https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 11 Nov 2026 02:26:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1147206 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:49:39 +0000 yoursilverlining 1147206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just talk to her and make it explicitly clear that you don't want your LO to eat anything you have not directly approved. Our daycare (at the age your LO is) feeds all sorts of foods each day and the restrictions are on what you've individually specified as "allergy/no" vs. a starting point of everything being "no" unless approved. I always thought that was the norm, rather than the other way around, and perhaps your caregiver assumed this as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1147200 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:39:03 +0000 shinymama 1147200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: completely agree. My daycare is a mother daughter team, and the daughter has to usually reign the mother in. She would never defy my instructions, but I think she feels like some theories didn't exist before and all turned out OK with my generation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1147196 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:34:44 +0000 Periwinkle 1147196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: she's middle aged, but seems to be unfamiliar with so many things that have just become part of my parenting know-how. I think this is just a reminder for me to be overly clear with her and express my instructions, even if I *think* she should already know something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1147159 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:17:38 +0000 matador84 1147159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is she older? i've noticed older caregivers aren't really all that familiar with food allergies and introduction of foods. i would be annoyed too, but i'm sure she had good intentions and just didn't want him to be hungry. over-bring food so she has no excuse to feed him something else and it should help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1147149 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 21:11:18 +0000 Periwinkle 1147149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that bringing his own food and having that conversation will help. I'm just so frustrated that she did something without my permission. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1146387 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 23:34:43 +0000 MaisyMay 1146387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like you may need to bring a stock of snacks and make it very clear that your LO is only to eat the food that you provide, regardless or how big or little the amounts that she gives. Hopefully your talk helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1146375 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 23:17:08 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1146375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. That would annoy the hell outta me too<br /> :-( hopefully it doesn't happen again after your talk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1146342 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 22:28:02 +0000 autumnlove 1146342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:-( that is annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unauthorized-food-vent#post-1146331 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 22:03:18 +0000 Periwinkle 1146331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While picking up LO from his caregiver today (in-home, through an agency), she mentioned that she thinks LO is still hungry after lunch and may need some more lunch or possibly a snack. No problem, that's what I have been thinking anyways (he's 11 months old). </p> <p>Fast forward 2 minutes. She then tells me that she has been giving him some banana from her house (which he usually doesn't like at home, but which I am ok with) and also some small pieces of a "Belvita" bar. First of all, I had no idea what Belvita is (I learned it's like a granola-esque breakfast bar, no nuts) and second, she was giving my LO something new without asking?!</p> <p>I calmly explained that I need to know what he's eating in case there are any reactions, and also that I would prefer for him to eat the food I provide. She seemed to not even process why this was a problem (she kept focusing on the fact that she was giving him small pieces) and did not seem to be concerned that this bothered me. </p> <p>We have loved our caregiver all along (he's been the since he was 3 months old), but I cannot wrap my head around why she thought this was ok. In the grand scheme of things, I know I do not have control over everything, but this just hit me like a ton of bricks today. Perhaps I was never clear with her about my expectations (I didn't realize I had to explain this!) but I am going to reinforce this on Monday. </p>