https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 06:42:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172348 Tue, 29 May 2012 14:39:18 +0000 heffalump 172348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our hospital also doesn't allow non sibling children. They told them my niece was my daughter so she could come in, which didn't bother me at all. She is 6, and I figured if she didn't come then we'd just see her in a day or two anyway, and it was important to DH that she come. We also had a 2 year old visit. They weren't supposed to, but she managed to sneak in the room. Again, I didn't mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172338 Tue, 29 May 2012 14:34:51 +0000 Mrsbells 172338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my hospital seemed pretty relaxed, my 3 year old niece was allowed in the day I gave birth </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172285 Tue, 29 May 2012 14:13:07 +0000 MaisyMay 172285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: I don't know that it'll come to that. She'll probably get herself into a snit and then decide I don't want her here anyways. If I need to though, I'll send her a pic of the hospital policies. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172274 Tue, 29 May 2012 14:05:07 +0000 purrpletulips 172274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maisymay: Could you ask the hospital for some sort of documentation to support what you are telling your sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172256 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:55:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 172256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan on (depending on the time of day) allowing our immediate families to visit us the day of the delivery. We will welcome friends/extended family after that. If there is a complication or our baby needs extra attention then only immediate family will be allowed and we will allow other visitors once we are home and settled. </p> <p> If I'm feeling overwelmed or tired we will ask people to leave...I'm okay with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172214 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:37:44 +0000 Pipers Mommy 172214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had lots of visitors, but I was more than OK with it, and my 4 year old nephew and 6 month old niece came to see us too, not sure if our hospital had rules against it, but no one said anything to us, and I have to say they were really well behaved. </p> <p>Like PP said, stick to your guns, who visits you in the hospital should be entirely up to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172213 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:37:27 +0000 MaisyMay 172213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister (twin) is the kind of person who called me the day after my wedding, asked if she was going to be my maid of honor (no) and proceeded to hang up and call my mom saying that I had said she wouldn't be in my wedding. I hadn't said that, just that she wasn't my maid of honor. That's just one example of what I've dealt with in regards to her. </p> <p>Her logic now is that since I was there when her baby was born, she gets to be here for mine. She's turning this into a "if you don't want me there, you don't want me in your life" sort of thing, making it into an I don't approve of her and her son type of situation. I told her yesterday that she can come if she wants, but that her son won't be allowed back, per hospital policy, but of course I'm the evil one here.<br /> Thanks all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172201 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:27:52 +0000 plaidpants 172201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: That's so frustrating! Childbirth is such a personal thing - you should be able to go through it the way YOU want. It's so sad that your sister is making this about her, instead of helping you have the most positive, least stressful experience possible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172198 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:25:58 +0000 MamaMoose 172198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: Yuck. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. We are still choosing a hospital so I'm not sure of the policy. But why on Earth would she question you?? And honestly, even if that wasn't a policy but was just your personal choice not to have your nephew there, she should respect that!! I would think any one would understand not wanting a 4 year old child and their germs and their craziness around a new born baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172197 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:24:48 +0000 mrs. wagon 172197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: haha, I totally missed that and thought he was 8. Yeah, is there anyone who can come with her and sit with him in the waiting room while she visits with you? If I were you I would NOT feel comfortable letting him in the room... especially if it's against hospital policy!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172193 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:21:30 +0000 MaisyMay 172193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: He's not even 8, he's 4. I think the hospital policy is that you need to be over 8. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172191 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:20:49 +0000 MaisyMay 172191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: It's an awkward situation. She lives about 3 hours away, and wouldn't be able to afford a hotel room, so my mom would have to get her one if she comes to visit. Plus, we've always had a tumultous relationship. She got very upset with me because I told her that she was more than welcome to come as long as she didn't cause any drama, which she then immediately started to do by questioning the age thing. She had two SIL's who've given birth in the last month, and he son was able to visit them that day/the next, but they were in different hospital systems (CHW and a city hospital), whereas I'll be at a Kaiser facility which has a different policy. Fun, Fun, Fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172188 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:18:22 +0000 mrs. wagon 172188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our hospital has crazy tight security-- you have to get a photo badge made to even get access to the labor/delivery and postpartum floors. And like your hospital, no non-sibling child visitors. But somehow kid visitors got through anyway-- and we got through with Wagon Jr. when he was a baby too, to visit another new baby. Maybe because we were all asian, they assumed we were all family :) We didn't mind because we had a pretty open door policy with visitors. We got so many, we were the talk of the floor. </p> <p>Stick to your guns about the policy... there's no need for an 8 year old ADHD kid jumping all about your room with you in recovery and a newborn sleeping. What if he busts in when you're trying to nurse for the first time? He can stay with a sitter or his dad when your sister visits, and he can see the baby when you get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172185 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:16:56 +0000 plaidpants 172185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the hospital where I gave birth, anyone was welcome during "traditional" visiting hours, including non-sibling children, but at least hours were limited - 2:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. But that's just the post-partum ward. I don't think any non-siblings would have been allowed in Labor &amp; Delivery at all. </p> <p>It seems unfair for your sister to put you in that position! Most moms are home within a couple days of giving birth. I'm sure she's excited for her son to meet your baby, but can't she wait 48 hours so you can be home and comfortable? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172176 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:12:47 +0000 SugarplumsMom 172176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hospital doesn't allow any visitors during or after birth, thank goodness! So ppl around here don't expect to visit at the hospital ... but once home, that's another story because I heard they expect to fika (coffee &amp; pastries)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-delivery#post-172150 Tue, 29 May 2012 13:01:13 +0000 MaisyMay 172150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister started bugging me yesterday about whether I'll let her be at the hospital when I give birth. I told her that she could be there, but she wouldn't be in the room with us (okay so far), but also that he son wouldn't be allowed into the maternity ward as he'll only be 4. She was really upset by this, but I told her that it was hospital policy that all non-sibling visitors had to be over 8. Now she's convinced that I'm making this up because I don't want her there. He's a great kid, but can be pretty hyper (ADHD).</p> <p>What policy did your hospital have about visitors after birth? What about non-sibling children? </p>