https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 11:29:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2545171 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:54:42 +0000 Shantuck 2545171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: Sorry... forgot to respond to this. For me, I had been diagnosed with a diminished ovarian reserve right before the first miscarriage in June and the RE I saw made it sound like I was going to need some help getting pregnant. I knew I wasn't going to be able to do much treatment wise until I switched insurance at the beginning of the year so my plan was to spend the remainder of the year getting myself as healthy as possible so that I'd be ready to start fertility treatment as soon as possible after the new insurance kicked in. I focused on finding an RE that I liked, doing acupuncture, clean eating, exercising regularly, and just trying to find some happiness in my life after I'd spent the better part of the year obsessed with TTC. I felt much better once I knew I had a plan in case it didn't work out on its own. I did get pregnant again in November but it was a blighted ovum so I had a D&amp;C right around Christmas. For some reason my body bounced back much better after the D&amp;C and I got pregnant again the next cycle. </p> <p>I know my situation is a little different because I had some known issues but for me coming up with a plan really helped me move forward. I also had a really great acupuncturist who kind of moonlighted as a therapist. It was a really great outlet for me to go to acupuncture and talk to her. There were lots of tears shed in those meetings but I felt like I was doing something to improve my situation and eventually my cycle normalized. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543658 Sat, 07 May 2016 14:06:32 +0000 Weswife 2543658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: yeah I have quite few need to lose my shit moments monthly! 😞... It's so hard... We will get through it though we will! And all of is will hold beautiful babies... We will </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543657 Sat, 07 May 2016 14:04:01 +0000 Weswife 2543657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: thank you for the kind words... And positivity. Congratulations on your little bundle!!! I hope this one is your sticky miracle baby too 😊❤️❤️. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543527 Sat, 07 May 2016 00:35:04 +0000 Weswife 2543527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I am so sorry! 😞... I have a friend who has one child but has lost over ten babies after so I understand how the journeys can be long. Thank you and I believe it too! Today is just a down day </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543526 Sat, 07 May 2016 00:25:01 +0000 Crystal 2543526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: I've been on a long journey. We started trying in June of 2013 for our first. We got pregnant in Nov. 2013 (lost at 6 weeks) and in May of 2015 (lost at 12 weeks). It's hard (Really hard) sometimes. But sometimes it's ok. Time helps and gives perspective, and all you can do is be kind to yourself as you ride the highs and the lows. I know how it feels to desperately want to be a mother, and how it seems like everyone else is moving forward while you are stuck standing still. I believe we will be moms someday. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543514 Fri, 06 May 2016 22:22:02 +0000 jaguar 2543514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, by first baby, I mean first baby trying for #2, our first miscarriage.</p> <p>(We had a daughter before that, but she had her own fertility journey, no losses there, just lots of heartache!)</p> <p>xx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543513 Fri, 06 May 2016 22:21:10 +0000 jaguar 2543513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lost our first baby in August of 2015. Got pregnant again (with more IVF) in October - and then lost that baby too. We then got pregnant a full year later.. and yep, lost that one too.</p> <p>It took 2+ years total, but 18 months from Loss #1 to get pregnant with a sticky baby, we hope. I'm 17 weeks now. That wait was excruciating. Loss makes it all that much harder.</p> <p>Having been where you are now, just do what you need to do - some days you'll be ok, some days you'll feel like your whole world is caving in. Be kind to yourself &amp; I hope it happens for you soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543510 Fri, 06 May 2016 21:34:01 +0000 oskarsmommy 2543510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: I am so sorry...all I can say is do whatever it takes to get through this moment.<br /> I had a bit of a nervous breakdown last week, (I've had some other medical stuff going on as well) and I think I just needed to lose my shit for a moment before I could feel better. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543416 Fri, 06 May 2016 19:05:16 +0000 Weswife 2543416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: it's been five months... How did you survive trying each month. The thought of it kills me but I keep trying because I so desperately want to be a mother. Also I am so sorry about your losses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543413 Fri, 06 May 2016 19:03:03 +0000 Weswife 2543413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: I am literally having an emotional break down today! I don't understand! Two people who I know who had mc's around the same time I did are so far along both past twelve weeks they have already announced! It's been five months for me.... I have tried calm I don't know what to do! I am feeling completely hopeless. And I am surrounded by everyone else with kids, all my friends have kids, and it's killing me. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2543068 Fri, 06 May 2016 11:16:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2543068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: Im so sorry. My first two pregnancies I got pregnant very easily. We lost the second one (and the third). its so hard to understand but I hope you find peace and answers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2542991 Fri, 06 May 2016 10:00:52 +0000 oskarsmommy 2542991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: I am so sorry. I feel you - we got pregnant twice very easily (1 mc) and now we are struggling too. I use to say right soul, right time to my friends dealing with this before I knew. Now I feel like why isn't the time now? </p> <p>Sending a virtual hug.<br /> (Bfn for me this am too) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2542981 Fri, 06 May 2016 09:51:21 +0000 catlady 2542981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: I'm so sorry. For both my major miscarriages, I got pregnant on the very first try. And after both, my cycles got wonky and it took a little while to get pregnant again but eventually I did. Really hope it works out for you soon. I know it sucks to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2542938 Fri, 06 May 2016 09:12:00 +0000 Shantuck 2542938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: I'm sorry you had a negative test. I had two miscarriages in the last year and after the first, my cycle was completely messed up. I had a short luteal phase, terrible headaches, and didn't get pregnant again for several more months. I tried to focus my efforts on eating well, exercising, and otherwise just taking care of me (doing acupuncture, yoga, etc.). Just wanted to let you know that sometimes miscarriages can mess you up for a bit. I eventually got back to normal and got pregnant again but it certainly wasn't on the timeline that I wanted... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2542872 Fri, 06 May 2016 08:13:22 +0000 Weswife 2542872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: :crying: negative.... I am so upset I don't understand... Why would God allow me to get pregnant to easily before my mc and then put me through all of this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541847 Thu, 05 May 2016 08:01:28 +0000 oskarsmommy 2541847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: good luck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541694 Thu, 05 May 2016 00:10:54 +0000 Weswife 2541694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: well not supposed to... I have to. That's the day I have to let the doctor know what the outcome is 😞 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541692 Thu, 05 May 2016 00:09:37 +0000 Weswife 2541692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: I am supposed to test on Friday but I am terrified </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541587 Wed, 04 May 2016 20:34:30 +0000 tessafae 2541587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bought a ton of tests from the dollar tree since I was addicted to peeing on a stick, so even though I knew I wouldn't get a positive 2 days after having sex it still made me feel better!!! Lol<br /> Only wasted like $14 worth of tests during the TWW, versus expensive FRER's! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541574 Wed, 04 May 2016 20:24:09 +0000 oskarsmommy 2541574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weswife: and as expected, at 7dpo I got nada. When do you test? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541571 Wed, 04 May 2016 20:22:03 +0000 oskarsmommy 2541571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bahahah!! Yes I'm ridiculous. Those cheapies are like little lotto scratch offs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2541510 Wed, 04 May 2016 19:29:34 +0000 Weswife 2541510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: have you tested yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2538406 Sun, 01 May 2016 23:00:32 +0000 Weswife 2538406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: it's hard right! This time I have basically been pretending or at least trying to make my self think I am not pregnant and life is normal! As weird as it sounds it's kinda working. I am not even close to as crazy as I was the months before. I don't know if it's the best plan ha! But I am quite calm! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2538379 Sun, 01 May 2016 21:41:36 +0000 oskarsmommy 2538379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 4 dpo and I was literally just googling to see if there were any positive hpt's at 5dpo. No advice, just commiserating :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2537423 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 19:23:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2537423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think just try to find some activities or things to keep your mind busy. I planned a little get away vacation after one of my losses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tww-how-do-you-stay-calm#post-2537388 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 18:39:56 +0000 Weswife 2537388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so just curious if anyone has some good ideas? This is my third TWW after my miscarriage and good grief. Any feeling that I think is different or anything that I feel could be a sign I like dwell on. HOW DO I STOP!!!!?? :bummed: I try my best and I don't want to think about it but somehow it just kinda sneaks up on me... any pointers? I am not tracking anything like I did last month, but I still seem to pay attention to my body when I don't want to... grr I am on progesterone and so I was given a day to take my HPT, therefore I don't have to worry about that, but how to I just let it go? thoughts? </p>