https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 21:29:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789330 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 11:39:35 +0000 MsBAM 2789330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nutella: Definitely better to go meet people if they’re gonna stay all afternoon.... holy!!! Plus it’s nice to take LO’s out and get some fresh air :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789320 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 11:14:36 +0000 Nutella 2789320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsBAM: yep I feel you - it’s a royal pain when people don’t leave! I’m almost scarred from the time I had a sleeping baby, my older child at daycare and a whole afternoon to sleep (2 weeks old)... and a friend wouldn’t leave! I quickly learnt after that to meet that person out of the house!<br /> I agree with sweetiepie though, you probably just need to push back if it’s nap time. People will understand if they are onto it. And if they don’t, they will get over it once they go home and sleep for many continuous hours at night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789309 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 09:59:02 +0000 MsBAM 2789309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: This person is close to me and only comes once in a while (not often), so I feel bad....But at the same time he needs his sleep...I know I need to be more firm though.</p> <p>MIL is really respectful about his sleep thankfully! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789301 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 09:26:30 +0000 SweetiePie 2789301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsBAM: I know I said this to you before but this one person who is keeping the baby up - and I say this to be helpful not to be mean - that’s on you. If baby is due for a nap you take the baby from the other person, say it’s nap time, say “night night Grandma!” and leave the room. There’s no such thing as a visitor keeping the baby up. </p> <p>Period. I’m assuming the person is MIL :silly:<br /> No one dictates your baby’s schedule but you. If she can’t respect that or throws a fit, she no longer visits. End of story.<br /> You have to set these boundaries now so that they don’t come back and bite you later. YOU ARE THE PARENT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789295 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:53:59 +0000 MsBAM 2789295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Oh I know. I feel the same! Baby’s sleep time is precious to relax or even just shower!</p> <p>@Littlebug: @MrsLemonline: I hate when people overstay and it interfere with routines... like he’s getting tired or fussy, that is your cue to leave...<br /> Thankfully most people ask if it’s okay to come first. But when people can see baby is yawning, rubbing eyes....and even when I say he’s tired they decide it’s a good idea to stay and keep him up... thankfully that’s just one person...</p> <p>I think some people think we do nothing all day on maternity leave.....and can just come whenever they want... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789289 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:40:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2789289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My bro and his gf overstayed their welcome their first visit. I didn’t give them a set time to come, but in my mind I figured 2 hours would be there max visit time. Based off that max time I told them the latest they could come over. In those early weeks DH and I split evening duties so each person could get a 4-5 hour stretch of sleep. When the visit started impacting our routine I kicked them out. I could have let them stay a little bit longer, but that meant I would have to nurse the baby in my bed again and the sofa was more comfortable. Make the visits work for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789288 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:38:10 +0000 littlebug 2789288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much laid out a rule of "don't leave your house or head my direction until you check with me to see if it's a good day/time." If they texted and I said no, they had to deal with it. I did not care about hurting feelings when I was on maternity leave. I felt like crap, my baby nursed non-stop, and 80% of the time I was in NO WAY up for entertaining guests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789285 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:30:15 +0000 SweetiePie 2789285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m an introvert so I personally wanted no visitors while baby was sleeping. That was time for me. To sleep, to watch Netflix, to shower, etc. If someone wanted to visit I insisted it was when the baby was awake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789280 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:12:40 +0000 MsBAM 2789280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: @adira: Exactly! The way I handled it was I said that’s fine, but LO might be sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789278 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:07:34 +0000 Adira 2789278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was my biggest pet peeve after having a baby! Most people were super accommodating and seemed to understand that there would be times of the day that were better for me and the baby and times that wouldn't, and worked around my schedule. But then there was this ONE person that wanted it on THEIR schedule and when I wouldn't give it, tried to guilt me into it!</p> <p>This is the time to start sticking up for what's right for YOU and your family! Don't let others walk over you because they'll never stop doing it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789275 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 08:03:08 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2789275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if the time doesn't work for you, do what they did and say something. I've had to change visit times (visiting a newborn) and it was either change it or don't visit and the new mom was fine with it, but I wouldn't have been offended if she said no, either. </p> <p>Although I do get how hard it can be to schedule around naps and constantly changing plans (certain friends and family, we all have those!) are annoying, IMO expecting everyone to automatically revolve their schedule around your baby's is not really fair or realistic, but then there can also be reasonable expectations like not coming after a certain time and understanding that certain times may not work. </p> <p>But first I think speak up- they may be more willing than you think to work with lo's schedule but they don't know it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789274 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 07:46:04 +0000 MsBAM 2789274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello,</p> <p>This is just a vent. Anyone else find it irritating when people tell you what time they can come visit? I’m the one with the baby. So pretty sure you should ask what time is good for me and stick to it. Well this person asked but then pretty much changed the time a few days later to a time that was convenient for them....</p> <p>So annoying when you try to plan visitors around LO’s naps and you BF to sleep for naps...oh well LO’s naps aren’t changing that day. </p> <p>Maybe I’m overreacting but I find it frustrating... I also hate when visitors are late or overstay their welcome.... anyone else feel the same? Thanks for listening :) </p>