining all thick?<br /> I have an appointment at our BostonIVF branch here in Albany. Maybe they can tell me something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2806581 Tue, 27 Feb 2018 15:20:28 +0000 avivoca 2806581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: When that has happened to me, it's my body trying to ovulate and not being able to. I usually would finally ovulate around day 78 and then have a period 10-12 days later like clockwork. Just keep testing your LH and trying to time it right with ovulation. Are you charting at all? I know you say it makes you feel crazy but it really helped me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2806579 Tue, 27 Feb 2018 15:16:56 +0000 beatrixkiddo 2806579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: How frustrating. I'm sorry this process sucks so f'ing much. Winter's almost over. I hope the new season brings some change for you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2806508 Tue, 27 Feb 2018 10:11:55 +0000 pachamama 2806508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: I am on day 43 with no period. Had inexpicable peak LH surge day 29 and day 39. What the hell. I am falling apart. 6 BFNs.<br /> :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-too-hard-is-preventing-pregnancy/page/2#post-2804659 Fri, 16 Feb 2018 12:12:01 +0000 pachamama 2804659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: I'm a disaster. With #1, 25 day cycles, spotting before and after. Now, 6 months post D&amp;C, 36+ day cycles, spotting before and for 5 days after, not sure exactly when I O, was trying not to obsess. This month was 29. In 20 years of ovulation I have never been this irregular. I had a pelvic u/s and thyroid tested, all looked good. My OB doesn't suspect scarring or any complications post d&amp;c but I'm wary. Going in for Day 3 testing next period. </p>