https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 01 Jul 2026 04:29:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195257 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:34:32 +0000 Mamaof2 2195257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@andthewildones: good point! I have a playful mindset and DH certainly does not!</p> <p>DH likes to do practical things with the kids: building something, washing cars, tinkering with tools, etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195230 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:19:58 +0000 BSB 2195230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH is more of a kid than I am, so I think he'll be a great dad. He's planning getting our kids into comics (both our son and our daughter.) I'm the one who is more on the cautious side so I'm sure I'll be the party pooper with some things. I think we'll both have to be the bad cop and good cop sometimes, but I might have to be the bad cop more often. Also, DH will be a SAHD, so I wonder how that will affect my relationship with the twins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195217 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:09:21 +0000 deerylou 2195217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Besides the obvious advantage of biology (i.e. women who can/choose to nurse), I'd say, not really. </p> <p>My husband and I have relatively different personalities. He's more patient, so I'm sure that gives him an advantage when DD decides to have a day of back-to-back tantrums. I'm far more organized, so I have the advantage when it comes to planning activities, and getting us out the door, with ease. </p> <p>Otherwise, we both explore our daughter's interests, without creating gender barriers. She's into dinosaurs, and dollhouses. She likes to watch my husband play soccer, and steal my lip gloss. So, it's pretty even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195214 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:08:45 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2195214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's advantage: he's so chill and let's LO climb and jump all over him. He's also able to just take more physical abuse (playing horse, for example).</p> <p>My advantage: I'm more aware about what items she'll need (ahead of time). Whether it be the next size up on shoes/clothes, sunscreen, crafts, toys - I'm on it before he even notices it's needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195205 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:01:36 +0000 daniellemybelle 2195205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a long time, it was the boobs. Now that LO is weaned, we are on pretty equal footing in her eyes, which I enjoy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195204 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:00:04 +0000 andthewildones 2195204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: i think the advantage would be thinking like a child, not all the listed activities or brands you mentioned. a boy or girl could be into any one of those things and we make it a point to show dd this. she likes bugs and camping and watching her dad work on the car as much as dress-up and mlp! the only advantage would be that mentality, not all parents have that playful mindset! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195131 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:01:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2195131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got one advantage (being a pediatrician), which is good because I have so many disadvantages! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195127 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:00:34 +0000 looch 2195127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is going to become more apparent when my son is older and we have to help with homework. I do not have a mathematical mind at all, so beyond rote memorization, my husband will have to intervene. I am a native English speaker, where my husband is not, so I think I will have an advantage with spelling, reading comprehension, writing, etc. Oh, and American History...although watch my husband put me to shame on that one.</p> <p>eta: I am learning about superheroes though...I just learned this weekend that Diana Prince is secretly Wonder Woman! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195122 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:58:21 +0000 Cherrybee 2195122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, this is an interesting one! I can certainly see where DH and I have disadvantages..... We're both very impatient people, for example. </p> <p>As E gets older, some of my advantages will kick in - for example, I love making things. I already plan lots of messy art projects with her, which she enjoys but doesn't quite "get". When she's a bit older, we can make paper mache models and stuff! :happy: Both DH and I are musical - our house is full of instruments one or the other of us plays. E loves to sing and dance so I'm confident she loves music too so when she's old enough to learn an instrument we will both have an advantage there as we can help her/ accompany her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195113 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:50:23 +0000 Anagram 2195113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I would call it an "unfair advantage", but my husband is a lot more energetic and patient than I am generally speaking, so he tends to be our daughter's favorite. He's "fun dad" for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195107 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:36:48 +0000 mrbee 2195107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msplatypus: We were hanging out with another couple, and the mom was talking specifically about us two dads! We are both really into comic books, Transformers and Star Wars LEGO, and our kids are obsessed with them too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195104 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:33:16 +0000 msplatypus 2195104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a pretty gendered view to think boys and men are naturally into transformers and video games, as many girls and women like these too and it has little to nothing to do with nature. I think advantages and disadvantages come with out strengths and weaknesses, but also taking the time to be interested in the things our children love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195097 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:27:42 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2195097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh...I don't necessarily agree with this. I think both DH and I each have our strengths and weaknesses. While he's not terrible at discipline, he's much more of a softee when it comes to DS than I am. I think it's because I've read up more on the subject. But he's definitely the more thoughtful one when it comes to DS. He thinks up fun, creative things to do with him...and that's just not my strong point. I love spending time with him, but I do the same, boring stuff. </p> <p>And in the first few months, I exclusively pumped since BFing wasn't working out. I think that really helped DH bond with him early and not depend on me for something huge like feedings. That's my own personal experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195092 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:22:08 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2195092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother is an expert on child development and behavior.<br /> Having her at my beck and call is amazing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195079 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:06:35 +0000 Truth Bombs 2195079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first year+ I had the very unfair advantage of having boobs and milk. Sorry hubster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unfair-advantages-in-parenting#post-2195076 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:04:01 +0000 mrbee 2195076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bee and I were hanging out with some friends this weekend who also have a boy the same age as our son. A mom said that the dads have an unfair advantage raising sons, because we're naturally into comic books, Transformers and iPad games. When I thought about it, having those shared interests with my kids has really helped a lot.</p> <p>But while it's true that I've bonded with my son over that stuff... I've also bonded with my daughter over My Little Pony! If the kids are watching cartoons, I usually watch the shows out of the corner of my eye and we talk about it afterward. I do think I have one advantage: I find it really easy to think like a kid. It's almost like I never grew up at all! Haha just kidding, sort of.</p> <p>My wife has a big advantage in that she is way more thoughtful than me with the kids. She thinks of the kids first, which doesn't come naturally to me.</p> <p>Do you or your SO have an unfair advantage when it comes to parenting? </p>