https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 12:05:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group/page/2#post-943935 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 20:01:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 943935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsk: I'm so sorry. </p> <p>It's honestly been hard to get back on ttc. I had hope because it seems about half of those are extra fertile afterwards. I don't seem to be one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group/page/2#post-943923 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 19:58:42 +0000 lilteacherbee 943923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsk: so sorry you're going through this.</p> <p>I had a D&amp;C, so we waited until my first period after the bleeding stopped to TTC. For me, it seemed to help that I was able to do something again. The time of waiting felt like I was in limbo. It took awhile to conceive again and even though TTC helped, I didn't feel back to "normal" until I got another BFP. Right after the m/c, though, I agree that starting back up just seemed so overwhelming.</p> <p>I really hope your journey is a short one. You're in my thoughts and prayers!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group/page/2#post-943866 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 19:47:55 +0000 Mrsk 943866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for pulling up the thread, @t.h.o.u.: i'm in the process right now of a natural miscarriage, I have an appointment on tuesday with my NP to discuss what to do next, but honestly, the thought of getting out the opks and temping and bding everyother day and tww, is just so overwhelming and so awful, I just want another BFP without all the TTC. how do you get back up on the horse? I know waiting a couple of months might help, but i know i will want o try as soon as we can, I don't want to waste any time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group/page/2#post-942427 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:26:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 942427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to pull up this thread again. I think there is a lot of good points here, a lot of which I am struggling with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-722678 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 12:17:02 +0000 MrsCastro 722678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: i am sorry that you are going through this...but dont feel bad for any of the feelings that you are having they are all "normal". Just because your head gets it doesnt mean that your heart does...I battled with that A LOT over the past few months..DH was great in trying to understand me and i know at times he would get fustrated with me but as long as i communicated with him what my feelings were and why he would understand becuase he didnt want to see me hurt...</p> <p>sending you many hugs!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-720187 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 13:49:45 +0000 LovelyPlum 720187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mind if I vent a bit? I had a scare yesterday where I spiked a fever and had intense cramps...I was really scared that I had a uterine infection. It turns out that I have some sort of stomach bug going around, which is good, but I did feel pretty foolish high-tailing it to the doctor's yesterday. They were amazing, but it was still hard.</p> <p>I had a pretty good heart to heart with the doctor yesterday, and another one with DH last night. I've just been so all over the place the last few days, and I can't decide if I feel worse when I'm down, or when I'm not actively upset, because then I feel guilty for not being so. It's such a vicious cycle. </p> <p>My doctor told me yesterday that I need to be gentle with myself. I'm only 6 days passed my miscarriage, and that is still so early. In a way, it's a hard place to be in, though. I don't have many physical symptoms anymore, so it should be over, right? But I know that it's not. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering that just because the symptoms are gone doesn't make this any less "real." It's real, and the fact that it was early doesn't make it any less real, or any less painful. Gentleness and patience with myself is not my strong suite, but beating myself up is not going to help anything. So I need to accept that I am enough, right where I am. Too bad that's way easier said than done. Am I brave enough for this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-716571 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 10:51:55 +0000 mlm2934 716571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: so sorry you are going through this. wish it on no one. I'm just almost back to "normal" to be able to try again and I'm having lots of fears that TTC will be harder this time around (3 cycles last time), and of repeat MC. Every step of trying to have a child seems to bring intense fear.</p> <p>Always here if you need someone to talk to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-714523 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 16:12:56 +0000 LovelyPlum 714523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: Thank you!! I've been reading lots of PP, and while I am so sorry for all of your previous losses, I am so glad to know that we're not all alone. </p> <p>TTC again scares me to death. I know that just because I lost one doesn't mean that I will lose another, but I am just so afraid that it will happen again. I go for a follow-up on April 29, and they took a lot of bloodwork last week, so hopefully we can get some answers moving forward. I know it's irrational, but man, this fear is very strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-713822 Sat, 13 Apr 2013 23:16:17 +0000 singingbee 713822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: if you need anything, we are here for you. We all know hard it is. Know you and your DH are in my prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-713809 Sat, 13 Apr 2013 22:59:55 +0000 LovelyPlum 713809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bump.</p> <p>Thank you ladies for this thread. I posted one earlier, before I found this one. I miscarried on Thursday, and it is so nice to know that we're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-624512 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:48:46 +0000 2PeasinaPod 624512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Hope things went well for you this morning. Thinking of you... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-618864 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 19:24:09 +0000 Mrs.Someone 618864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine just posted a link to a <a href="http://www.taramay.com/8-week-pregnancy-loss-group/free-teleseminar-on-healing-from-pregnancy-loss/">free teleseminar on coping with pregnancy loss</a>, thought some of you might be interested. Not sure if I'm going to sign up or not, but I'm thinking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-615652 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 19:27:22 +0000 futuremama 615652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm glad to see you got your D&amp;C scheduled. It's really a very easy procedure. Nothing to be afraid of. My friend is a nurse anesthetist who works in a surgery center. She said it's one of the most commonly performed procedures. Give yourself a little time to heal (physically and emotionally), and you'll be back on the TTC wagon again soon!</p> <p>As @Meridian said, it'll be nice to have the weekend to recover. Mine was also on a Friday. I had some cramping on Friday night, but I was back to normal with a little spotting on Saturday! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-615484 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 18:16:05 +0000 Meridian 615484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm glad that you were able to schedule it for Friday morning so that you have the weekend to recover!! </p> <p>I scheduled mine for a Friday as well, and it happened to be a 3 day weekend, so DH and I were really, really grateful to have that time to just be with each other and grieve. Recovering from the procedure was easy... I felt fine the next day. It's the emotional recovery that's so much harder. Sending you good vibes!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-615475 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 18:10:51 +0000 ladybee 615475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: my d&amp;c was very easy. I threw myself back into to TTC way too quickly. It's hard. Give yourself time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-615468 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 18:08:54 +0000 mlm2934 615468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@whatsarahsaid: good luck this month!! time is moving like molasses for me right now!</p> <p>@Meridian: I thought i wanted to start back immediately but I am having a little anxiety about it now.</p> <p>Got my D&amp;C scheduled for Friday morning. Scared to death but excited for the relief and fresh start it will bring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-613756 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 10:52:02 +0000 whatsarahsaid 613756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies - just wanted to lend another voice of support from someone who has been there. I got my BFP positive right before Thanksgiving but then lost the baby at 7 weeks right before Christmas. It's been a tough road to travel getting back to a place where I feel like I can start trying again. But I'm currently in my 2WW and hope to test on March 12. I'm nervous, scared, excited, anxious...every emotion pretty much. Getting a positive this month would be AMAZING but I can't help but worry about how scared I will be to lose another pregnancy. </p> <p>This is such a tough road for all of us...I wish it on no one. Big hugs to all of you! xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-612637 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 19:34:47 +0000 Ash 612637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Meridian: So sorry for your loss!! I know when I miscarried, all I wanted was to be pregnant again. Not to replace our baby but to help me heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-612603 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 19:17:46 +0000 Meridian 612603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm so sorry for your loss... and it's terrible that you are stuck in this limbo where you can't move forward, that has got to be so hard :( </p> <p>I lost my baby a few weeks ago, and it's been a tough recovery process. But I just went in for a follow-up appointment with my OBGYN today, and she gave me the green light to start trying again. I'm just wondering if I'm emotionally up for it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-612120 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 16:24:54 +0000 2PeasinaPod 612120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Absolutely understand. And to be honest, I felt like I was going crazy with the amount of pregnant women around me at the time too. I felt like everyone was shoving it right in my face. I was on WeddingBee at the time and just tried to avoid all of the baby posts and focused more on talking about what was bothering me. I was so glad to have the support of others b/c it always seems like it's taboo for people to talk about in the outside world.</p> <p>And I'm mentally willing your Dr's office to call you back with an appointment time so you at least know when you're able to put this behind you and focus on your next chapter. That was huge for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611707 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 14:43:44 +0000 Ash 611707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: *sigh* I hate that there is someone new on this board. I'm sorry! The in between was seriously so hard for me. It's such a sad and depressing time. Take the time to grieve. Cry. Feel sorry for yourself. Turn to the bees for support and understanding. We're all here for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611701 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 14:41:13 +0000 MrsH 611701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I understand. Except for venting or asking questions about my d&amp;c etc I took a break from HB for a couple weeks. I couldn't even comment on the what's for dinner type posts. *hugs* fx they call you back soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611663 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 14:31:08 +0000 mlm2934 611663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: @2PeasinaPod: @ms.janedoe: @MrsH: thanks ladies. I know it's still early and I'm focusing on the wrong things, it's just about all that's keeping me sane. And I miss HB but don't feel like there is anything I can stomach commenting on in my current in between status. Blah!!! One day at a time. It's only been a few. :) now if the damn dr office would call with my appt time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611553 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:58:06 +0000 MrsH 611553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: lots of hugs lady. I know it is hard but I would just try and get through this next little bit without worrying to much about future cycles. What will happen with that will happen when it does and you can deal with it then. Worrying about that stuff won't help with the grief you are feeling and getting through the miscarriage portion, which is hard enough.</p> <p>I'll be thinking of you. Please keep us updated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611513 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:51:00 +0000 2PeasinaPod 611513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. This part is definitely the hardest part. Just waiting for something to happen or getting a D&amp;C scheduled and waiting for that to happen. </p> <p>Like @MrsTiz said, once everything is cleared out, you can begin your healing process. You'll find out when you'll be able to TTC again and things will start to look up. Until then, I'm wishing you all the best in getting through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611506 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:50:17 +0000 MrsH 611506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCastro: thanks for starting this thread. I'm at work right now but will make sure to post a longer reply tonight. I hope all of us who are waiting get our rainbow babies soon and I'd love a to be a part of this thread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611483 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:46:53 +0000 Turd Ferguson 611483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I just want to say how deeply, unbelievably sorry I am for you (and your DH), lady. :( Seriously, nothing but good thoughts coming your way... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611406 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:25:32 +0000 MrsTiz 611406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Hugs. I know it's tough. Trust me, you are in the hardest part of it right now. It does and will get better very soon. Once everything is cleared out, you will have a few weeks of rest and then you'll be able to try again. I got KU my first cycle after all of that, I haven't went for my first US yet, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.</p> <p>Don't expect your cycles to be normal right off the batt, that was very frustrating for me. Most miscarriages are flukes, so it doesn't mean that you can't carry a baby. You will make it through this. Promise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-611392 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:20:56 +0000 mlm2934 611392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so frustrated right now. I know things take time, but I'm such an impatient person. We found out 4 days ago that the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I would be 10 weeks today. My body is still holding on strong to this baby. I haven't been able to get a D&amp;C scheduled yet. </p> <p>I feel like I'm nothing and everything. There's a baby in there still. But I'm not pregnant. And I can't TTC. And who knows when in the world I will be able to. The only thing that keeps me from being desperately sad is thinking of getting pregnant again in a few months. But I have no idea at the moment when I will miscarry, when I will get my period back, if my cycles will be the same, if I will ovulate.</p> <p>Being stuck in the middle is killing me. I wish that this could have happened first thing instead of having weeks to wrap my Identity up in the future life we would have with our LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-after-miscarriage-support-group#post-513096 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 11:53:07 +0000 2PeasinaPod 513096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another person just trying to lend some support. I'm so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter how far along you are...a miscarriage when you want a baby so badly is hard at any point in time.</p> <p>We had been trying for 8 very long months. When I got my BFP in May, I was so incredibly excited. We went to the first appointment at 8 weeks, and the heartbeat was very weak. My doc told me it was inevitable, but I didn't want to believe it. I was checked again a week later to confirm there was no heartbeat. I had my D&amp;C on June 1st of that year. The hardest day of my life. </p> <p>We waited the summer before starting to try again, and got another BFP in November. A week later, I started bleeding heavily and miscarried again. I was devastated. I thought there was no way that my body was going to let me have a baby and just kept blaming myself. My DH was amazing through all of this, and we made an appointment for fertility testing in February. </p> <p>In the meantime, I had waited a cycle and we started trying again as a last ditch effort. I got my 3rd BFP in the middle of January and had my first appointment this past February right before my fertility testing appointment was scheduled. It was by far one of the most stressful days of my life waiting to see if we had a strong heartbeat. Over 2 years since we originally started trying and a year after I got my 3rd BFP, I have my beautiful 16 week old baby boy. He's our little miracle.</p> <p>In between all of that, there was so much heartache that both my DH and I had, and it seemed as if everyone I knew was pregnant and shoving it in my face. It's ok to be angry, sad and anxious. If you ever need to talk about it, let me know. I feel like I had no one to talk to except for my DH, and it was so hard for people who hadn't been through it to understand. Here's praying you have your healthy baby in no time. </p>