https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 02:56:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2385149 Fri, 11 Dec 2015 00:11:53 +0000 PurplePeony 2385149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD just turned 2 and is suddenly SUPER into pouches after barely touching them for months. I have no idea why, she just started asking (okay, demanding) them one day. She's not much into veggies aside from the orange ones (baked sweet potato spears, mashed butternut squash, and carrots) and, weirdly, spinach. But the spinach has to be cooked into something, preferably one of the Spinach Wheat Foldovers from Starbucks. I'm sure those aren't super healthy but I let her have one now and then just to get something green in her. Tonight, we had tuna casserole and she picked out every single pea from hers and just ate the pasta and tuna. I've basically given up, I still put a few veggies on her plate but pretty much write them off as destined for the compost. I figure she'll try them eventually and maybe even like them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2385139 Fri, 11 Dec 2015 00:02:45 +0000 anonysquire 2385139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've found that the more I stress about it and nah my daughter to eat, the less she eats. My doctor said that it matters more how much they eat in a week rather than a day. Or something like that. When they are hungry they will eat more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2385136 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 23:59:46 +0000 youboots 2385136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only ate cold oats with milk for 2 years, no joke. I also remember a year where I would only eat chili and cookies and cream ice cream. I was suuuuper picky until I started cooking now that eat and cook almost everything. I would not worry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2385133 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 23:56:46 +0000 fussygal 2385133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: thanks! It's always promising to hear stories like that!</p> <p>Thanks @namaste! I do some hiding with kale smoothies and I try to buy the pasta made with veggies and she doesn't mind marinara, so pasta night is usually her absolute favorite!</p> <p>@Tanjowen: I feel you! We resort to that (or almond butter) a lot. It's like a necessary evil. Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2385008 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 21:46:59 +0000 Mae 2385008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO seems to get better then worse then better then worse again. At 19 months I really stick to the "it's my job to put healthy food in front of her. She can eat it or not" thing. I just absolutely refuse to get into a power struggle with her over food. I feel like it would only make things worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384913 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 20:55:51 +0000 MrsKoala 2384913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel guilty! My kid refuses vegetables, too. At least you're getting it to her in some form, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384852 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 20:24:11 +0000 Tanjowen 2384852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fussygal: I shall commiserate! My 23 month old will only eat veggies in pouch form, and is a pouch addict. The only other way he gets veggies down him are when I cheat and smash them up with black beans or avocado and put it on tortilla chips. It works sometimes. I feel like the past week all he will willingly eat is peanut butter and toast, ugh :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384680 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 17:49:34 +0000 namaste 2384680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried hiding them in other foods? Casseroles, smoothies, etc. You're doing a good job so don't let Facebook get you down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384669 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 17:41:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 2384669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: ha mine will only touch fish fingers when I call them "special chicken nuggets". The frozen ones of course, I wouldn't even attempt to give her homemade ones. (I mean I have attempted giving her fish and she has even tried it, just doesn't like it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384645 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 17:09:30 +0000 catomd00 2384645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pouches are better than nothing! I've actually read that toddlers don't like veggies a lot of the time because they don't need them. I'll try to find the article it was really interesting. I was the worlds pickiest eater as a child and now I will eat anything so don't worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384637 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 17:02:25 +0000 Bubbles 2384637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: thank you - I think it's just because it's been going on for like a year now it's hard to imagine things being any other way! But I shall try to have faith :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384606 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:45:30 +0000 KT326 2384606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: It was so hard when we were going through that stage! It's easier to look back at it now and kick myself for stressing out about it. He still goes through phases where he will take 3 bites of dinner and be done. That just means he will eat more for breakfast. And now at this age we are able to institute the "no thank you" bite. He has to at least try a bite of whatever we are having. That was harder to do when he was younger. </p> <p>It does get better! Just keep trying and keep giving a variety of foods. They might surprise you one day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384603 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:41:56 +0000 KT326 2384603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fussygal: We used the flintstones multi vitamin with iron (he had low iron). We only gave him half of one. At first I would crush it a little then feed it to him on a spoon. Once he figured out how to chew it I would just give him the half. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384601 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:41:22 +0000 fussygal 2384601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MuzzyBee: That's our strategy, too: we offer he what we're eating and one or two things we know she'll eat. Now I'm just waiting for it to pay off! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384599 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:39:45 +0000 Bubbles 2384599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: he does eat fish fingers, but won't eat chicken nuggets or anything like that! Even homemade fish fingers are not acceptable!</p> <p>@KT326: This is really reassuring. I keep telling myself this, but I find it so hard to imagine him ever eating anything new! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384589 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:32:23 +0000 fussygal 2384589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: What multivitamin did you use? I've been thinking about that, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384587 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:31:33 +0000 MuzzyBee 2384587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it was quite a normal developmental stage for them to refuse food at about 2?</p> <p>My DD now 3, lived on eggs, cheese and bread for a good couple of months I'm sure, we just kept putting various veges on her plate along with stuff we knew she would eat.. I know it's hard but don't stress!!</p> <p>Found where I read it:<br /> Fussy eating – showing independence is part of normal toddler development and this often includes refusing to eat foods that you offer. Rejecting a food does not always mean the child doesn’t like it. If you offer it on another day, they may eat it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384586 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:31:05 +0000 fussygal 2384586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: Sorry to hear it's getting worse for you, too. DD is a self-imposed vegetarian also :) She'll eat ground turkey if it's in tiny pieces in her pasta sauce, but that's about it.</p> <p>@Foodnerd81: It's true that so much of it is luck! Which is very annoying when you try to do it all the right way and it still doesn't "work". :)</p> <p>I am happy that she at least gets *something* through pouches. Although I have no idea how she can stomach those (the smell of all the veggies mixed together grosses me out!), but still won't eat a piece of broccoli! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384578 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:25:22 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2384578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 22 months and I have the same problem, but with fruit! My kid just won't eat fruit to save her life. It's a win when I can get her to just take a bite of banana or pear or apple. It's crazy.</p> <p>But I do what you do and give her pouches. It's something at least. She does like some veggies, so I just give her those. My pediatrician said she's seen Kindergarten kids eat pouches and it's totally fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384577 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:24:59 +0000 KT326 2384577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started giving a multi vitamin for this reason. When he was 2 he was such a picky eater. But now at 3.5, he will eat all kinds of veggies. I was worried about it but our pediatrician told us to just keep offering, eventually he will eat it. In the meantime we gave him a multivitamin and made sure everything else he ate was healthy. And he had his fair share of veggie pouches at that age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384576 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:23:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 2384576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: my 2 year old will eat veggies but only eats meat if it's processed somehow- like chicken cutlets are ok, nuggets preferred, but definitely not just grilled. Sausage or meatballs are good, but regular meat is a no. </p> <p>Oh and her favorite vegetable is the frozen broccoli with velveeta type cheese sauce. The more preservatives the better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384574 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:20:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 2384574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately I think it's pretty normal. And if she's eating veggies in her pouches, that's something! </p> <p>My LO is a pretty good eater- not every day, but overall she likes vegetables. Did I try and do the right things that "they" suggest? Yes. Do I think it was something I did right or mostly luck? Mostly luck. </p> <p>Meanwhile her sleep sucks. I figure if I want to try and take credit for her decent eating habits then I need to take blame for her crappy sleeping, so I'm just going with bad luck for that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384572 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:20:33 +0000 Bubbles 2384572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in a very similar place with our 23 month old. 😟 He doesn't eat meat either but at least eats a lot of fruit. I am trying to be patient and just keep trying, but it's getting worse rather than getting better. So no advice but plenty of commiseration! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-mom-guilt-in-the-feeding-department#post-2384560 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:16:00 +0000 fussygal 2384560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone please commiserate with me! </p> <p>At almost 21 months the ONLY way we can get DD to eat vegetables is with pouches. I've tried everything: steaming veggies, giving her frozen peas, veggie "sticks" and none of it works. She will occasionally eat avocado, cucumber and red bell peppers, but that's it. I'm feeling particularly guilty because a friend posted an (*ahem* slightly one-sided) article on FB (where most silly guilt comes from these days...) about eating habits forming early with kids, yadda yadda and went on and on about how great her kid eats. I did try to establish good habits and offered a wide variety when she was starting solids, but in the past six months she's quickly narrowed down her list of acceptable foods and I've basically given-up. I'm tired of trying new things only to have it go to waste. Beyond the veggie issue, she's just an incredibly picky eater in general. I know that isn't unusual for a toddler, but geeze it seems like it consumes my mental energy/guilt daily! </p> <p>I mostly needed to vent, but any advice is welcome of course! :) </p>