Hellobee Boards Topic: Two under two

Hellobee Boards Topic: Two under two https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 10:34:18 +0000 MamaBehr on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-434021 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 08:13:19 +0000 MamaBehr 434021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are 23 months and 3 weeks apart (they were suppose to be a little further apart, but someone came early!) and I love LOVE LOVE the age difference. DD is old enough that she can be pretty self sufficient, she understood that I couldn't pick her up in the beginning, and never acted out. And now, she's more than 2.5 and he's 9 months old, and she is his favorite person! He adores her and she him. I have a friend that had her third baby when the second was 18 months old, and she said she wished she had a waited a little. I always forget how much an 18 month old is still a baby and needs a LOT of help and attention. But, I was really happy with almost two, DD did really well with no ::knock on wood:: jealousy issues! Andrea on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-434011 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 07:59:09 +0000 Andrea 434011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ours will be 2.5 years apart. Wow, I am so happy to see that people think this is an ideal age gap! DD is definitely not like a baby at all anymore and she can't stop talking about her baby sis! Can't wait! Honeybee on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-433999 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 07:35:23 +0000 Honeybee 433999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our kids are 21 months apart, and although we had an adjustment period, I think this was a great age gap for us. If we have another, we'll shoot for a similar timeline. sarac on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-432397 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 23:12:36 +0000 sarac 432397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wish I'd managed to get pregnant again before my baby night weaned. Now that I get to sleep all night, I'm less and less excited to go back to the newborn stage. glimmersnaps on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-432265 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 22:05:25 +0000 glimmersnaps 432265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My SIL did this (unplanned) as theirs were 19 months apart. I went and stayed with them for a month to help out. It was super tough. The older baby didn't understand why her mom couldn't pick her up and had less time for her. She also constantly wanted to hold and touch the baby. After I left SIL stayed home for a few more weeks and then went back to work. They have a nanny for the youngest and the oldest goes to daycare. Now I think it's getting a little easier because the oldest is approaching 2. I feel like for a lot of kids 2 is when they can understand things a little better. Also SIL had to wean her oldest pretty abruptly and earlier than she had wanted to because it was too painful to nurse in her first trimester. I definitely understand your desire to have them close, though! I wanted to do it too. But when I saw her situation I was relieved that we didn't. I'm pregnant now so mine should have a 2.5 year gap if all goes well :) Baby Boy Mom on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-431515 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 14:47:28 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 431515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ From talking to different people, it does seem like 2.5 years is the ideal difference. That said, ours will be 20 months apart. Everyone says the main thing is that we will need help, either family or a nanny on a fairly regular basis for the first few months. The other consideration is that if you BF you might have difficulty once you get pregnant, so if you have a certain goal in mind then that might also be a factor. DpeachLu on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-431497 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 14:36:09 +0000 DpeachLu 431497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I will be a parent of kids 14 months apart. I also have a friend with kids 13 months apart - she just had her second one month ago. She says its def hard, the hardest part was the first few weeks and falling into a routine but she says things are getting better. I am prepared for a hard first few years but excited that they will also be able to be in many of the same activities and sports teams when that time comes. DH and I will not have to decide which game to watch or split up for each LO. Also, family trips should be interesting for all because they will be into the same things at the same times. Im just thinking of all the positives and trying to focus on that for now! mrsmate on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-431487 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 14:29:10 +0000 mrsmate 431487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've heard it's very very tough. I know a mom whose first 2 LOs were 13mo apart. She said it wasn't twice as hard when #2 came along, it was five times as hard. I know another mom whose LOs are 15mo apart. She also said it's difficult. But my sister and I are 1.5yr apart, and it was great to have a built-in playmate growing up. Mrs. Jacks on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-431463 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 14:17:51 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 431463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We did this. It was hard because Lala wasn't developmentally able to control her emotions very well when M came home and the first little while. At 2.5 she is just finally in a really good space about listening, helping and interacting with her sister. I'm starting to think that 2.5 years is the perfect age gap as I hear the experiences of my various friends' experiences compared to mine. autumnlove on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430957 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:03:20 +0000 autumnlove 430957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO was a little over 7 months when I got pregnant with #2. Everyone I know with kids spaced close together tells me the first or two is hard but it gets easier! mamimami on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430956 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:03:01 +0000 mamimami 430956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are barely both under two (22 months apart) and it's doable but hard. If I didn't have a nanny it would be really, really hard. But I think it will get easier soon! My baby's just 7 weeks right now. I greatly look forward to potty training my son in a month or so!! mrbee on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430942 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 10:59:58 +0000 mrbee 430942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It was really hard at first, but now I'm glad we did it! duckduckkristen on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430941 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 10:59:50 +0000 duckduckkristen 430941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is 7 months and we are trying for a second, but with BFing I'm sure it will take a bit. I know it will be hard to have two under two, but i love the idea of them being close in age and my inlaws are here two days a week, so I have help. sea_bass on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430936 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 10:59:02 +0000 sea_bass 430936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @crash806: Oh I am going to subscribe to this as I am very interested in it. We are expecting number 1 but would like to have minimal spacing between pregnancies. Of course I might completely change my mind, but I am curious to read about others experiences.. T.H.O.U. on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430919 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 10:55:12 +0000 T.H.O.U. 430919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My goal was to have number when when LO#1 was old enough to do some things for herself. My friend has them 2.5years apart and its just about right. Her daughter is old enough to go get her shoes and bring them to her mom to put on, she can hold on and walk from the car to the store, etc. She was even lucky enough to potty train #1 before #2 came! Also, there is some advantage to having them where they can play together and you don't have to sell/store all the baby gear! lavender on "Two under two" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-two#post-430914 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 10:52:51 +0000 lavender 430914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is only 8 mths old and DH and I are kicking around the idea of trying for #2 sooner rather than later (like next month!!). Am I crazy? Any parents of two under two want to talk me out of this idea? I like the idea of having my children close in age and I was not a fan of being pregnant or the newborn phase, so I figured the sooner I do it the better!