https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 16:17:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged/page/2#post-974653 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 08:33:31 +0000 Sunshine1810 974653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I am so sorry that AF has arrived! I am glad to hear that your DH's SA results were good though! At least there is some positive news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged/page/2#post-974632 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 08:26:06 +0000 Tundra Daisy 974632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: Oppps! I've only posted a couple of times and didn't realise I need to press reply - Duh! Hopefully it works this time.. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-974565 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 08:00:33 +0000 Tundra Daisy 974565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLoving so sorry to hear that :sad: :heart: </p> <p>Have you tried acupuncture? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-974409 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 06:53:09 +0000 mrsloving 974409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ameliabedilia Thanks! But it seems AF has come to visit and another failed month of trying. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-974222 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 22:38:55 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 974222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad the results were good. I agree- TTC is awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973717 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 18:19:40 +0000 mrsloving 973717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: Great to hear! DH received his results as well and all is normal and above average. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973714 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 18:19:10 +0000 mrsloving 973714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sunshine1810: I agree! I'm happy, but very depressed and confused for why it hasn't happened for us yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973436 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 15:59:06 +0000 pui 973436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: Thanks! They were... he's totally normal! whew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973357 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 15:29:09 +0000 Sunshine1810 973357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I hope we do! I agree that it feels like there is something in the water. I feel like everyone I know is either pregnant, or just had a baby. I am happy for all of my friends, but it definitely isn't easy either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973343 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 15:23:26 +0000 mrsloving 973343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sunshine1810: It is very depressing and it seems that it's running in the water that every one is getting ther BFP and I'm still waiting. </p> <p>Hopefully, both of us will hear good news soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-973340 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 15:22:43 +0000 mrsloving 973340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I hope your DH test results were good! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-957019 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 15:50:23 +0000 Sunshine1810 957019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*HUGS* I know exactly how you feel. DH and are just hitting the 2 year mark for TTC and it is so depressing. All of the testing and treatments are stressful as well! </p> <p>I'm SO glad that your husband went for his SA! That's a big step forward. I hope you get good results! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-956468 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 13:18:01 +0000 pui 956468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay glad your DH finally did it! My DH did his too, I find out the results on Friday. I pray they're good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-956425 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 13:12:54 +0000 Mrsk 956425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad he finally did it! hoping you get some answers soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-956419 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 13:11:56 +0000 mrsloving 956419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: DH finally did his SA and we will find out the results this week and go from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-908304 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:37:02 +0000 BSB 908304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I think it probably very hard for him. To think that he is the reason for your TTC trouble. My husband had trouble with the Fertilty testing, too. He felt like he was failing at his one job... To get me pregnant. The idea of him being the reason could really hurt his ego. </p> <p>You said you haven't done testing yet either. I would suggest having a talk with him and tell him that it could be you that could be causing the TTC trouble. Anything that gets him to think that it's not all his fault. You can also help him by telling him that you will go to appointments with him. This infertilty issue is something that you guys have figure out together. You'll need to support each other. Also, you both have to tell each other that whatever the tests find out, that you'll be there. </p> <p>Infertilty is hard and if you want to talk I'm here for you. It was already said but we do have a great group of ladies here dealing with infertilty, too. Hugs!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-908269 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:24:55 +0000 mrsmate 908269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I'm sorry! Did DH ever get his SA? He must know you can't do this on your own...</p> <p>It's funny, my DH grumbled about giving his sample for our IUIs but not for the original SA. He wanted to know what our problem was as much as I did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-908264 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:23:20 +0000 LuLu Mom 908264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you need to sit him down and explain that it's time to get him tested to see if that could be an issue. You seem to have done everything you can on your end, so given the amount of time trying it's time to test him too! Hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-908256 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:20:26 +0000 SupernovaJ 908256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I am so sorry! We just started TTC and we have no idea what kind of journey lies ahead. I was also greeted by AF today. Wishing you the best of luck with your next cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-908238 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:11:29 +0000 mrsloving 908238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another month of no BFP and only AF to greet me. But I'm trying to stay positive, but it's been 18 months since we strated trying. Positive thoughts....positive thoughts....positive thoughts </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-891805 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 20:55:09 +0000 LovelyPlum 891805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs, lady. Hang in there. Hoping for a baby for you very soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-891699 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 20:28:08 +0000 Jellyfish 891699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* you are not alone! we also tried for more than a year, had every test under the sun and were told we had idiopathic infertility. We tried not to stress and continue to have fun baby making but it was emotional and hard. Just know it can and will happen for you. Have faith and don't give up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-887123 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 19:11:33 +0000 MrsMccarthy 887123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh honey! you are so right to feel its unfair. its so hard to be in our thirties trying and so so hard for anyone no matter their age to deal with fertility issues. i am sending you hugs and fertile thoughts. i hope you get your baby soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885839 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 11:41:01 +0000 mrsloving 885839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I'm sorry if I was rude, I didn't mean to be. I did initially say I did not have testing, I apologize. We have a few heart to heart talks about it and it changes for awhile then it reverts back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885720 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 11:06:47 +0000 raintreebee 885720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This may sound harsh, but I would put my foot down. At this point, he needs to be brave and go ahead with the SA. Ask him if he wants children or not. I also would see an RE. OBs aren't always the greatest at handling fertility issues. I am finally pregnant after 18 months of TTC, 9 of which were working with an RE. I began to regret those few months I spent trying naturally after learning I had a problem. If there is a problem, then the fact that your DH delayed is going to create further issues between you. And infertility is hard enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885663 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 10:50:37 +0000 math.nerd 885663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: We tried for over a year and a half too. It's so hard. I felt the same way about charting and OPKing. It just started making me more crazy, so I backed off.<br /> My husband reacted similarly to yours regarding his role in the process. What I learned about him was that he was trying to avoid facing his own fear of failure. Everytime I mentioned something he could try to do to help us, he would blow up at me and tell me I was blaming him for us not being pregnant. He's usually such a level headed guy, so this always came as a huge surprise. We eventually got to the bottom of it. He was actually blaming himself and it was eating him up. Maybe your husband doesn't want to do the SA because he's worried that it'll come back with bad results. It may look to us like it's not important to him - but maybe he's scared that it's too important. Men are so weird - so much masculinity is tied up in this stuff! If he knows that you love him no matter what and you are on his side through ALL of this - maybe it'll help him take some of the pressure off of himself.<br /> Have you had your tubes checked yet to see if they are blocked? I had that done a few weeks ago, had a blockage that was cleared, and just got my BFP. Every test was coming back normal and we never would have known about the blockage without the proceedure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885582 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 10:25:08 +0000 regberadaisy 885582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I think at 36 most OBs would send you for fertility testing or to see a specialist after 6 months of TTC. So I would assume you would have no issues get a referral after 1.5 years of TTC? Or are you hoping to do it naturally w/o medical intervention? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885471 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 09:46:17 +0000 pui 885471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsloving: I'm sorry I guess I misunderstood. I thought you said you hadn't had any testing done.</p> <p>When you did track your fertility signs, did you see signs of ovulation? How long were your cycles? How long was your luteal phase?</p> <p>Maybe try having a heart to heart talk with your husband... hopefully you can make him understand how much this means to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885470 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 09:45:36 +0000 mrsloving 885470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm hoping to just let myself release some stress of trying in the hopes that it will come naturally. I was charting for a few months which just made me more manic if I didn't get a BFP, so I felt better for my mental health to put my energy into other things, at least for the time being. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-discouraged#post-885465 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 09:44:26 +0000 mrsloving 885465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I've had 2-3 vaginal ultrasounds and they said everything was fine. I do have a cyst on one ovary, but the doctor assured me that it would not prevent us from getting pregnant. I've also had my blood drawn and levels were all normal. So I have had my fair share of doctor appointments. If it's not important to him, than it's not worth it. </p>