https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 11:04:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-on-hold#post-310016 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 14:38:01 +0000 MrsLilybugg 310016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TTC (read: I was obsessing every single hour of every single day) for seven months. My husband had an SA done in May, and my GYN called me in with the results (normal count, but low morphology). I'd kind of suspected that due to lifestyle, his "swimmers" would have been affected. Right then and there, I thought to myself "he'll change his habits, it takes three months for changes to reflect, so I'll take this time off". I told him about this, and he was all about it too. It was SUCH a relief!!!!!!!! During this time of this non-obsession and relaxation (including a vacation in the caribbean), we did NOT get pregnant. Alas, not the recipe for me. BUT, it definitely feels alot better than the mind effing you described!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-on-hold#post-306969 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 17:45:00 +0000 sweetooth 306969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I took the last month off to prepare for the next steps in our TTC journey. It was a mutual decision. And with scheduled trips (the husband was out of town) around ovulation it eliminated the "what if" possibility. </p> <p>I stopped charting, which actually did alleviate a lot of my daily obsessing. And I didn't use my ovulation kit either. I felt a little out of control as the dreaded AF approached, not knowing exactly when it would be here. But eliminating the morning sadness attached to the temp drop really helped me mentally. </p> <p>You're smart to think through the mental side of the TTC journey. Take the time you need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-on-hold#post-306922 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 16:00:59 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 306922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The hubby and I were at each other's throats about 4 months ago after we finally decided we would officially TTC. About a month or two ago, after we found out I have PSOC, we decided to take a break. WHAT A RELIEF! I can't say it cured our disputes but it took a lot of stress off of both of us. Now after avoiding one ovulation and another one coming up soon he has been talking about cute baby stuff again, "Maybe soon you can be a stay at home and you won't have to worry about your job anymore." That kinda cute stuff... Which gets me excited again but I have enjoyed not having that stress, or the phantom signs &amp; symptoms of a pregnancy. Basically I have enjoyed not mind F-ing myself 24/7. So I asked that we avoid one more ovulation &amp; I could tell that he was disappointed. It breaks my heart because it took him so long to get to the point where he wants to be a dad.</p> <p>I just want a little bit more time to prepare myself better and get my head on straight. I am hoping that this time off will help me control my roller coaster better so it is a nice smooth ride. Plus we have all heard the stories that if you just relax and enjoy yourself it happens.</p> <p>How did you and your spouse handle taking a break and who brought it up? </p>