https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 23:22:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702825 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 12:47:10 +0000 travelingnanny 2702825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs microscope- No contract. I know, know. They have always gone above and beyond and it just never happened.</p> <p>@lbee I would normally agree with you that these conversations need to happen in person, but I want to include the boss who is overseas. The only way we can communicate is through email. It also gives my bosses time to think it over and discuss it without me there. That way they don't feel pressure to answer right away/ agree to something they might regret. I am paid legally so I could file for unemployment but I'm going to talk with them first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702820 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 12:03:07 +0000 erinbaderin 2702820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: I guess I didn't see it as a request so much as an offer? Just saying that she loves the family and knows their future plans are up in the air so if they're interested, she could make this arrangement for them to ensure that she's still available once they've decided. </p> <p>@travelingnanny: During this time would you be trying to find another short term gig? Maybe you could offer as part of the package to do a certain number of hours a week so the parents could have a date or run errands? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702810 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 11:31:13 +0000 LBee 2702810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to be the dissenter -- this comes from the perspective of someone who has worked with our nanny for 2 years. I don't think this is fair to both parties. Assuming you have been paid legally, I would just tell them they have to formally lay you off when the time comes and collect unemployment. I would also assume your contract would address this kind of situation - ours addresses severance and notice. I don't know their financial situation, but I know that I would not want to be paying someone half their salary when my income had been reduced substantially by not working. Moreover, you mention that the two options are for your employer to stay at home or work part time. Am I right in assuming that you would want full time employment anyways? </p> <p>As an employer, despite loving our nanny, I would be surprised by this request (especially in email, I think in conversation it could come up way more organically). I think the more normal route is to say that you are starting to plan for future as things quickly approach and you wanted to discuss the options - explain that you won't be able to hang around financially when they don't need you. If you are worth it to them (which I assume you are), they will ask how they can get you to wait.</p> <p>With all that said, you know your employer best. My response is colored by considering my financial situation if I stopped working and having been paying into unemployment / developing a nanny contract for these exact situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702808 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 11:26:02 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2702808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a contract? If so, enact the termination clause of that. If not, I think your 45 day notice is fair. They can't just string you along without pay. You have everright to find a new job, as you have to male a living. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702807 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 11:15:44 +0000 travelingnanny 2702807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin- I plan to ask for enough to pay my bills so that I won't put myself in a bad financial situation. In my proposal I plan to ask for 45 day notice once they make a decision. I think once they make a decision that will give me enough time to find something else. I'm taking some courses right now to give my portfolio a boost in case I need to find other work. It will all be ok in the end, I just hate that I can't plan ahead. </p> <p>@cole- I am FT right now. I work 60+ hours a week and do occasional overnights when needed. I will definitely use some of your wording in my initial email. Thank you for the help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702803 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 10:44:49 +0000 Cole 2702803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For right now you're fully employed by them though right? It's the limbo of not knowing when your job will end and if the end is temporary or permanent? Assuming you're fully employed until they come home, I think it's totally fair to ask that they pay you half pay until they have reached a decision. I would honestly go into the conversation saying something to the effect of "I am trying to figure out the best option for all of us given the current situation, one of my biggest concerns is my finances once X comes home and I'm no longer needed. I would really love to stay until then but it will put me in a tricky place to not have a pay check coming in while I look for work since planning ahead isn't easy given the circumstances." There's a chance they will come back and offer a better deal than what you were going to put on the table but if they don't at least you can still suggest it (I was a nanny for a long time and had a semi similar situation, they didn't want me to leave despite a 10 week gap in needing me and then needing reduced hours but suggested I do some personal assistant work for them and a friend and paid my full salary so you never know.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702795 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 08:40:58 +0000 erinbaderin 2702795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's totally fair to put forward as a proposal as long as you can live on that and aren't going to resent it if you wait around for a few months and then they decide to let you go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unique-job-situation-what-would-be-fair#post-2702789 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 07:59:47 +0000 travelingnanny 2702789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've worked for my nanny family for almost five years and they are amazing bosses. I'm so lucky to have found them. One of my bosses is currently out of the country for work and I can't say exactly when they will be home but it is awhile from now. The issue is that when my boss does come home they will no longer be employed by their current employer. My boss does not know if they want to find another job (part time) or just stay home with their kids. They did tell me when they do finally get home they want to take a couple months off to recoup and spend time with their kids. I totally understand and I can't imagine being away from my kids for so long. The problem is I can't plan anything. I don't want to start a daycare or find another NF incase they still need me. Since I'll be in limbo I was thinking of having them pay me half of what I usually make so that I can still pay my bills but also to hold me while they figure out what they want to do. </p> <p>Is that fair? </p>