https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 21:59:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-413375 Sun, 25 Nov 2012 13:18:33 +0000 lovehoneybee 413375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's family was really respectful when we asked them to keep it off-line...even though one BIL was bursting to share. I asked my dad and stepmom not to tell a soul, even my siblings, until we had. They respected it that time, but couldn't keep the actual birth off of FB. They announced it before we had a chance to, which really pissed me off. </p> <p>But I guess it's just really hard for some people to keep good news quiet, so I had to try hard to let it go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-413365 Sun, 25 Nov 2012 13:10:43 +0000 Smurfette 413365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would make me so mad! We told people nothing on FB till you see something from us and then it was just my SIL, which still annoyed me. I am already worried about how to handle the birth, since we are keeping the name a secret. I want DH or I to announce it not my SIL, cousins, aunts, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-413130 Sun, 25 Nov 2012 03:35:39 +0000 mrsjyw 413130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got lucky that everyone respected our news and ddint spill the beans on our behalf...id be SO pissed if someone had outted us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-413092 Sun, 25 Nov 2012 01:35:52 +0000 Boogs 413092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were so fortunate people respected our wishes. They also don't post on FB that LO was born until after we did and gave them the okay. Had people not respected our wishes I very likely would have flipped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412921 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:13:38 +0000 sorrycharlie 412921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: OMG! I am so sorry to hear about your nephew :( I hate when someone passes and everyone's status is "RIP!"...I mean aside from generally Facebook etiquette, I feel like rest in peace looks more respectful than RIP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412905 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 20:50:25 +0000 mlm2934 412905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: OMG!! how frustrating - i'm completely irritated on your behalf! not pregnant yet, but i already know that when i tell immediate family and close friends, it will be earlier than i want to share with others, so there will be a million disclaimers and swearing on their lives that they won't share our news. technology sure isn't good for secrets! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412647 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:38:36 +0000 lolabee 412647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry that happened to you! It is an awful feeling! My Mom told 3 people before we were telling anyone other than parents and siblings, which we made VERY clear. Needless to say we were pretty upset! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412646 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:37:33 +0000 HLK208 412646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry :( that's so rude! MIL did the same after we asked her not to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412644 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:34:10 +0000 boiledpnut 412644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: lol! Yeah, she's special. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412574 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 13:59:26 +0000 tororojo 412574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That really sucks! We ordered people who we told early not to tell anyone, but they kept pressuring us to let them tell--I have decided not to announce early to family in future pregnancies. I'm sorry they spoiled your news! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412565 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 13:45:36 +0000 blackbird 412565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man I was LIVID when this happened. DH's family shared and so did mine, despite us telling them NOT to share. Then, of course, I m/c, and was even MORE angry. This time, nobody found out until 12 weeks, and some were annoyed we "kept it from them". UGH i don't know why people think it's OK to share!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412557 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 13:29:36 +0000 MamaBehr 412557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to us too! My MIL was able to keep it a secret until we told our siblings, but as soon as our siblings knew she told the rest of DH's family. We didn't get to tell ANYONE on his side. It made me super mad, I totally get it. I'm sorry :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412521 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 12:24:45 +0000 Pink Champagne 412521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so obnoxious! We were ADAMANT about telling every single person, "We are not putting this on facebook," and I'm shocked that no one did. MIL is notorious for not being able to keep a secret, so we made sure to tell her like, 5 times when we shared the news that she wasn't allowed to tell ANYONE. Not family. Not her best friend. No one. The minute she was allowed to tell people, our whole family knew in about 30 minutes.<br /> Ugh, facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412502 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 12:01:39 +0000 prettylizy 412502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@boiledpnut: wow--- stalking eh? That's a little over the top :S Hi Boiledpnuts sister :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412501 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 12:00:37 +0000 prettylizy 412501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our family right after our BFP and put a gag order on everyone until the first trimester was over. That went really well until my sisters wedding (I was 6 or 7 weeks along at that point) and my overjoyed slightly intoxicated family started to spill the beans all night long as the party went on. I didn't want to make it about me (which is why I didn't say anything) but everyone found out anyhow. It wasn't the worst ever, but not what I envisioned either </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412491 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 11:25:52 +0000 boiledpnut 412491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So annoying! We told DH's parents not to tell anyone. Well, they immediately told people of course. When we found out we were having a boy, my sister, who I don't even talk to, somehow found out and started emailing all our mutual friends. They were all wondering why SHE was telling people and thought she was crazy. Turns out she stalks me on here and/or on WB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412435 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:38:39 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 412435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: I found out my great grandmother had 3 heart attacks in one night on Facebook. My mom had known for a few hours at that point and hasn't told her kids yet, but all my cousins knew. I was really mad. I hate finding out bad news on Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412418 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:26:38 +0000 singingbee 412418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next time we are pregnant, we will not be doing a big fb announcement, nor will we do a big announcement to anyone other than family. We did the "telling only family", keeping it off I fb until a safe time, and then lost our baby. We will probably be big and showing, but we don't want to do any big announcements unless they are family. We figure, they will spread the word when the timing is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412417 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:25:48 +0000 Bao 412417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG this happened to us, AFTER we told them NOT to post to facebook. We told our parents and my sister, as well as my BFF pretty early on. A week after we told DH's parents, his dad put an announcement on facebook. Wow you forgot in a week we told you NOT to tell facebook. His excuse was "I thought you already told facebook". Well, if you would go and look at our page you would know we didn't. People use facebook for everything and it annoys the crap out of me. I found out my nephew passed away, my grandpa passed away and my niece was born through facebook. My nephew had passed away 14 minutes prior...REALLY people!? That's all your thinking of in that moment is posting to facebook about the death of a baby? Sorry that turned into something more than pregnancy announcements, but my point being people need to learn self control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412415 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:25:03 +0000 Mrs. Train 412415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry I know it's irritating when that happens. I called my mom after I had my ultra sound and found out it was twins. I was so overwhelmed I forgot to tell her to keep it to herself. Well she called her sister who was talking to her sister in law. Her sister in law called her daughter who called her son. Five minutes after I talked to my mom the son at the end of that chain calls me to see if its really true. I was shocked that in five minutes it had spread so far. Five minutes after that I get another call from my cousin asking me why I hadn't told her yet. I just wanted to scream! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412399 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:04:22 +0000 mrbee 412399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Dang. Some people just can't be trusted, I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412397 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:01:49 +0000 sorrycharlie 412397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I also announced and in the same breath said "NO FACEBOOK!" which is really sad that I even had to say that. But even with that said, my aunt wrote, "X and Y (her sons), CALL ME! I have news about your cousin SORRYCHARLIE!!!!!!!!" and then 100 people commented on it asking if I was pregnant. I was so mad! I called her out on it, too. Maybe I'm just confrontational or hormonal, but I was so upset and felt as an adult she could handle listening to me be mad :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412393 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:58:34 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 412393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh noooo I would be sooo pissed!!! :( So sorry you didn't get to share the way you wanted to on your terms!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412392 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:56:52 +0000 nycbee 412392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That really sucks :-( it's YOUR news to share, when and where and how you want.</p> <p>I haven't told a number of ppl yet and realized there's a danger of it leaking out on facebook. I never remember to tell ppl not to say anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412388 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:54:53 +0000 MrsTiz 412388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhg, that's annoying. When we told immediate family I made sure to say that it was not allowed to leave that room, not to be put on social media and not to be told to anyone without ny permission. They probably thought I was being bitchy but ny SIL announced our engagement before DH even got off his knee. I wasn't taking any chances, it is our news to share </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412380 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:44:42 +0000 GrapeCrush 412380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we told our immediate family at 6 weeks. we told everyone to keep their mouths shut until my first appt(at 8 weeks) before telling extended family. all of a sudden i got a Facebook message from one of DHs friends congratulating us the next day!! i was so pissed </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412369 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:11:49 +0000 DillonLion 412369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, been there. I'm so sorry! Just remember who has trouble keeping quiet and you can wait to announce future pregnancy related things to them on a delayed schedule (my mom is on our list for this now unfortunately because she has ruined multiple pregnancy related moments) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412365 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:08:45 +0000 Mrs. Fix 412365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry! It's annoying that people have to be told "no Facebook" until we say so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412364 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:08:40 +0000 Andrea 412364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sucks, sorry that happened. </p> <p>Luckily, our families aren't into social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-its-not-your-news-to-share#post-412363 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:07:32 +0000 heffalump 412363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of the first words out of my mouth after, "I'm pregnant! " was "no telling facebook until ......" we actually requested that they didn't tell anyone at all until after 12 weeks, and then facebook a couple of days after 12 weeks so we could have time to tell people in person. </p> <p>So yeah id be pretty pissed. </p>