https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 07 Jun 2026 11:04:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155326 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:36:45 +0000 sheskrafty 1155326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Unfortunately, you can't worry about teacher retaliation when it comes to your LO - especially with health and safety issues. It is awful though to think your kid will get less care because you are concerned and stand up for them. </p> <p>We had to speak to the director at our daycare about the teachers smoking and not washing hands. The daycare teachers started ignoring us after that. And then we had to speak to the director about why there was an unlocked screen door in the infant room. While they just wanted air circulation it was a blatant disregard for the safety of the entire room. The teachers definitely give us attitude now. I'm fine with attitude for myself, just treat my daughter with respect and care. Luckily, we only have 1.5 more months at that daycare!!!!</p> <p>Good luck and you are doing the right thing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155300 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:29:18 +0000 Smurfette 1155300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: You can do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155298 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:28:43 +0000 sorrycharlie 1155298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: you got this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155291 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:27:29 +0000 Adira 1155291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Okay! I'm scared, but here I go calling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155286 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:26:21 +0000 Smurfette 1155286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Set up an appointment for when she will be there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1155280 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:25:18 +0000 Adira 1155280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: So I was just going to take your suggestion and call and see if the director is going to be there tonight, but what should I do if she's not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154419 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:37:42 +0000 Smurfette 1154419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I would call and make sure the director is going to be there tonight. Also, make sure you have dates as to when you have caught the teacher giving him puffs.<br /> Be strong!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154383 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:28:18 +0000 Adira 1154383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: My plan is to first ask what their policy is regarding solids for the infants and then to let them know what my preference is (that I don't want him eating solids at daycare until I give the go-ahead) and that I've told the daycare teacher that on multiple occasions and have "caught" her giving him food anyway, against my wishes. I'm also going to tell her my concerns (what if he had an allergy to something she fed him and I didn't even know he had it since she's doing it behind my back and only tells me about when I "catch" her doing it - I have no idea if she's been doing it more often or giving him more things than the things I catch her feeding him). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154379 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:27:21 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: FWIW, I would be nervous too. Any kind of confrontation is intimidating! BUT, you will be so glad you did, AND, it will be that much easier the next time around (in any kind of situation) to calmly but firmly stand your ground. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154373 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:25:28 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Definitely give the director the benefit of the doubt here and approach the situation with a positive goal/outlook in mind. Just calmly explain what happened, that you asked the caregiver not to do it again, and then explain what happened when you arrived yesterday. If the Director (and others) are made aware of your direction it will likely force the caregiver to comply to the extent that now everyone else knows that Xander is not allowed to have solids (if that makes sense . . . sort of like peer pressure to do the right thing).</p> <p>And as always, DOCUMENT this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154358 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:22:21 +0000 Adira 1154358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Yes, I know you're right!! And Xander deserves a mom who will stick up for him!! I just need to stop being such a wimp and do it! I will talk to her tonight!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154349 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:21:03 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I agree. A good director would appreciate a parent bringing it to their attention. This information will give the director important information about this caregiver (maybe she has history of similar behavior, and if she doesn't, this puts it on the director's radar. </p> <p>@Adira: You are advocating for your child. This isn't a pissing/ego contest, it is about the caregiver taking liberties and substituting her judgment for yours and disobeying your express instructions. Absent an emergency, that should never happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154344 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:19:37 +0000 autumnlove 1154344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck! I had to talk to teachers and directors about pacifiers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154342 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:18:51 +0000 Adira 1154342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Yeah, I think I'm just nervous because I've never done it before! And I have no idea how she'll respond! The only person I've talked to about my concerns is the teacher doing it and she seems dismissive and defensive, so I'm worried the director will be like that, but I obviously don't really know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154323 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:12:01 +0000 littlek 1154323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Don't be nervous. I have talked to many a daycare director. If they are good, they should appreciate the fact you are bringing your concern to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154279 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:59:11 +0000 Adira 1154279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Yeah, I'm going to talk to her today!! I'm nervous, but I'll do it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154274 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:56:28 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: +1 to your post! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154273 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:55:24 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: You should report this to the director. Her behavior is 100% unacceptable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154263 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:44:05 +0000 blackbird 1154263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the very least, leave a message for the director and have her call her asap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154170 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 04:19:33 +0000 Adira 1154170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@RubyCali: Unfortunately, he'll be in this room for a while. This room has both the Infant 1s (new babies who are non-mobile) and the Infant 2s (older babies/toddlers who are crawling and learning to walk). Xander's still an Infant 1, so he'll be there for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154052 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 22:22:38 +0000 Ginabean3 1154052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh! So frustrating for you! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again/page/2#post-1154023 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 21:40:37 +0000 RubyCali 1154023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Glad to hear it's only one teacher and one issue! How soon can X switch up to the next class? :) This teacher sounds like a major pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153958 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:42:26 +0000 Adira 1153958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: That's a good idea about asking her to handle it anonymously!</p> <p>@mamabolt: Your teacher sounds like mine. Mine was SHOCKED when I said we weren't introducing solids until six months because apparently she introduced solids to her kids at six WEEKS. And they definitely have been pressuring me to start solids or to let them do it and I've refused! UGH.</p> <p>@RubyCali: There are other daycares, but the really good ones are too expensive or have long waiting lists. This was our favorite... And it's really just this ONE teacher. I think once Xander's out of this room (or she leaves), I won't have this issue. Or once he's actually eating solids there too, it won't be an issue. It's just FOOD that we butt heads over (Xander's the only baby on BM there and they keep pressuring me to send more since all the FF babies eat more oz, so they think he's hungry even though he's not). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153943 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:34:09 +0000 RubyCali 1153943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are there any other daycare options near you? I am so annoyed for you! They seem to have totally disregarded your wishes, multiple times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153942 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:32:47 +0000 littlek 1153942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I'd think about switching daycares. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153916 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:13:50 +0000 Periwinkle 1153916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can completely understand how frustrated you are. It's no one's right except for the parents' to make a decision on what a baby should be eating at daycare.</p> <p>I would also speak to the director. It may not feel like such a confrontation when you're speaking to a third party, in a way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153913 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:12:05 +0000 mamabolt 1153913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had issues when we first were introducing LO to solids. We wanted to wait until she was six months, and at 4.5 months or so the daycare teachers asked if we planned on starting soon. We said no and we were waiting for six months, which is when we started offering, although she wasn't really interested. Then since we told them we were offering, they started pushing for us to send food into school. We resisted because we wanted to be the ones to intro foods and they pushed some more. I finally asked if we could sit down with the teacher and discuss our philosophy on introducing food all around so we could feel like we were on the same page. That made all the difference and things went much better from that point on. Good luck, I'm sorry you are dealing with this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153908 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:08:26 +0000 swedishfish 1153908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I was just thinking about this again...definitely talk to the director first and then maybe follow up with an email. It's always good to have things in writing - "as per our discussion today, blah blah blah". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153900 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:06:07 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1153900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You must speak to the director. The teacher knew (and knows - pincher practice is a lame excuse!) she is doing something you don't want. </p> <p>As for being concerned that she may not treat X as well, I am a teacher (and previously taught daycare) and a good teacher would never do that. However, this teacher is showing some other signs of not being a "good" teacher, so if it was me I would mention that concern to the director as well. I'd ask that she deal with this in an anonymous way that addresses feeding/parenting requests in a broad way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ugh-they-did-it-again#post-1153895 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:02:47 +0000 indi 1153895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: It's definitely worth tracking her down and talking with her tomorrow. The daycare teacher is clearly not listening to you, and her boss needs to deal with that (and part of dealing with that is making sure that Xander isn't treated any differently after you report). Ultimately, we are in charge of our kiddos as their parents, and sometimes that includes the awkward confrontation here and there. But it's the right thing to do and best for your baby, so don't feel one ounce bad about it! Go get 'em tomorrow. :-) </p>