https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 23:54:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-963041 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 12:37:54 +0000 avivoca 963041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This just happened to me: A 'friend' had birthday gifts for her boyfriend sent to my house and then sent me a text after the fact. I opened one of the boxes, thinking it was something I ordered, and it was for him. She put them in my name, didn't tell me where they were from. I was just supposed to let her know when they got there. I definitely let her know it wasn't okay to do things like that, and she has a history of overstepping boundaries, so now I'm in the position of trying to make her see what's wrong or discontinuing the friendship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-962928 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 12:20:47 +0000 Maysprout 962928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I called out DHs friend today, it didn't seem like it got through still so DH is calling him later tonight to make things more clear because the guy is just being an entitled lazy brat and I'd probably end up saying just that to him if DH doesn't talk to him. We somehow get people who majorly overstep the bounds of friendship. We try to have a very welcoming house where people can stay (literally we've had house guests staying with us for many weeks for free) and go and share and most people know enough about boundaries and not being a burden but there's some who just really go too far. For me I mention things nicely in passing a couple times and if they don't change I really have to get stuff off my chest or I can't continue being friends at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-962854 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 12:06:04 +0000 Freckles 962854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will call the friend out nicely without being emotional. A friend once ditched me (not on purpose) on a trip, and i spent the entire afternoon alone. I told her later what she did and she apologized. If you feel like you can't let it go after a day, i'd bring it up for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960800 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:03:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 960800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It totally depends on the situation. If I think there is a chance it could happen again and she still wouldn't realize it, I might say something. If it was a one time thing, I'd probably just stew about it and not say anything. I'm thinking about one particular situation that still annoys me, but I never said anything because there was no way to make it better by that point and we won't ever be in a similar situation. But since i still feel some resentment about it, maybe I should have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960792 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 18:57:53 +0000 chopsuey 960792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Call your friend out nicely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960783 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 18:55:56 +0000 kjpugs 960783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard to say without knowing what it's about.</p> <p>I think if a friend did something inconsiderate likely without realizing, I would (in a neutral tone/location) say that I just wanted to let them know that XX, while I was sure she didn't do it on purpose, came off like ______ and hurt some feelings. (Or whatever the case may be.) Phrasing it just that you are sure she'd want to know since it wasn't on purpose and you're sure she wouldn't want to do it again. If I did that I would want to know for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960699 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 18:18:45 +0000 Dandelion 960699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said something to my aunt when she was inconsiderate once. She posted on Facebook at 730 in the morning that my grandpa died during the night. None of her siblings had had a chance to tell any of their kids, so we all found out online. I called her out on it. She never apologized, but she at least knows how I feel about it...and a few of my cousins were able to chime in and express their disappointment, too.</p> <p>If it's to ME, then yeah, I say something. I also say something if I'm with someone who is rude to someone like a server or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960691 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 18:15:49 +0000 autumnlove 960691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I'm sorry. I just stew about it and forget! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/under-what-circumstances-would-you-call-out-a-friend-for-being-inconsiderate#post-960679 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 18:13:16 +0000 Rubies 960679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very close friends of ours did something recently that I felt was VERY inconsiderate towards us and our group of friends in general. Now, because they are such close friends I am assured that it wasn't done purposefully and that it was just an oversight of some sort. However, I feel like someone should say something! DH thinks that because it wasn't on purpose I should just let it go.</p> <p>Under what circumstance would you say something?</p> <p>By defense is that if I had caused inconvenience to someone and didn't realize it, I'd want someone to tell me nicely so that I can apologize profusely and try to make things right! </p>