https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 09:27:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1541605 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 08:11:58 +0000 Kbee 1541605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: I hear ya on the everything happens for a reason! Also I'm just impatient, and it's really hard for me when I think about having to wait one more cycle after this one. I have 5-week cycles, and I haven't even got my period yet after the chemical, so it could literally be 2.5-3 MONTHS if we waited more than 1 cycle. No thanks. As soon as I get my period, I think we're gonna start looking out for O again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1537213 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 14:11:47 +0000 Tidybee 1537213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @Freckles: @Torchwood: Thanks!<br /> @MaryM: I want ot move right to NTNP. I'm hoping I won't be mad at myself for going too quickly if I have another m/c. I still have a week or 2 before I have to decide. I had a D&amp;C and doc said there is a higher risk of m/c in the first two cycles afterwards. Fingers crossed for us all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1536085 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 09:01:35 +0000 MaryM 1536085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like this has been answered already by others, but my doctor suggested waiting at least one cycle. So after my first AF (I knew I ovulated based on charting) DH and I stopped preventing and went back to NTNP. </p> <p>At this point my doctor said it wouldn't be a huge issue to conceive right away, but I think if I did have another loss I might want to wait longer.</p> <p>DH would prefer to wait longer because most of all he worries about me. But I'm happier NTNP for now just in case. If "everything happens for a reason" like everyone said about the MC...maybe there would be a reason I'm supposed to get KU after only one cycle instead of two </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1536078 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 08:58:32 +0000 Kbee 1536078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @freckles: @torchwood: Thank you all for your help! I had 2 back to back chemicals, but because they were so early, I think I will just wait until I get my period, then we'll start TTC again after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1535669 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 22:39:29 +0000 Torchwood 1535669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: @Kbee: I didn't have a d&amp;c or chemical (missed m/c both times), but the maternal-fetal specialist had me wait an extra cycle (so 2) after the second. She said after 2 losses in quick succession my uterine lining needed more time to recover. That's the first time I'd heard an actual reason to wait beyond being able to date a future pregnancy and taking time to emotionally heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1535635 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 21:59:36 +0000 Freckles 1535635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: Sorry, my memory is failing me...i recalculated my due date and realized that i waited two cycles post-D&amp;C. I had my D&amp;C in May and got pregnant during the cycle where the first day of my period was in July. We got pregnant on our first attempt post-MC. </p> <p>@Kbee: I had a chemical in December and waited one cycle before trying again. Like after my first miscarriage, i wanted to wait just in case. </p> <p>Good luck to you both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1535573 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 21:07:33 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1535573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: @Kbee: </p> <p>Basically I had my mc, I waited for bleeding to stop, and then after a few more weeks My first AF returned. In that time waiting for AF we didn't try and used protection. Once AF returned I counted that as CD 1 and starting trying again when I ovulated after that AF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1535558 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 20:59:17 +0000 Kbee 1535558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: I am wondering the same thing. Am I waiting "1 cycle" if I simply wait until I get my first period post chemical? I want to give my body that time to recover and I'd like to have a real period, but I'm thinking I want to start TTC again after I get my period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1535404 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 19:38:17 +0000 Tidybee 1535404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: this seems like a silly question but did you wait until you had 1 period or 2? I can tell that I had a "cycle" after my D&amp;C with all ovulation signs around day 17 (when I always O) and then AF 2 weeks after. I'm now debating about trying again this month and wondering if it is too soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447516 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 07:53:20 +0000 spaniellove 1447516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have a D&amp;C but was advised to wait a cycle. I was impatient and jumped back into things, only to learn that I wasn't actually ovulating that cycle...my positive OPK was actually due to my hormone levels still being totally off. It was also very difficult emotionally trying again, and I wish I had just given it more time. </p> <p>I'm sure you will figure out what is right for you and hope things get better for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447476 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 07:01:17 +0000 MrsH 1447476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a D&amp;C and waited several months per my doctors recommendation. I'm very sorry you are going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447387 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 01:25:29 +0000 Freckles 1447387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a d &amp;c and waited 1 cycle before trying and getting pregnant with LO. As much as I wanted to try again, I agree with mamamoose that I would have been devastated if I tried right away and had another mc. It also gave me time to get back into a good workout regimen and get myself to a healthy state of mind before trying again. As much as it took an emotional toll on me, DH also needed some time to recover. Sorry you are going rough this. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447385 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 01:16:58 +0000 LovelyPlum 1447385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Confetti: I didn't have a D&amp;C, both of mine were natural, so take this for what it is worth. We didn't wait after the first one-the doctor said that we could, but we didn't have to. We lost that one, too, but I didn't feel like it was because we hadn't waited. </p> <p>After the second loss, we took a cycle off. It was hard, but at that point, my body needed the break, and I'm glad we did. Back to back losses wrecked havoc on both my body and my emotions, so we needed the time. Also, at that point, my doctor ran some tests, so we needed to take time off. I got my sticky BFP the following month.</p> <p>I hope that you get your sticky little one very soon :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447155 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 21:26:28 +0000 catlady 1447155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My midwife told me to wait one cycle but I remember she also said not to worry if we didn't want to wait. I waited anyway, but I needed the time to move on. Hugs to you! I know how tough it can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1447012 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 20:15:07 +0000 Tidybee 1447012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: that;s an awesome story.<br /> I'll see my doc next week for my follow-up from my D&amp;C so I suppose we'll go over it then but my nurse during my D&amp;C told me to get "right back on it - to get drunk and have crazy sex". She was obviously the best nurse to have during such a difficult time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446934 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 19:13:14 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1446934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: thanks :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446905 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 18:52:56 +0000 MamaMoose 1446905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Confetti: I'm sorry you're in this situation to need this kind of advice. I hope you get your sticky baby soon!! When I get down about what I've been through I just remember that without things happening the way they did I wouldn't have my sweet girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446900 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 18:46:04 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1446900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: this is an excellent point. I hadn't thought about what could happen emotionally if things go poorly again. That in itself is a total reason to wait. Thank you for your valuable insight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446279 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:28:03 +0000 winniebee 1446279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also I wanted to mention that it took 3 cycles after the waiting period to get pregnant with T. Which is short in the grand scheme of things, but felt like forever after 4 months prior. So I think that shapes my view on whether waiting was needed or worth if. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446251 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:21:10 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1446251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. :sad:<br /> My MC was a bit unusual as I ended up with an infection from an unsuccessful natural miscarriage. I had to go in for blood work a few times, wait a cycle, then go in for an ultrasound to verify that I didn't have any damage from the infection.<br /> They had me wait until after that ultrasound which was six weeks from my MC. Two cycles passed before we could try again.</p> <p>Good luck TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446245 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:19:42 +0000 MamaMoose 1446245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doc wanted me to wait one cycle to heal physically and emotionally. I was really glad I did, I think I needed that breather where I knew TTC was off the table for the moment and I could let myself focus on recovering instead of on TTC. (Believe me, in the moment I was disappointed to wait, but looking back it was the right decision). We tried again the next cycle after waiting and got pregnant with our daughter. My biggest reason I chose to wait as instructed was because if I hadn't, and then I'd had another loss, I would have blamed myself and it would have been a really bad mental situation for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446231 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:17:03 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1446231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're up to it emotionally, I think its fine. Since you'll be able to pinpoint O, dating shouldn't be an issue should you get a BFP this month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446212 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:13:36 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1446212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Anytime - we should all have our other halves get that memo from a friend every now and again :) I likely won't even be able to try this month anyway, since Mr. C is working like a mad man this week, but we shall see. Will call this afternoon. And amazing story about your friend - that is so awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446195 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:09:43 +0000 SweetiePie 1446195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Confetti: Haha, well I don't hear that every day! You should tell my husband just how wise I am. :silly:<br /> Never fear calling your healthcare providers, that's what they are there for! Better safe than sorry.</p> <p>AND as a little pick-me-up...my BFF had a D&amp;C in the fall and never got her period afterwards...I think she waited like 8 weeks or something and finally went to her OB, fearing that some of the pregnancy tissues were missed and she'd need another D&amp;C. Turns out, she was pregnant! :-) First cycle after D&amp;C, never even got her first period, and she got knocked up. It just never occurred to her and her husband that it could happen, they were just doing it for good old fashioned fun and SURPRISE! It was extra special because they had been trying for a year and the miscarriage was the result of their first IUI. So a surprise natural pregnancy right after D&amp;C was just plain awesome!<br /> So, it does happen and if you are ready and your MW is cool with it, I hope it happens for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446188 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:08:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1446188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was advised to do the same thing. This time I really felt when ovulation was coming and resisted the urge to try again. </p> <p>I think the other reason can be that your body needs time to heal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446154 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 15:02:04 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1446154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: you are so wise. seriously. this is probably what I needed to hear - I really just didn't want to "bother" her with this question. but I should probably just call and ask...</p> <p>All: thanks for your opinions and experiences - really appreciate it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446115 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 14:55:26 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1446115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor said there was no medical reason to wait to try. My period never came regularly and I haven't O'd since, so it didn't matter anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446099 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 14:51:53 +0000 winniebee 1446099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Confetti: I had a natural mc around 6 weeks and my midwife did tell me to wait for the same reason yours mentioned. Also for emotional healing. We did wait and In retrospect there was really no reason for me to wait and my cycle didn't return for 6 long weeks. I mean if I hadn't waited we wouldn't have T so I'm glad for that but since there was no medical reason to wait I would do things differently next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446093 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 14:49:52 +0000 Weagle 1446093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor told us that there's no medical reason in waiting after a MC to try again. She does advise waiting to just give your body/emotions time to reset. She usually advises one or two cycles. We waited two, but it took 8 weeks for my first period to come back post-D&amp;C </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-mc-question-what-would-you-do#post-1446090 Mon, 24 Feb 2014 14:49:27 +0000 SweetiePie 1446090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally would wait and heed my healthcare provider's recommendation. I'm a natural worrier and would just assume that they wouldn't tell me to wait without a reason. BUT I also didn't have a desire to try again right after both of my D&amp;C's, so I can't relate to having that desire but being told 'no'. </p> <p>Maybe call her today/tomorrow and let her know that you are OK emotionally and feel up to it, you aren't worried about the 'due date' issue, and ask if there is a physical/health reason to not try? (i.e. would it be dangerous to try so soon). </p>