https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 00:20:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-almost-three-and-parenting-preference-rearing-its-ugly-head-again#post-2098984 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 12:07:07 +0000 Silva 2098984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have routines around who does what. So, for example, if daddy is home he brushes teeth and reads stories. Sometimes she protests initially, but we just say " nope, this is how we do it." I also get her reeeeally excited about him coming home. And, whenever possible, I leavethe two of them alone. If he is home on Sunday he takes her grocery shopping.<br /> His schedule at work an be intense so we have to be pretty intentional about insuring that he plays a significant parenting role. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-almost-three-and-parenting-preference-rearing-its-ugly-head-again#post-2098971 Sat, 07 Mar 2015 11:30:37 +0000 lizzywiz 2098971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: I think ours has to do with my schedule too in<br /> that I'm her primary caregiver. but I really like your idea of telling her to ask him for whatever she wants. so often we're both there and she comes to me. I think it would make people happier all around if she went to him for more stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-almost-three-and-parenting-preference-rearing-its-ugly-head-again#post-2098716 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 23:30:24 +0000 MamaCate 2098716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: Ugh this is hard! My LO is three too. Due to DH's schedule, she and I spend a lot more time together than they do, and then when he is around more she can be a pain and only want mama.</p> <p>The two things I try to do are:<br /> -make them spend time together without me, even if LO is initially against it, she ends up having fun.<br /> -back up DH when he wants her to do something. When she says she only wants mama, sometimes I tell her mama is busy (like cooking dinner) so she can wait fir me if have DH help her now. Having him meet her needs helps I think.</p> <p>Good luck! There are other days she tells me "you are not my friend" so it comes and goes... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-almost-three-and-parenting-preference-rearing-its-ugly-head-again#post-2098708 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 23:22:48 +0000 lizzywiz 2098708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And, now that she can talk, it is extra harsh!</p> <p>I recently posted about some marriage rockiness, but giving credit where it is due, DH is a good, loving, playful Dad. And LO has recently started clinging to me, requesting me and kinda being mean to him. She had a mama preference before but I thought we were done with it...<br /> I don't like it.<br /> Anybody experience this?</p> <p>(I don't think it has anything to do with marital problems 1) because they are subtle and 2) because they were happening long before her change in behavior) </p>