https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 24 Jun 2026 13:08:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-186111 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 15:59:12 +0000 LuLu Mom 186111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Minnie_Girl: yeah that is my response right now. What really got me was her looking at my registry and saying "oh that's crap take it off and reigster for ____ instead." I think there is a better way to put it than that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185958 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:44:08 +0000 Minnie_Girl 185958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The unwanted advice drives me crazy. Especially the doomsday, complaining type. I just want to get sassy and reply with something like..."Gee, that sure sounds awful! I bet whining about it to me is a really effective way of improving the situation!" </p> <p>Instead I try to reply with some variation of "That's nice. We do/are going to do whatever works for us." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185891 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:15:03 +0000 heffalump 185891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go either way. Sometimes I lie and say, "good idea, I'll try that." and other times I say the truth, which is, "thank you for the advice, but I'm going to do this because it seems to work best for my LO."</p> <p>Either way, it's annoying. Hope your friend starts laying off soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185869 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:00:57 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 185869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just listen and nod. I figure they'll stop talking eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185864 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:58:54 +0000 LuLu Mom 185864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I'll give that a try, it might work with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185862 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:58:28 +0000 LuLu Mom 185862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I have cut back on the amount of time I have talked to her on the phone as that is usually when it happens. In person I just tell her to shut up, easier for her to recognize it in person! I don't' want to lose time with my Goddaughter just because my hormones are causing me to be a little bit of a crab apple! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185856 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:54:48 +0000 Modern Daisy 185856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually people just want recognition for having gone through it before successfully so I'll just say "That's great advice, it just have worked really well for you". 90% of the time people back down after you acknowledge that they have experience in the matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185852 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:49:33 +0000 mrbee 185852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it an option to just spend less time with her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unwanted-advice#post-185851 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:48:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 185851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you deal with unwanted parenting advice? I have a dear friend who I love, (I'm Godmother to her daughter so we are super close) she has always been very opinionated but I have just learned to deal with it. However, when it comes to baby stuff I just seem to get really annoyed. </p> <p>I have tried telling her to back off, I'm comforatble enough with her to be blunt, but it usually works for a week or two then the unwanted advice comes back! I don't want to snap at her because I know she is trying to help since she went thorugh this last year, but I just don't want to deal with it! I want to figure motherhood out on my own! </p>