https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:23:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1859862 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 09:02:18 +0000 dc yoga bee 1859862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both travel. I travel every Mon-Tues of every single week. DH travels one week on, one week off. We've had 2 months where we completely missed fertile week due to one of us being gone. You just hope for positives when you're both in town! We're still ttc #1 though, so it hasn't been rainbows and sunshine just yet! ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1859491 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 01:43:15 +0000 busylizzy111 1859491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1858190 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:57:03 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1858190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@busylizzy111: Especially with all of the holidays, January will be here before you know it! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1858187 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:55:28 +0000 busylizzy111 1858187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: right now, it is really not too far. we had way worse stints (think: me in the US, him in Germany or him in Spain, me in Germany). And I will move to his city End of January!!! *happy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1858165 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:44:44 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1858165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: and @MrsLonghorn: It is encouraging to hear from people dealing with a similar schedule as we are and to hear that you were still able to get pregnant without too many challenges.</p> <p>@busylizzy111: That has to be so hard! How far apart are you guys during the week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857908 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 11:37:10 +0000 hellobeeboston 1857908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: welcome back!!!!!!!</p> <p>I hear you on this. My DH is traveling more for work and we are TTC #2 and two months already he has been away at the wrong time!!</p> <p>@busylizzy111: that must be so hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857847 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 10:52:39 +0000 MrsLonghorn 1857847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: hubby is a consultant too, with the exact same schedule. It took us a while, and was frustrating, but it eventually worked. We found that our chances seemed to alternate each month -- one month we'd have good odds, and the next would pretty much be no chance of it working due to timing. Noticing this pattern helped a bit with our expectations in the off months, though it was still an emotional roller coaster.</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857672 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 09:21:50 +0000 busylizzy111 1857672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh yes. We live in different cities for work reasons and see each other only at the weekend. Sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857202 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 20:37:26 +0000 Smurfette 1857202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: congrats! We have missed ya!</p> <p>@Mrs.KMM: my DH has the same exact schedule. We just got lucky and I got my positives on Sunday so we got up early Monday morning before his flight and made a baby. It was our third cycle. I don't know how long it would have taken if we didn't lucky with my O day. Hugs. I know it is hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857123 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 19:37:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 1857123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: Thank you! I missed it around here :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1857122 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 19:36:38 +0000 PrincessBaby 1857122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorCalWayfarer: Awww, thank you! Congratulations on your new baby!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1856957 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 17:13:20 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1856957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: I only used OPK on my last cycle but will use them as soon as we start TTC again. I went with the one w the smiley face--not sure which brand...and I only got 'peak' fertility not 'high' readings but it worked ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1856936 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 17:00:30 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1856936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorCalWayfarer: I've been temping since before we even started TTC just because I felt it would help me to stress less if I could know the months we are able to have good timing versus not.</p> <p>I've been thinking about trying OPKs this month to try to take advantage of the one chance we'll probably have to have a cycle where he isn't travelling. Any tips or recommendations?</p> <p>Congrats on your LO and happy to hear it didn't take you too long working with the same schedule we've got! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1856924 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 16:51:10 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1856924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: congrats momma! You were a huge inspiration to me when we were TTC since my DH also traveled Monday-Thursday. Happy to hear you are expecting #2!</p> <p>@Mrs.KMM: DH had the same schedule when we were TTC (he's since gone in-house). We didn't do anything special and luckily the timing actually worked out. We got pregnant on cycle 2 but had a chemical pregnancy but got pregnant again on my 6th cycle. I'm sitting here nursing an almost 2 month old :-) We had discussed me taking a couple days off and flying to meet him when I was ovulating but luckily we never had to do that. I would recommend reading TCOYF, temping and using OPK. Oh and joining the POAS boards of course :-)</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1856909 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 16:39:36 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1856909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: Haha! No TMI for me! Makes for a really good story actually! :)</p> <p>@PrincessBaby: Man - 3 weeks on/3 weeks off is a way tougher schedule to work with than my Mon-Thurs away. Glad to hear the plenty of people are able to successfully TTC while dealing with un-ideal schedules. Didn't realize that geographical infertility is actually a diagnosis! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855730 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 05:42:55 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1855730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: Haha!! So funny.</p> <p>@PrincessBaby: aw congratulations and welcome back! We missed you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855724 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 05:00:01 +0000 PrincessBaby 1855724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: I am the queen of TTC with a traveling spouse, although I am currently pregnant with #2. My husband works offshore, and is gone/home on a 3 weeks on/off schedule. When we were ttc my daughter, I almost went mad. It literally drove me insane to always be worried about his schedule and my eggs:) Even with his erratic schedule, we conceived my daughter in about 9 months, before I had to be committed to an insane asylum from the stress of feeling like it was never going to happen.</p> <p>With #2, I knew the deal - it would be a timing game - and I just rolled with it. Not to mention that I work full time and have a 21 month old that I'm solo parenting for 3 weeks at a time, so I didn't have the energy to devote to obsessing about it. Our insurance actually covers multiple interventions, and we were getting to the point of looking at our options because we were recently diagnosed with "Geographical Infertility" (lol- it's a real diagnosis!) by the RE that I saw just to get established with. We started NTNP in December of last year. But I only had a couple of cycles where we were able to give it a legit shot because he was home. Most of the time, my husband left 4 or 5 days before I ovulated, and was gone for 3 weeks, so that was always a no-go. When I mapped out his schedule for the rest of the year, August was the last month he would be home when I ovulated. So I used the CBE smileys for the first time since we were ttc #1, and we were so blessed to get pregnant! If we wouldn't have, we were very seriously going to look at options with the RE, simply because he would never be here at the right time, and I am 34 so I'm no spring chicken and we'd like to get the show on the road:) </p> <p>So I guess all that is to say that even with geographic infertility, we still have one sweet girl and one on the way, and it didn't end up taking forever with either:)</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855676 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 22:41:49 +0000 Mrs. Detour 1855676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought DH with me on a business trip when we were TTC since we kept missing my fertile window. It was expensive and annoying, but it worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855665 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 22:26:09 +0000 auggiefrog 1855665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH takes occasional trips for work that can last several weeks. I am always on edge that he is going to get sent away during my FW, and we'll have to miss a month. I go a little crazy over it, but I think TTC drives us all a little crazy. This month he is away until the day or two before I O. I am hoping that this month is it, because we may only get one shot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855626 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 21:31:20 +0000 JennyD 1855626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah. We both did field work with ZERO schedule when we were TTC. I was charting too, and drove across the province (8 hours when home was a mere 5 hours away) to see him where he was working, stayed the night and went home in the morning. It worked though ;). I know my girl was conceived in the (ever so skeezy) Tropical Inn in Lloydminster (sorry, maybe TMI). I picked the 310-GIRLS cards off my truck in the morning. Welcome to the oil patch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855544 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 20:15:18 +0000 mrs. 64 1855544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We dealt with this some. I would get so mad when he was traveling during the ideal time. Hope things will work out for you this month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855513 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 19:50:43 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1855513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>when we were ttc for #1, dh was traveling the exact same schedule. left monday morning, came back thursday night. we would bd sunday night and then thursday when he came back, hoping that i wouldn't o on a wednesday. turns out i did on the cycle #1 was conceived! so, it can happen! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855329 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:39:56 +0000 snowjewelz 1855329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think once a fellow bee flew to meet her DH for BD during her fertile week :grin: Not feasible for all, so I'm glad to hear he will be home for a while! I hope this will be it for you! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855328 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:38:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1855328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both travel and sometimes TTC was not just not in the cards go a particular cyce. Just make the most of the days when you can BD. :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855317 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:34:04 +0000 MaryM 1855317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not quite as tricky as a spouse traveling, but my DH works "restaurant hours" (he'll get home as late as 3-5 a.m. some nights). </p> <p>When we first started trying I was ovulating over the weekend and didn't realize how convenient that was until my cycle shifted to mid-week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-with-a-spouse-who-travels#post-1855312 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:30:15 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1855312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm curious if there is anyone else in a similar situation to me.</p> <p>My DH is a consultant and he travels every Monday - Thursday for work. We're just starting our 4th cycle of TTC but as you can imagine, his travel doesn't always allow us to have the best timing (or do lots of BDing!). If his window at home doesn't coincide with our window for that cycle then we don't get much of a shot.</p> <p>I starting charting my temps as soon as I got off of BC and have continued now that we are trying. I figure it will help me to stress less if I know if we completely missed our window due to his travel so I don't spend the TWW wondering if this could be the month (so far, we've been lucky enough to not completely miss it).</p> <p>DH just finished his current project and will be working from home for a few weeks before the next project starts up so it looks like we will get to have one "normal" month of TTC.</p> <p>Anyone else TTC while dealing with something that doesn't make timing the easiest? </p>