https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 17:37:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839268 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 18:01:20 +0000 wrkbrk 2839268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Agreed. I hope so! Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839266 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 18:00:10 +0000 Adira 2839266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: Yeah, having potty trained two boys, I do think the author is a little full of it with the timing. She basically says do it after two, but before three or you're in for a world of trouble!! But I think waiting until they are actually interested is the easiest way, if you can wait them out. The method itself definitely works though! Hopefully your son will show some real interest soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839265 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 17:55:41 +0000 wrkbrk 2839265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Her issue with it was the author acted like they’re ready whenever after two. Like pick a time and GO. Not the case (at least for us)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839264 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 17:51:36 +0000 Adira 2839264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: hahaha! I think Oh Crap works... just better when the kid is actually on board! 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839263 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 17:47:22 +0000 wrkbrk 2839263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: My wife wants to wait him out!!!! She wasn’t a fan of the OC method - to put it mildly. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839262 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 17:31:10 +0000 Adira 2839262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: The first week of potty training is hell, even if your kid is motivated like my first one was! But everything I've read (besides the Oh Crap book) seems to indicate that letting them decide when they are ready really is the easiest way to do it. So if you can just wait him out, I would. I wanted to wait with Logan because I knew he wasn't interested, but my husband was adamant on training him. I think that's part of why it was so hard and took so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839261 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 17:20:20 +0000 wrkbrk 2839261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Thanks for responding! Even your long-ish journey sounds like wishful thinking to me at this point after dealing with the three days from hell last month. I hope something will magically dissolve his desire to say NOOO when anything potty related comes up once he sees kids going at school :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839259 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 16:38:22 +0000 Adira 2839259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: Yes! He was basically fully pee-trained a week after we started bribery, which was right around when he turned 3. He only had a few accidents after that, which was a relief. We continued with rewarding him with chocolate for a month and then tapered off. He still wasn't poop-trained though - he went in his nap diaper or bedtime diaper for months! Finally around 3.5, he tried to poop on his own on the potty, basically unprompted, and I rewarded him with a ton of chocolate, haha. He also struggles with constipation, so I tweaked his diet and explained how the change would help him poop, and now a month later, he's fully poop-trained too.</p> <p>So it definitely took a lot longer than I was expecting, and he still won't use a public toilet, but he got finally got there! Hopefully when your son sees other kids using the potty at school, it'll motivate him to do it too, but even if it doesn't, don't get too discouraged. They all get there eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2839256 Sun, 12 Aug 2018 15:47:06 +0000 wrkbrk 2839256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Hi! I just read every single comment on this thread after a failed long weekend Oh Crap method over July 4. I know my frustration, like many people here, just made my son refuse. Started out ok, and he DOES understand, but after 2 days he simply refused to go on the potty and I tried to make him he screamed and cried. So my wife pretty much forced us to drop it.</p> <p>Well, tomorrow, he starts the "3s" room at daycare and they have potties in the room and actively take the kids. In the "2s" room, they did not. I heard that nearly every child in his new room is potty trained so I am PRAYING that that motivates him. He isn't 3 until November but many of the kids in the new room already are.</p> <p>Like others, he eats better at school and generally follows the crowd so I am hoping this works in our favor and I can bring up PT at home again in maybe a month.</p> <p>I assume your son is fully PT now?? LOL! Give me hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791464 Tue, 12 Dec 2017 12:31:56 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2791464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: Actually, daycare was so much better than at home. He used underwear at home and daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791428 Tue, 12 Dec 2017 09:00:24 +0000 Adira 2791428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: The first few days of daycare will be hard, so expect accidents and make sure you praise him for any successes! Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791427 Tue, 12 Dec 2017 08:53:09 +0000 LadyDi 2791427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Thanks for the encouragement. Today is his first day at daycare and first day with underwear, which he was super excited about (sooner than I would have liked for the underwear but daycare requested it). Fingers crossed there aren't too many messes. I am interested to see how he does at daycare, he typically is more compliant there (for example, he is a super picky eater at home but he'll eat almost anything I send into school). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791310 Mon, 11 Dec 2017 15:20:10 +0000 Adira 2791310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: Yes! I got bogged down in the Oh Crap! book when it came to behavior. Logan had peed on the potty and he was doing it for Hubs mostly without issue, so I KNEW he could do it. Oh Crap! goes on and on about how if you feel bummed, then your kid probably needs more learning, but if you feel frustrated, then it's probably behavior and you need to nip it in the bud! So I was trying to treat his peeing on the floor like any other unwanted behavior, but that was just making him dig his heels in and resist potty training even more!! When I finally tried relaxing more and even started bribing him, he finally was willing to do it, and now goes potty unprompted on his own (twice a day still, because he's a camel). I had to let him figure it out on his own (with a treat as incentive to do it).</p> <p>The first week for any kid is hard though. Even with my oldest, who was excited about potty training and really didn't need any incentive to get motivated and do it, the first week was hard. MULTIPLE accidents. But with him, I could tell he was really trying - he just wouldn't make it to the potty in time, so I didn't feel AS frustrated as I did with my youngest. </p> <p>My youngest would show signs that he needed to go potty, I'd say "Time to potty!" and he would say "No!" and then IMMEDIATELY pee on the floor. It was becoming more of a power struggle.</p> <p>So definitely give it some more time. Try not to get too frustrated - the first week is hard with ANY kid. But also try to figure out what you think will work with YOUR kid. Some kids might need more incentive than others or be more stubborn or be more independent. With my oldest, I had to remind him constantly to go potty and that worked for him. With my youngest, I CAN'T remind him - I have to let him remember to do it on his own, and that seems to work for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791307 Mon, 11 Dec 2017 15:11:08 +0000 LadyDi 2791307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: It makes me feel better that you feel more successful after a couple weeks because after yesterday I was ready to throw in the pee-soaked towel. I know it was only three days but I had expected more progress. </p> <p>I do think he's better with DH than me for pretty much the same reasons that you said. DH is more relaxed and more patient. I get frustrated easily and I think it's stressing him out. I do think there are more rewards and potty screen time in his future. I think I am getting too bogged down in sticking with the "rules" of the program and not trying to figure out what works best for us. I am so glad you've seen improvement! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791292 Mon, 11 Dec 2017 14:24:04 +0000 Adira 2791292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: The first week was PURE TORTURE!</p> <p>Logan is a camel and he's also really stubborn and independent. He did great naked the first day and took himself to the potty, but then he had multiple accidents once he had pants on. He also started to really resist being prompted. He'd hold his pee all day at daycare (if he could) and then he'd refuse to sit on the potty when we got home and would just pee all over the floor (in his pants). I was getting so frustrated and I think my frustration was making him resistant to the process and it was just not getting any better. Finally after a week, I realized he was peeing on the potty better for Hubs than for me and that Hubs was being more carefree about the whole thing than I was. I decided to back off and try to go back to Day 1 and 2's carefree attitude and try not to be so frustrated. I TRIED to go back to naked day, but Logan would just go get a pair of pants and put them on, so that didn't work!</p> <p>Finally on Saturday after he peed on the floor AGAIN (basically a week + 1 day after we started potty training), I decided to try something new: BRIBERY! I told him if he peed on the potty, he'd get some Chocolate Skippers (m&amp;ms). Well that got his attention! He sat on the potty multiple times, trying to earn Chocolate Skippers. And once he started to actually GO in the potty and get rewarded for it, we've had ZERO accidents since!!!</p> <p>He still poops in his nap or nighttime diaper though, but that's a battle I'm not willing to tackle at the moment! I've promised him a LOT of Chocolate Skippers if he poops in the potty (he gets 2 Chocolate Skippers for pee, although we started off with 5-6 the first week), but he hasn't done it yet. I think that first time pooping on the potty traumatized him and he's not ready to try again yet.</p> <p>He's also a complete camel - he holds his pee all day at daycare if he can and then will run to go potty as soon as we get home!</p> <p>Good luck!!! Potty training is HELL but it's worth it in the end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2791285 Mon, 11 Dec 2017 14:06:37 +0000 LadyDi 2791285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: How has potty training gone over the past few weeks? I was reading this thread this morning after a long weekend of not very successfully trying the oh crap method and I am feeling pretty defeated. We had some pees and poops on the potty over the weekend but it seems like going commando has been hard for him and we had a lot of accidents yesterday and supposedly today (he's with my FIL today). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2787307 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 19:30:04 +0000 Adira 2787307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No accidents today, but be only went potty 2.5 times and I'm pretty sure he has to go poop but won't go on the potty... I'm actually hoping he goes in his diaper tonight because I'm worried about constipation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786990 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 21:16:12 +0000 Adira 2786990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786989 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 21:10:59 +0000 SweetiePie 2786989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I updated with an ETA after you read it I think. Just added how we got to being in underwear 99% of the time (pee trained). In case it helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786986 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 21:08:02 +0000 Adira 2786986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Thanks. I appreciate the advice and support. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786985 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 21:04:18 +0000 SweetiePie 2786985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I really don’t think giving a diaper back will create a major setback. We stopped and started a couple of times wanting it to happen but he just wasn’t ready. We finally laid off from 2.5-3 and at 3 he pretty much just did it. Pee trained. And night trained. Something at that stage clicked and we did very little to make it happen. And because he was ready and it was on his terms, we very rarely have an accident. Like I’m not saying this to be an a-hole, but it already sounds like you’ve cleaned up more pee than I have and he’s been exclusively in underwear for 2 months now.<br /> I was admittedly stressed and worried that he was one of the last of his “friends” to be in a diaper but now that we are on the other side I’m so glad we went with patience. </p> <p>ETA: to get him fully pee trained we did a modified version of Oh Crap. I didn’t try to do an immersive boot camp. But we had diaper free time for an hour in the morning and for part of the afternoon. He maybe started to pee once and caught himself in time. And really from there it was smooth sailing. When we had to go somewhere we put a diaper on. For maybe 1-2 weeks? And then when he was consistently doing well at home we experimented close by our apt. And when that went well we did underwear for larger outings. So we just did it very gradually over a couple of weeks. Going back and forth with diapers and underwear over those couple of weeks had no impact. </p> <p>He still asks for a diaper to poop. He went twice in his little Mickey potty. I tried one day to really push it and force him to go on the big potty sorta “oh crap” style (refused to give him a diaper). And he just got really upset and constipated. I asked my ped at the next appt (his 3yr well visit was a week later) and she said just stop. He isn’t ready and that’s normal to be peeing in the potty before pooping. She said if we force it again it could traumatize him and we’ll have a much harder battle. And she’s a very tough love kind of doc - told me to cio at 4 months, wants to do everything cold turkey, etc. I expected her to be very pro “oh crap” but it’s the one thing she’s surprised me on. </p> <p>So I ask him every time if he wants to try the potty. We have a paw patrol tower ready to go for when he does and he knows. He asks to see it sometimes. But he knows it will be in the box until he poops on the potty. He’ll occasionally sit but 9/10 times he says nope and we just say ok. I know he won’t be wearing diapers to kindergarten and “when did he potty train” won’t be on his college application.<br /> I just feel no stress about it and I like it that way.<br /> Sure, I’m ready for him to be fully poop potty trained. But if he’s not ready it doesn’t matter much if I am. And right now cleaning up messes all day from clothes, floor, etc sounds more stressful than a poopy diaper once a day or so. </p> <p>I say all of this not to pass judgement, but to just let you know that deciding to stop and take a break isn’t necessarily a bad idea. Sometimes it’s what you need to do and there’s no shame in that (just like sleep training, getting rid of a paci, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786971 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 19:37:16 +0000 Adira 2786971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Yes, because that's what he wants - his diapers back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786966 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 19:26:42 +0000 gingerbebe 2786966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Is a diaper a reward tho? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786965 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 19:25:52 +0000 Adira 2786965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I'm worried going backwards will just reward his behavior... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786963 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 19:23:46 +0000 gingerbebe 2786963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Sigh. You may just wanna back off for a few days. Put him back in a pullup and then just tell him to let you know if he needs the potty.</p> <p>Another friend of mine puts a pull-up or diaper OVER underwear so they can feel the wetness, but not make a mess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786960 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 19:10:08 +0000 Adira 2786960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Just peed on the floor AGAIN.</p> <p>@theotherstark: No, but I can't even get him to admit he has to go. This last time, he started to say he had to go potty and when I prompted him to go, he said he didn't have to go and then peed in his pants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786953 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 18:39:07 +0000 theotherstark 2786953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: have you tried having him stand? H never had a problem sitting on the potty, but he likes it standing much better!! You can toss in a little wad of toilet paper and have him aim for it, etc. We still go into the bathroom when H goes, so there aren’t any aim/miss issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786951 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 18:35:57 +0000 gingerbebe 2786951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Deep breaths. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786950 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 18:34:45 +0000 Adira 2786950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Gahh, I spoke too soon. He refused to sit on the potty after dinner and peed on the floor again. I'm so sick of this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training/page/3#post-2786946 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 18:26:37 +0000 gingerbebe 2786946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Woo hoo! </p>