https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 07:18:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929925 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 20:46:07 +0000 littlejoy 1929925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. We share all bank accounts and money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929864 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:55:54 +0000 catomd00 1929864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We each have our own savings accounts but we both know about them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929839 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:24:46 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1929839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of have a tuckaway account. I grew up receiving the advice "have your own money just in case." Well, I deposited my most recent bonus into a savings account only I have access to. My husband knows I received the bonus, but since we didn't use the money or stowe it elsewhere it feels like it'it's mine all mine. Maybe I'll let it grow without much oversight/ input from my Mr. Lime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929670 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 17:17:35 +0000 Freckles 1929670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: DH must be very worried. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929632 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:52:21 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1929632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No - I don't believe in hiding money from your spouse. All of our money goes in a joint account.</p> <p>If I was in a an abusive situation, my family and friends would provide money without a second thought to help get me out of it. Although that is a thousand percent not that case with my relationship with DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929616 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:41:45 +0000 PurplePumps 1929616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no. It's an investment account I had before I met DH. I just never officially added his name to it but he knows it exists. But I guess technically it's mine and since it's premarital, I don't think it'd be split if we split </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929604 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:32:13 +0000 birdofafeather 1929604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Definitely not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929601 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:30:42 +0000 autumnlove 1929601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have still have a savings account with $200 in it. DH knows about this account </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929585 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:22:30 +0000 ShootingStar 1929585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not. For one, if I thought I needed something like that I'd really have to re-examine my marriage. Two, I make plenty of money, more than DH does. So if I want to leave, I'll leave and live on my salary alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929577 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:18:08 +0000 JoJoGirl 1929577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Yes</p> <p>I have a savings account from before we were married that I almost never access. So does he. They aren't secret or intended as a 'backup plan'. They're just our own money :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929574 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:15:41 +0000 mediagirl 1929574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I have my account, he has his account and we have joint accounts. There is no secret stash for getting away just in case. I could see how this could be helpful for someone in an abusive relationship but that's not my situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929572 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:15:02 +0000 lady grey 1929572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: same here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929570 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:13:00 +0000 Freckles 1929570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Exactly. You'd have to report that so i don't think there's a point in having one. The laws are so different now than they were decades ago when the wife was poorly protected.</p> <p>If i had to start a secret tuckaway account, i would most likely be re-examining the state of our relationship. I have funds/stocks in my name only, but it's not a secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929569 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:12:10 +0000 LuLu Mom 1929569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a secret really, but I do stash away money for different things. Like right now, for the last couple months I've been taking an extra $20 out every time I'm at the grocery store or ATM and have been stashing away from Christmas presents so it doesn't affect our bank account come shopping time. I've done in this in the past when saving up for a surprise trip for DH, since all of our money is joint. Not a divorce fund just a "little bit here and there" to keep a surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929568 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:12:03 +0000 MapleMoose 1929568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929567 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:12:00 +0000 plantains 1929567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't see the point of that. We both have salaries so it isn't like one of us is particularly vulnerable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929564 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:09:46 +0000 Mamasig 1929564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I live in a community property state so we'd split everything 50/50 anyway. But in my head, I've already thought if for some reason we were divorcing and I needed cash separate from our joint money, I'd sell my engagement ring. I remember a divorce lawyer telling my sister that your engagement ring is not included in community property because it was a gift prior to marriage. Now if you upgraded at some point during the marriage it gets hazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929562 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:09:18 +0000 lawbee11 1929562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Not because I think I'm immune to divorce, I've just never thought about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929560 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:08:19 +0000 fairy 1929560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, never heard that term. Not a fan of keeping money from each other, so we do everything from our joint account. We both have our own accounts from premarriage, but they go unused and have like $10 in them haha. My SIL spends a lot of money secretly because her husband is weird about spending even to help his own mother, so I understand why she does it, but still think that it is something that should be discussed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929559 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:05:50 +0000 Corduroy 1929559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, my parents gave me a couple hundred dollars when DH and I moved in together. It's still just a couple hundred dollars. I only add $2 bills to it. In reality, it's really natural disaster cash in case the big one comes and all the credit/debit cards are down. DH knows about it and could theoretically swipe it at any time. It makes my parents happy though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929558 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:05:39 +0000 Adira 1929558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Same! We each have our own accounts, but they aren't secret and they definitely aren't that much. The majority of our income goes into a joint account because that's what we need to cover all the bills! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929557 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:05:18 +0000 mrsjazz 1929557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I have my own checking and savings account, so I don't need some secret account. DH doesn't have access to my accounts, I don't have access to his. We also have a joint checking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929556 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:05:18 +0000 snowjewelz 1929556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No secret money for anyone here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929548 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:01:37 +0000 BSB 1929548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Oh, didn't think about that part. Good point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929545 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:00:37 +0000 yoursilverlining 1929545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We each have private accounts, but they are not secret and not funded for a potential divorce. Neither account contains enough to get us far after a split either :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929544 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:00:29 +0000 BSB 1929544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have an account specifically to 'tuck-away'. MIL actually told me to do this a while ago because of the issues she had with FIL (gambling issues). So DH knows that it was suggested and doesn't have any problem with me having one. I don't like the idea of hidden money. I do have an investment account that I can pull money from that is under my name only. That is what I could use.</p> <p>ETA: Granted... I'm not in a relationship with domestic abuse, so the idea of hidden money sounds weird &amp; sneaky to me. I have been exposed to friends and family who have been in bad relationship and I understand that if I were in that position, I can definitely see why it is needed. </p> <p>Anyone read the book or see the movie 'Safe Haven'? Yup, I definitely agree, that in some instances, hidden money could help you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929543 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:00:15 +0000 alohaorchid 1929543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't.</p> <p>And, just a heads up, even if you do have one of these, depending on the laws where you live you might be required to split it with your spouse anyway. You would for sure have to report it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929542 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:00:13 +0000 loveisstrange 1929542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still have an active bank account from before we got married. I dont currently put anything into it though and theres not much there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929541 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 16:00:06 +0000 mrs. bird 1929541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't call it that, but I do have money that is mine &amp; only mine &amp; untouchable to him even if something were to happen to me</p> <p>ETA: he has been made aware of this, it's not a secret </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tuckaway-account#post-1929539 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 15:59:44 +0000 blackbird 1929539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't call it a tuckaway account, but I do have an account with some money in it from pre-marriage. He knows about it...it's sort of just emergency money that I forget about. </p>