https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 12:39:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-453167 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 10:02:17 +0000 autumnlove 453167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @blackbird: Thanks for your input. We chatted for a few minutes last night and she mentioned that he has gone into "operation shutdown" mode about TTC so things have been awkward. I hope they can start communicating soon...we have a phone date for this weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-453037 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 08:54:09 +0000 blackbird 453037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes, i think this is a dealbreaker for a lot of women. She needs to talk to him about it immediately. It's not right that she's expecting to start trying to have kids in a month and suddenly he's pulling the plug. The reasons make sense--financial and emotional difficulties with the ten year old, but a solid discussion should help hammer out what can be done to mitigate the stress so that they are on the same page again </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-452990 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 08:25:23 +0000 Adira 452990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Maybe just tell her that it's not something she has to just accept and that if it's really upsetting her, she should keep talking to her husband about it over and over again until they come to an agreement. Maybe instead of pushing it back indefinitely, they can agree to wait another year or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-452221 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 17:26:46 +0000 autumnlove 452221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @Foodnerd81: She mentioned that she feels her biological clock is ticking and she doesn't want to resent her DH or his son! I need to call her this weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-452156 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 17:05:12 +0000 Foodnerd81 452156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Agree on all counts. While I understand his reasons, if I was your friend, I really feel like I could never get past the feeling that he was taking away my chance to ever be a mother (I'm not clear if she feels like a mother to the 2 kids he has already though). At her age, I'm sure she is stressing about her biological clock too. I have no advice except that they should keep talking about it. Pushing it back a few months is one thing, indefinitely and I would absolutely be totally crushed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-452131 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 16:47:36 +0000 Adira 452131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes, I'm so sorry I don't have any advice to give you! While I can understand her husband's point of view given the situation with his other children, I also feel like this is very unfair to your friend - she went into this marriage with certain expectations and it seems like her husband has suddenly changed his mind. And while I understand his reasons for it, given his eldest child, it still sucks for your friend. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-advice-for-a-friend#post-452130 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 16:39:52 +0000 autumnlove 452130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend got married in Feb and she and her husband have always planned on starting the TTC process in January 2013. She is 34 and he is 40 and he has 2 kids from a previous marriage...one is 10 and the other is 5. The 10 year old has special needs and is going through a lot and needs extra attention right now. My friend, her DH and his ex wife are all trying to meet his needs but things have been really stressful financially and emotionally.</p> <p>My friend's DH recently told her that he really wants to push back TTC indefinitely and she is crushed. She says she understands why but she still finds herself getting mad and doesn't know how to handle her sadness and frustration. Has anyone gone through anything similar? I would love to give her advice...I told her about the boards here but she doesn't seem interested yet! </p>