https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 21:42:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205451 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 20:19:02 +0000 immabeetoo 1205451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I'm glad things are going better now. I would've killed for a 2+ hour nap, on me, at that age! He was taking 30 minute naps no matter where he was at, and usually on me. He is just now, knock on wood, starting to take 2 hour naps now that he's on a one nap schedule at 11m. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205431 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 19:44:56 +0000 .twist. 1205431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: ah thanks! That makes sense. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205390 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 18:58:46 +0000 Kemma 1205390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: @Cherrybee: the sleep consultant I saw said that as long as we maintained or stuck to our routine more often than not then we would probably be ok. I used to try and spend every other day at home or just doing short errands at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205298 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 17:31:42 +0000 Cherrybee 1205298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Im a virtual recluse these days! I let naps rule my life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205294 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 17:27:59 +0000 .twist. 1205294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: ah thanks. Yea, he just falls asleep in the car seat so easily. Either that or cries. Haha maybe I'm doomed Thor running errands! </p> <p>Thanks for the link I'll check it out! I so need to update my blog. Apparently lack of sleep makes blogging haaaard. Haha</p> <p>Thor = for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205242 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:58:43 +0000 Bookish 1205242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Eeee!! I'm SO happy to read this! I hope it continues to get better and better for y'all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205237 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:54:15 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1205237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: In response to your question about waking for naps, it depends on the age - check out this doc I linked in my blog post - <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/11GHo4keUb2TVJUlSL1kD6HQcEgaNFBmzoQoOzcpcyas/edit?authkey=CPXE1bsO&#038;hl=en_US&#038;authkey=CPXE1bsO" rel="nofollow">https://docs.google.com/document/d/11GHo4keUb2TVJUlSL1kD6HQcEgaNFBmzoQoOzcpcyas/edit?authkey=CPXE1bsO&#038;hl=en_US&#038;authkey=CPXE1bsO</a></p> <p>If your LO is 4 months (btw, I just checked out your personal blog and he has the same bday as my husband!) - that chart recommends cutting off nap lengths at 2.5 hours at 4 months. It also recommends no more than a total of 4.5 hours worth of naps in order to preserve night sleep... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205225 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:46:47 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1205225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: @.twist.: Oh, I'm so glad you guys found it helpful! :happy: </p> <p>@JoJoGirl: I'm in the exact same spot right now and doing what you're doing! My 2nd one, DS, is now 8.5 months and still sleeping from 7:30-5am (sometimes 6am, but with the time change we're back at 5 am). I do let him fuss a little and assess. I wait at least 5 min before going to him - sometimes it doesn't escalate and he'll just play in his crib or fall back asleep so I won't go to him until 6 am... other times he'll cry pretty loudly so I'll go to him immediately and nurse him. If I do nurse him, sometimes he'd go back to sleep and sometimes he'd be up for the day (when that happens we just have an earlier first nap at around 8 am). I almost always wait at least 5-10 min before any waking, day or night. Sometimes he's happy just being in his crib playing, sometimes he'll fall back asleep, sometimes he'll get mad and start screaming and that's when I know that it's definitely time to go get him! I assess each situation differently based on what I hear and see on the monitor, but I always take a wait and see approach and try to let him sort it out on his own first if I can. </p> <p>@.twist.: HB did not exist until Noelle was about 8 months, so I never heard the term "never wake a sleeping baby" until this site! So from the getgo, I always limited her naps and woke her up at certain times. It's soo awesome that you even HAVE to wake your LO because seems like a lot of babies nap poorly so I'd say that's a great thing!</p> <p>With errands and stuff, I limited my errands to things that could be done in the 2-3 hour window between naps! I just learned to pick and choose. Once they hit 6 months it's a lot easier to do longer errands because that's when they start the 3-2 nap transition. I felt like I got so much time back, especially since they only needed to nurse every 4 hours too. What a difference nursing every 4 hours makes compared to every 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205200 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:36:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 1205200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I'm really glad it's working so well. You are giving me hope! C has actually taken 3 naps today, two short and currently a 2 hour plus nap on me. Hopefully it means a happier bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205188 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:29:56 +0000 .twist. 1205188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: oh, also, what if Noelle slept past her 2 hour nap, did you let her sleep or wake her up? I'm always so conflicted... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205182 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:26:43 +0000 .twist. 1205182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: wow! Thank you so so much! I read through your sleep training posts and looked through your routines. I'm planning on implementing your daily schedule with Lukas ASAP. I was concerned about waking him up, because everyone says not to wake a sleeping baby, but that really messes with any naps for the day. I also would love to know how you did errands and stuff while sleep training? I feel like I'm going to be stuck in the house forever if he's on such a strict schedule. Noelle is such a beautiful little girl, I'm so happy that it worked for you and I feel even more confident that we are doing the right thing. Thaaaaank you! </p> <p>@Ms.Badger: he will sleep anywhere from 2 - 3 hours for a nap on me. However, he wakes up after 40 minutes in his crib. I know he's still tired because he's exhibiting a lot of sleep cues but he just has trouble staying asleep. I have found over the last couple days that if I leave him for a few minutes to fuss and cry he will fall back asleep quite quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205181 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:26:18 +0000 JoJoGirl 1205181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: Whoa this was really helpful. Sorry to threadjack, but if my 6 month LO is sleeping 7:30-5, eating, then *sometimes* going back to sleep until 7ish, would you count that 5am as a nightwaking and I should be letting her cry 10-15 mins? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205136 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:58:27 +0000 Ms.Badger 1205136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: are his naps usually 2 hours? My LO RARELY naps 2 hours, he naps more like 1:15 which is fine with me. Maybe if you're struggling with naps, 2 hours is just too long for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205127 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:54:11 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1205127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: so glad everything's better for you!! i just read through this thread, and there was a part where you mentioned you felt guilty for training her so young.... but if it makes you feel any better i did it even earlier so you aren't alone - <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/26/sleep-training-noelle-part-i/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/26/sleep-training-noelle-part-i/</a> </p> <p>she is turning 3 in january, and is such an affectionate, well-adjusted loving, happy girl! i often worried if i did the right thing or if i damaged her... but seems like she's ok. :) sleep is a wonderful thing for both baby and mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205097 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:33:56 +0000 googly-eyes 1205097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad things are much better!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205093 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:30:46 +0000 .twist. 1205093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: for naps the consultant suggested putting them in their crib for the nap and leaving them there for 2 hours. Honestly I've had a harder time with this part of the plan than the night time part. He doesn't seem to do as well with the nap part of the plan. Not sure what I'm going to do about that.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205091 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:29:37 +0000 .twist. 1205091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: @JoJoGirl: I think it's totally whatever you're comfortable with. I followed this woman's plan to the T (except for the no monitor business) because I have had information overload on what I should and should not do. So I needed someone to tell me exactly what my night should be. Which is why I cut them out cold turkey. I was thinking about re-introducing a feeding for night 2, but after talking with the second sleep consultant, I felt like I would be doing myself a disservice and taking us back a step if I started messing with the plan I'd already started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205073 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:22:10 +0000 lawbee11 1205073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Yay!! So happy to read this update! I wish M's nighttime sleep helped with naps. She sleeps like a rockstar at night (7:30-6:30 with one wakeup around 4), but her naps still suck :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205070 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:21:03 +0000 JoJoGirl 1205070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: @.twist.: I was going to say the same thing!! We still have one night feed... gosh I wonder if she could drop that one too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205067 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:20:15 +0000 Cherrybee 1205067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Whaaaat? He's sleeping through? With no night feeds?? Oh crikey.... Im not ready for that yet..... we are still eating twice in the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205060 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:15:20 +0000 .twist. 1205060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: oh no! I mean, we're only on day 4 tonight so there's still time for things to go awry! Haha </p> <p>@Cherrybee: yep. I do our night routine and then put him in his crib, tell him I love him and will see him in the morning. Then I close the door and walk away. I watch him on the monitor to make sure he's ok, but I don't check on him in his room. He hardly cries at all when I put him to bed now and when he cries in the night, it's only been about 5 minutes tops. However, the first night was terrible! I was up almost all night watching him because he was pretty upset. </p> <p>@Anagram: he's 4 months old. I hadn't night weaned at all until starting this. I bought a video from a sleep consultant and followed her night plan. She said that babies over 12lbs are capable of going 11 - 12 hours without eating, so it's important not to feed them because it just confuses them. She also stressed cutting them out cold turkey to avoid the process taking that much longer. The first night I did it was hard. I ended up calling a different sleep consultant that first day and crying to her about what a terrible mom I was and she only said what I was doing was right and that the first night is always hard and that it would get easier. And it has. But the second sleep consultant also stressed cutting night feeds cold turkey. Introducing a lovey and swaddling from the armpits down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205005 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:49:58 +0000 Smurfette 1205005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: yay!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1205004 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:49:08 +0000 JoJoGirl 1205004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>EEEEK HOORAY!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204999 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:45:07 +0000 BabyMats 1204999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is an amazing update.Hope things continue to go well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204996 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:43:34 +0000 Anagram 1204996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: sounds amazing! Had you already stopped night feedings before doing the sleep training? And how old is your LO? I can't rem ER exactly but I think you were close to my EDD? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204940 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:20:57 +0000 looch 1204940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great update! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204937 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:20:02 +0000 BananaPancakes 1204937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Glad to hear things are looking up!! You got this, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204882 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:05:14 +0000 Cherrybee 1204882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Wow! Its working! I'm so glad!! So, what, do you just walk out and let him cry until he goes to sleep? As long as it takes? (I put E to bed 15 mins ago and have been back in there 6 times so far to reinsert her dummy.... I'm so ready to sleep train but I haven't got to that bit in the weissbluth book yet!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204591 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 12:36:20 +0000 edelweiss 1204591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: so glad night 2 was a lot better and things are looking up! watch, you are going to have one of those great experiences where CIO works in a few days, a week tops. fingers crossed! know how long mine took? months of two steps forward, one step back, and plateauing at consistent crying for 20 minutes before falling asleep (that was "good"). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/update-on-my-bad-sleeper/page/2#post-1204546 Fri, 08 Nov 2013 12:24:15 +0000 .twist. 1204546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@RLCeigh: thanks! It really does suck, but things seem to be getting better. :) </p> <p>@Silva: that's where I was too. I was angry and resentful and lacked any patience. Which isn't fair to anyone in the family. </p> <p>@scg00387: thanks! L is great at taking 2 - 3 hour naps.... On me. Haha which wasn't working for me. CIO wasn't my first option, although, I've never been against it. I did exhaust a lot of other options before coming to this method. A week of every hour wake ups and 40 minute naps will really change a perspective! Haha </p> <p>@looch: thank you. I'm sorry for being so short tempered the other day. I was so insanely emotional. I completely agree that sleep begets sleep, and I tried a lot to get L to sleep. But he would only take 40 minute naps, most days he'd only take 3 of those. Which then just made night times even worse. </p> <p>@BananaPancakes: haha thanks for relating. I hope this all becomes a bad distant nightmare very soon! Haha</p> <p>@Kemma: yep, but the minute I'd start shushing and patting and then leave, he would freak out. He never responded well too shushing and patting. :/ I can't stay and do that all day long, and on such little sleep I didn't have the patience to do it all day long either. Which is why at some point I need to just let him cry it out. </p> <p>Thanks for everyone's suggestions and support. Night two was 50% better than night one and last night was amazing!! I almost got a full 12 hour sleep. He woke up a few times (5) and fussed for less than 5 minutes and fell back asleep each time. </p> <p>Since his sleep has gotten better, his naps have also improved immensely as well. He's also arms un swaddled which I was dreading, but he's adjusted to it like a champ. </p> <p>Our days are soooo much better already. :) </p>