https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 05:40:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1984162 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 16:51:59 +0000 Corduroy 1984162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just have the one month party and do something else for the 3 year old closer to the birthday. Cake and ice cream with family and/or a special outing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1984062 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 14:32:07 +0000 Anagram 1984062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine. You can have separate parties when they are older. I had some joint parties with my older brother and since it wasn't every year, it was really special. Our best combined party was the summer after 6th grade for me and 8th grade for my brother. We had a gigantic combined birthday party at a country club pool with about 200 kids. It was awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1983627 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 23:29:05 +0000 leelee 1983627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combine. Similar situation, dd2 one month party would've been around dd1 2nd birthday. We combined and people totally supported the decision. Honestly at one month postpartum the last thing I wanted to do was host a party let alone 2!<br /> Eta: I always had a joint party with my sister and loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1983095 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 05:52:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1983095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combine. You can create a celebration primarily geared toward the milestone and then have a couple things for your three yearold like a special cupcake, everyone sing happy bday, decorate his bday chair. This way everyone knows it's his bday and acknowledges it. </p> <p>Then, celebrate in a bigger, well different way like @wonderstruck: suggested. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1983033 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 00:02:48 +0000 wonderstruck 1983033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Either combine them or just skip having a party for the three year old - I'm sure he'd be perfectly happy with a special dinner/presents/cake with just the four of you and maybe going out somewhere special (zoo? aquarium? indoor play place?) I don't think kids need a real party every year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1982676 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 16:05:21 +0000 Greentea 1982676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do two parties especially if you have family to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1982647 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:41:33 +0000 Anya 1982647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does it have to be a party for the 3 year old? You could do something special (separately) for her birthday that's not a party.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1982335 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 13:35:14 +0000 Mamaof2 1982335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine or do a big party for the 1 month old and just a small celebration at home for the 3 yr old.</p> <p>For my DD's 3rd birthday it was me, DH, and DS. She had a blast because there was cake and presents :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981997 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 10:57:41 +0000 Synchronicity 1981997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine, but if you do end up separating them I would definitely keep the birthday party veeerrry small and low-key (cake, beverages, close family and call it a day). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981979 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 10:47:42 +0000 autumnlove 1981979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981976 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 10:43:03 +0000 Orchid 1981976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combine! The baby will likely sleep through it all. Besides, learning to share and understanding that resources are limited are valuable lessons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981971 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 10:40:33 +0000 lamariniere 1981971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combine them! If I were a guest, I'm not sure I would want to go to two parties for the same family within a month's time. Plus, it sounds like it would be a lot less work for you to combine them, especially with such a young baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981842 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 09:30:56 +0000 cait 1981842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine. Planning 2 parties while taking care of the little kid and a newborn sounds like too much trouble, plus you have no idea how you'll be feeling then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981825 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 09:22:32 +0000 swurlygurl 1981825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since it's just a one-time occurrence, and a 3 year old isn't likely to remember or care, I would say combine them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981784 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 08:57:12 +0000 blackbird 1981784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine while they're young and don't really know any different and do separate as they get older and have their own friends</p> <p>My husband always had combined bday parties for family with his sister and two cousins (all are April babies). Esp if all the guests are the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981681 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 07:15:57 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1981681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My youngest sister and I had combined birthday parties and we always had fun ! Neither of us felt like we weren't special. We still share our birthday celebrations with family dinner / cake </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981634 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 03:11:59 +0000 Snowdrop 1981634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would combine, I mean seriously, pllanning both?! But have them one after the other. Some friends of ours did that recently for a christening/5th birthday and it worked out great. They just made sure that the older child had their separate cake/entertainment etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981632 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 03:00:00 +0000 gracecat 1981632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say combine just this once because giving birth is no small feat. If it weren't for this special circumstance you could do separate parties every year after that. Plus they're too little to resent it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981631 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 02:57:21 +0000 MsMini 1981631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband has a real complex around not feeling special after a lifetime of shared birthdays (he and both his siblings share a birth month), so I would avoid setting a precedent of shared parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981580 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 00:53:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1981580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combine. The 3 year old will appreciate the party regardless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981568 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 00:18:18 +0000 turquoisemama 1981568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say combine if you want! You do not need extra stress right after having a baby. Later in life It will be easier to have separate parties for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981552 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 00:04:13 +0000 birdofafeather 1981552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if i were doing a big 1 month party, LO1 would get some cake with just our parents and siblings. maybe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981525 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 23:33:50 +0000 catomd00 1981525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the middle child I always got the shaft. So I say don't combine. If it's too much to plan two parties, I would go low key for your 3 year olds party since it seems like the party for baby 2 is a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981503 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 23:13:03 +0000 MamaBehr 1981503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two oldest are 23 months apart, and we have had a combined party two out of their three shared years together. This year, at three and five, we are doing a combined party again. I don't think a three year old will be upset about sharing a party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981414 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 22:12:35 +0000 Raindrop 1981414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: Thanks! :)</p> <p>@regberadaisy: My good friend that said I shouldn't combine is actually a feng shi master in training and she assured me that combining is fine (no bad mojo! - I was worried about that too!) but she does recommend not combine because of her childhood experiences. :) She feels kids should have their own special day to shine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981408 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 22:10:25 +0000 regberadaisy 1981408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I would hate planning two parties I think a one month celebration should be really special and not shared. And I'm not sure but isn't it bad mojo to? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981407 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 22:09:13 +0000 prettylizy 1981407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Girl you are going to be 1 month PP w a three year old on top of it?! Combine that shizz and rest assured they will NOT remember! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-parties-together-or-seperate#post-1981402 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 22:06:45 +0000 Raindrop 1981402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO #1 3rd birthday is pretty much a month after LO #2's due date.</p> <p>In Chinese we have a huge party for a baby at their one month birthday date which is called a red egg and ginger party.</p> <p>So pretty much if LO #2 is on time... his big red egg party will be around the same time as LO #1 3rd birthday.</p> <p>I was going to combine them because basically the same people would attend both.... actually more would attend red egg (we normally don't invite extended family to birthday parties but they have to be invited to the red egg).</p> <p>My mother told me I can't combine... but I don't want to plan two parties! </p> <p>A lot of people have said either way... but even one of my best friends says not to combine... she's born a month away from her brother and she hated when their parents combined their parties... but I feel like the LOs will be too young to be resentful yet... we will separate when they are older of course.</p> <p>What would you do?</p> <p>DH is super supportive for combining or not, aka no help! :) </p>