https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:28:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more/page/2#post-2280484 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 13:16:15 +0000 Raindrop 2280484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were always on the fence about 3. We definitely wanted 2 no questions asked but 3 we were unsure of. My last birth experience was kind of crazy and I’m not sure if I want to go through that again but thinking of LO #2 as our last baby is kind of making me sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280475 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 13:03:44 +0000 jedeve 2280475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: thank you for saying this! I've always wanted three but I'm not gonna like, our second has been a bit rough. He doesn't sleep well at night at all and they are two extremely active boys 17 mo apart. The thought of a third just sounds like it would put me over the edge. Not in a "haha life is crazy!" way, but in a "check me into a hospital" way. I see a lot of benefits to stopping now. I could go back to work, life could calm down a notch, we could have money. But I think when the kids are older I would really regret only having two. I think it puts a lot of pressure on one sibling relationship, and a lot of comparison. Plus it just seems a little lonely and small - just not the family I picture in the future. And I like the idea of having one more kid to love. Maybe when #2 is older I will feel ready, but right now I just.can.not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280467 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 12:56:15 +0000 MamaBehr 2280467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: every two years, like clock work, I get pregnant! Haven't had a Christmas not pregnant or nursing since 2009!<br /> I didn't start off as a SAHM, but I was a teacher and my salary wouldn't cover child costs. I look forward to going back in 2-5 years. I've done little stuff like tutoring, adjunct professor, online scorer for ETS, but I'm excited to get back to the classroom. I'm NOT a SAHM lifer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280265 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 10:02:50 +0000 regberadaisy 2280265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: girl! You are so crazy! Just kidding. So were you always a SAHM? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280230 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 09:48:09 +0000 MamaBehr 2280230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are: Four and thoughts of more are out the door</p> <p>How's that for clever! I love having three :) and we are expecting our final baby in December and we are DOOOONE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280222 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 09:45:16 +0000 Mamasig 2280222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: you second son is just like mine. A big mama's boy and very clingy! I wonder how a 3rd would affect him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280154 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 09:10:56 +0000 skipra 2280154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: we were the exact opposite - if we had one of each we would definitely want to go for #3 but with 2 boys already, I don't know if I even want a girl at this point and I don't know if I could handle 3 boys! That is part of my dilemma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280118 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 08:51:04 +0000 Miss Ariel 2280118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: I has no idea you were pregnant again!! Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280090 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 08:35:43 +0000 travelgirl1 2280090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were waffling on 3, and we previously wanted 4 but I do not have it in me to do such horrible sickness twice more, but have decided to go for it. DS is only 6 weeks old, I think we will actively try once my period returns as long as DS is past 9 months old as I had two c-sections. That said, if we struggle to conceive a third, we won't be as aggressive with treatment as we would have been to conceive our first two. So far acupuncture and cycle monitoring have done the trick. I may be open to a couple rounds of femera, nothing beyond that. We are so blessed as it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280080 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 08:29:25 +0000 NavyRN2012 2280080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: my mom (kind of?) did. And I'm the 3rd child :bummed: When we told her we were pregnant with #3 she says that three is so hard and she sometimes wished she'd stopped at two.<br /> I truly don't think she meant it that she didn't want ME. I think it was more of, it was really difficult being a single mom to three, and two would have been much easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2280071 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 08:25:47 +0000 Alivoo01 2280071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before we started TTC, we agreed that if we had one of each, we'd be two and through. However, if we doubled up, then we try for a 3rd.</p> <p>We're currently expecting #2 and don't know the sex yet. However, I'm starting to become more open to having a third regardless if this one is a girl or not! Ask me again once LO#2 is here and lets me know if 3 is a good idea or not. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279955 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 06:33:56 +0000 regberadaisy 2279955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: LOL! To NTNP we would both have to completely be on board to have a third because you can get pregnant! ;) but I do see what you're saying. Since it's not think I don't want it then leave it to the powers to be. :)<br /> And you'll be fine! Every parent loves the age separation of their children the best. ;)</p> <p>@getjazzy: haha I'm a glutton for punishment. DD1 was "colicky" and high needs. Did not STTN regularly till after one. DD2 is one and still doesn't STTN though in comparison to her sister, temperament wise she's loads better. Fully expecting a third to be just as much of a crap sleeper. :/</p> <p>@lemondrop: omg the BF break will be nice. I didn't have the heart to wean DD1 till I was pregnant. I can't wait to have a real freaking cup of coffee. It's been almost four years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279369 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:42:57 +0000 twodoghouse 2279369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We previously agreed on two, so there should be no waffling! But I think about a 3rd sometimes. I'm trying not to get attached to the idea because my husband is adamant that we are done, we went through IVF the first time and we have no desire to go through it ever again, I had complications during L&amp;D which resulted in my cervix being cut and stitched so future pregnancies would be high risk, etc. I still dream about my twins being the big siblings someday though. It would be years down the road if it ever happened, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279363 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:40:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2279363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: We are pretty sure we are done but open to an "oops" if that makes any sense. I dont' think it would be practically ideal for us to have a third (we dont have the savings, we like our lifestyle, 2 are easy, etc) but would certainly be open to it if it happened. </p> <p>It took us over a year to TTC the second. But I dont think I will factor that into our spacing. When/If we are ready for a third, we would try for a third but not until we are ready. </p> <p>Ours are spaced 3 years now and like @Mrs. Jacks: said, its nice because we can rely on her to be pretty responsible. But she's still young enough to want to play with her sibling (she doesn't mind playing "blocks" but is mature enough to understand he's a baby when he knocks her tower over). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279361 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:37:59 +0000 BandDmommy 2279361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: that's how my husband was whenever anything bad happened he would be like "we are done." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279357 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:35:33 +0000 TiredmommaMD 2279357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#2 is only 8 weeks old but I am already thinking about it. I think I need to wait until hormones stabilize and see how hard life is with 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279228 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 13:03:18 +0000 getjazzy 2279228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo2 is only 2 weeks old so we have tabled the discussion for a long while but, neither of us is dead set on being done. I know financially and logistically 2 is easier than 3 but I've always wanted a large family. Coming in to my marriage I was thinking 3-4 kids and DH was 2-3. We've often talked about a 3rd and kind of met in the middle of our ideals. That being said, we have a boy and a girl so that has been a strong argument to my DH leaning more towards only having 2. </p> <p>He is planning on getting s vasectomy but has already said it won't be a consideration for a few years at he very least. </p> <p>So far LO2 is super colicky soooo that's not making a great case for another haha. I could look past the tough stage no problem but for him it's a bit harder I think. I just worry I won't feel complete as a family, even though I clearly love the kids I have. </p> <p>Basically, I'm rambling now too lol!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279108 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 12:02:40 +0000 lemondrop 2279108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely! Our timing is almost exactly the same as yours, both age spacing and TTC timing. I was rabid with baby fever for #2 when my first was this age, I have zero desire for a third at the moment. </p> <p>I am MAJORLY waffling (perfect description too, exactly what my husband and I are calling it) about a third. Three was our original plan, but now I'm really not sure as far as finances, car size, house size, and my sanity. I think my husband still wants that third, based on how much he makes fun of my waffling. We agreed to reevaluate again between 2-2.5 and see where things are at in a year-ish. E is quite the handful, we joke that he is trying to permanently stay the youngest. </p> <p>Regardless, like @Mrs. Jacks: we are going for a 3-ish year spacing if we go for a third, and while that time is dwindling faster than I like already, I'm weaning so I get a much longer break than I did last time (was still nursing when I got pregnant again). Deep down, I think I still see one more in our future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279099 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:56:53 +0000 mrskc 2279099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We keep going back and forth on wanting a third. Well I pretty much know I want a third, but DH says he's all for it one day and then not another day. Usually when we are having a rough day with the kids, he for sure doesn't want another. lol </p> <p>I just feel our fam will be complete with 3, and DH for sure can go get snipped after we have #3. I want a 3 year gap tho because 22 month gap between #1 &amp; #2 was rough! So we will wait another year before we start trying. </p> <p>@Mamasig: This is how I feel too. I really want a third. And I know it will be tough at first, but the baby stage is so short!! My second is one now and her first year just flew by. </p> <p>@HLK208: I've been hearing the same thing from people with older kids. They wish they had gone for the third! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279098 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:56:22 +0000 skipra 2279098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I was certain I wanted 3 but my second was such a clingy baby and mama's boy that I would feel guilty having another! He is my baby and that might just be it. I feel like if it were a possibility for us to have 4 we would go for it but more and more I am thinking of the downsides of having 3. Does that make any sense? At the same time though I still really want another. I think we'll decide once and for all next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279085 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:52:00 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2279085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: You'll make due and it will be absolutely fine. I just appreciate that my girls are so independent at times when Baby Theo really needs us.</p> <p>I know plenty of friends who have closer age gaps between 2 and 3, but they tend to hire help!</p> <p>Regardless, you will do great! Three is so much fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279076 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:48:01 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2279076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: don't say that! I'm only going to have 12 months between 2&amp;3. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279065 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:43:31 +0000 mrsjyw 2279065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're waffling now but have some time decide since #2 is only 7 weeks old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279055 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:36:31 +0000 Mrs. Cheesecake 2279055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 2.5 years and DD is 8 months. DH and I agreed to think about the possibility of having a third after DD turns 1 yo. But I think we are only considering a third because DD has been such an angel baby compared to our spirited DS. We'll see what happens when DD turns 1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279053 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:34:36 +0000 sera_87 2279053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was done done done with #3. </p> <p>And now I'm waffling again because #3 is another boy. One things for certain though - the spacing between 3 &amp; 4 will be more than 17 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279035 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:21:43 +0000 lilteacherbee 2279035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely want 3, but LO2 is only 4 weeks. The part I waffle on is the spacing. These 2 are 20 months apart and it's hard! But, it took over a year to get pregnant the first time and only one month the second time, so you never know about that aspect. Good thing we have awhile to think about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279022 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:12:27 +0000 Mama Bird 2279022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sort of! DH keeps saying he wants another :shocked: . I'm torn... I'm scared of being pregnant again and going through that whole waiting game hoping nothing happens to the baby, and my older kids dealing with the lack of attention, and us being tired all the time, and all our priorities that aren't kid related being on hold for that much longer. Never mind what it would do to my career. </p> <p>So plenty of reasons to not have any more kids! And yet something tells me to never say never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279015 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:10:47 +0000 winniebee 2279015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are the same. In theory we want 3 but (1) I dread being pregnant again (I am already high risk due to preterm labor and IUGR....doing that at advanced maternal age? yay!) (2) life is pure chaos, my husband works 80 hours a week and I can't imagine how a 3rd will change that (3) I just started working again..... (4) I can see the light at the end of the baby tunnel. I have enjoyed the baby phase so much more with R but it's so limiting in general....</p> <p>I'm 35. T is 3 years, 3 months and R isn't quite 9 months. I think we want to decide about our 3rd when R is 1, primarily because of my age and frankly wanting to move on to the next phase of life. In my heart, I want 3 though. </p> <p>Now, I'm rambling too : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279012 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:07:24 +0000 winniebee 2279012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: We have no down time with 2.....I can't imagine....with 3....! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waffling-on-3-or-more#post-2279009 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 11:04:47 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2279009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm loving being a mama of 3. Feel like our family is pretty complete now. Life is full and busy and fun. </p> <p>No down time, but that's not a negative for me.</p> <p>If you do add a 3rd, I would consider spacing #2 and 3 by 3 years. We depend on the girls being mature in a lot of cases. </p>