https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 29 May 2026 21:20:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661437 Tue, 27 May 2014 20:21:20 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1661437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: Hugs, friend. You know I'm here for you about this stuff!!! I just got a text from a friend that was meant to be "funny," with a link to an article about how hard it is to be a mom to a boy/boys. She sent it to me and another friend, and said to that friend (who has a baby girl) "Bet you're glad you have a daughter, W! Sorry ChiCalGoBee that you'll have a son and have to deal with this!" It just cut me down in a way I can't even tell you. People SUCK. Often, family-type people can suck the most. Hang in there :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661336 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:20:41 +0000 wonderstruck 1661336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: No, it makes me feel a little happy inside, haha. Which might say bad things about me. Eh, whatever. If it is a girl I'll have a niece to buy adorable things for. If it's a boy...all boys! I'm sure that will be awesome for them all growing up as cousins fairly close in age. And it will serve them all right for being so vocal and obnoxious about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661228 Tue, 27 May 2014 18:04:22 +0000 chopsuey 1661228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Sorry ppl are so dumb and annoying.<br /> You're so lucky you get to be mama to 2 boys!! </p> <p>And is it bad that I hope your sil's 2nd is a boy too? :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661221 Tue, 27 May 2014 17:55:20 +0000 namaste 1661221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. One of my friends has two girls and an mutual associate made a gross public comment about how they need to try again because they absolutely need a boy. You don't ever know what another person is feeling and those jokes are tired and just disgusting. </p> <p>I agree with making her posts show up a bit less on your feed. You definitely don't need that negativity. I hate that social media allows people to feel they can publicly weigh in on anyone's life without any repercussions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661161 Tue, 27 May 2014 17:05:24 +0000 Dandelion 1661161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: @wonderstruck: I said the same thing when I found out M was a boy. I guess I'll just have the girly stuff to myself (and my cat lol). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661151 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:55:58 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1661151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: Heads would roll for me too! My mom constantly tells me that if I have another boy, I HAVE to have 3 kids. I would have hid your SIL as well...there are just some things that are better not seeing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661110 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:36:16 +0000 wonderstruck 1661110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: They don't ever say anything to me directly, it's always through SIL. After posting this I did go and block her updates from my feed - I felt kind of silly doing that, but I just don't need to be seeing these kind of negative comments. It is hard to not say anything back, but it would be awkward to do so since they're not really saying it to me, and I think you're right that it would just make me feel worse. I will work on one liners and hope that I never have to use them, but if one of these remarks is ever said in front of my boys, then all bets are off and heads will roll! Okay, maybe not, but I'll work on the one-liners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661099 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:33:25 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1661099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: This exactly!</p> <p>I know that it's so hard not to snap back at these people, but doing so will only make you more upset. If someone ever says something to you directly, have some great one liners that you can come back with to let them know you're truly happy about your boys. All little boys love their mamas, and while there are a lot of women who really want a girl, it's really wonderful that children are coming into this world period whether they're a boy or a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661067 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:21:45 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1661067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People suck and really need to learn to think before they speak. I think a whole gaggle of boy cousins would be a lot of fun! And having a sibling of the same gender is great because you get to experience a lot of the same things together. My BFF has two boys and they are so cute playing together - she definitely takes the view that she is surrounded by handsome men. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661015 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:59:07 +0000 wonderstruck 1661015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: No, she's very firm on the Team Green thing and didn't look at the screen at all during the ultrasound! She's not the type that would keep it a secret, she is veryyyy open. Like, I could tell you how many inches her cervix is, and where on her butt she has stretch marks, etc. A bit of an over-sharer if anything, can't hold onto a secret to save her life, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661008 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:55:02 +0000 Chillybear 1661008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could she already know what she's having? maybe the tech slipped or she saw something (or thought she saw something) at the anatomy scan? She might be playing it up so people think shes still team green. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661007 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:54:23 +0000 wonderstruck 1661007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: That's exactly how I feel! And some of these people don't even have the common courtesy to say congrats before getting to the but! As if my baby having a penis is somehow really having an effect on anyone else. A new baby is a new baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1661003 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:52:44 +0000 MamaMoose 1661003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This kind of crap aggrevates me. Every baby should be equally celebrated and joyously welcomed regardless of gender. The "congrats BUT..." comments really make me angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660997 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:49:34 +0000 wonderstruck 1660997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Haha, I like that perspective! I will admit that I'm a sucker for Disney princess kind of stuff, and DH likes to tell me, "That's okay, this way you can be the princess and we can have a house of princes or pirates or whatever." Ugh, the next two comment would definitely irritate me! I've really never wanted more than two, but we'll see, I don't know if I'm ready to shut the door on it completely - we'll see how I feel in a few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660989 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:46:22 +0000 jedeve 1660989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the only grandchildren in the family (prego with boy #2) and people were definitely not that excited. No one said anything negative, but no one was like "yay fun boys!"</p> <p>DH and I both kind of wanted a girl, just for the novelty, but we weren't disappointed to find out it was a boy. Though I think everyone would be a lot more excited if it was a girl and that hurts. Everyone assumes we will have 3 or 4 though, so I think if #3 is a boy it will be harder. My MIL keeps telling me the next two can be girls. Next two???</p> <p>I see myself as an all boy-mama, which I *think* I would be OK with. I told DH I think it's my lot in life to be surrounded by handsome men. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660979 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:43:07 +0000 wonderstruck 1660979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: Nope, not really. These relatives are on my MIL's side of the family, so obviously my MIL is a girl. MIL has a daughter and a niece, and most of the people making these comments have at least one daughter. So while there are more boys in the family than girls, it's not an extreme situation like your brother being the first boy in 30 years.</p> <p>I do think she is setting herself up for disappointment. Towards the beginning of her pregnancy she seemed pretty even about it and like either would be great, but the further along she gets the more obvious and open she is about how badly she wants a girl. And now that we know we're having a boy it's gotten really bad - like she figures that out of 4 grandkids they can't possibly all be boys, so she MUST be having a girl. The way she talks about it, I can see her getting some, "Aw, too bad!" sort of comments before the congratulations. One of her aunts just commented and said, "As much as I'd like to say it's a girl, I think it's probably another boy." Geez. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660968 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:37:05 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1660968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: is there more to the story??</p> <p>My moms side of the family had only girls for EVER. I think my brother was the first boy in 30 years. My great-grandfather only had girl grandchildren and great grandchildren. He passed before my brother was born. Chloe was then the first girl in 20 years... So that whole side of the family joked about "finally" a boy, though we are having another girl! So..</p> <p>I'm worried your SIL is setting herself up for disappointment. I can understand the excitement around guessing and wondering, but they're kind of acting like its certain and final and official. What happens if she has a boy? Will she get "I'm sorrys" instead of congrats?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660911 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:18:33 +0000 autumnlove 1660911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm so sorry. :(</p> <p>My FIL told everyone that his sons can only have girls because they don't work hard and do manual labor like him. They are too lazy to make sons. Uh huh. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660898 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:12:23 +0000 snowjewelz 1660898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: at least someone's always on your side :happy: I wish they'd just stop saying "oh we think it'll be a girl" and meanwhile we just don't want guesses till we can be sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660884 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:07:17 +0000 wonderstruck 1660884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: Right?? It would be awful! Although if she has a girl then there will be all the comments about how nice it is that somebody FINALLY had a girl, and I will be almost 9 months pregnant and might totally lose my shit on someone. So yeah, hiding her posts for the time being is probably the way to go.</p> <p>Thank god for my MIL, who refuses to make a guess (despite the fact that she gets asked constantly) and says that she loves the boys, they're tons of fun, and she will be perfectly content either way. Sometimes she can bug me but I'm so grateful that she has my back on this.</p> <p>@snowjewelz: I am happy to have some company in the terrible camp! LOL. My DH felt the same way as me about the daughter thing, so at least I have him to vent to and understand, that has made it easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660869 Tue, 27 May 2014 14:58:49 +0000 snowjewelz 1660869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll join you in the terrible camp! My SIL already has a boy and they think #2 will be a girl. I haven't even had #1 yet but I'm already jealous of everyone that gets to have 1 of each lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660867 Tue, 27 May 2014 14:58:37 +0000 MrsH 1660867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd tell people who comment on your family makeup to STFU. I'd also hide your SILs posts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660866 Tue, 27 May 2014 14:57:46 +0000 Espion 1660866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is bringing a firestorm on herself. If she has a boy, then will the entire family say "too bad" instead of "congratulations"? That is already an awful way to react, but if they are doing it now, then I shudder at what inappropriate comments they'll make when she's postpartum and hormonal. </p> <p>I'd tell my family to buzz off if they said that. Boys are awesome!</p> <p>ETA: Oh yeah, do the drop down menu thing and see if you can choose to see her posts less frequently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-stupid-family-reactions-about-boy-2#post-1660851 Tue, 27 May 2014 14:53:55 +0000 wonderstruck 1660851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know we've talked before about stupid comments people make about 'trying again for a girl/boy' when you're on baby #2 and it's the same gender as the first, but I just want to punch some of my DH's family right now. And I just need to whine to someone about it.</p> <p>DH's sister is expecting a baby a month before us and has decided to be Team Green this time - she also has one other child who is a boy. So all the grandkids are boys so far - those who are already born or who we know the gender of, anyways. She is constantly posting bump photos on FB and asking what people think she's having - and every damn time, I have to see all these comments about how she must be having a girl because our family has too many boys, and how big brothers need a little sister - one person went as far to say that it was 'too bad' my DH and I are having another boy, because having one of each is soooo awesome!</p> <p>And I will be honest. I'm already struggling with this - I'm doing a lot better now, but I am still kind of sad about the fact that I will probably never have a daughter. And the last thing I freaking need is people who we only even see every 2 or 3 years putting their own stupid negative opinions out there. Also, I'm a terrible SIL, because I find myself wishing she would stop being Team Green so that the incessant guessing and comments can come to an end, and I also find myself almost hoping she's having a boy even though I know she wants a girl. I know, I'm terrible. But with the comments about too many boys, the boys needing a little sister, SIL going on about all the reasons she thinks it's a girl and how great it will be, people telling my MIL they're sorry she might not be getting a granddaughter...I just can't take it anymore. I'm already pregnant and hormonal and I just want to fast-forward to October so this can all be over, SIL's baby will be here so the comments will hopefully lessen, and I'll finally be holding my baby in my arms so I can really fall in love with him and not give an eff. I can't deal with these people. I should probably just either block them from FB or change the settings so that SIL's posts stop showing up on my feed. </p>