https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 17:46:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511656 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 13:12:07 +0000 winniebee 2511656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It got easier once DS2 was day weaned. Before that, pulling away from work 3x a day to nurse was distracting. I'm pretty good about putting up a wall so to speak and blasting classical music in my office to drown out noise : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511649 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 13:10:30 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2511649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When the kids were being watched at home by my MIL (DD until she was 20 months; DS until he was 16 months), I definitely felt the same way. I felt so guilty because the kids would know I'm home and come knocking on my door or call out to mama, and I felt bad that I couldn't be with them. And mentally, I was distracted because I was just not 100% focused on work, and was thinking about them and dealing with feelings of guilt on both ends (guilt for not being a great employee, guilt for not being there for them when I was pretty much right there behind a door!). </p> <p>First, it got better when I weaned (before I would nurse even while on calls, or in between meetings). Then it got better once the kids went to daycare, so I could just focus on work even while at home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511465 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 11:41:58 +0000 ValentineMommy 2511465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I'm so grateful for my flex job, but at the same time, sometimes I feel like I'm half-assing it at both! Half assing my work day hours so I can tend to some baby things; half assing being a mom because I obviously am working most of the day even though I'm 20 ft away."</p> <p>This is exactly how I feel. I WAH 50% of the time and I definitely feel like I'm half assing everything. My mom also watches the boys at home and I think it confuses DS as to why I can't play. It makes me feel so sad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511457 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 11:37:02 +0000 fussygal 2511457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard! I don't know that I'll ever feel balanced and it took me a while to come to terms with that. I'm currently on mat leave for #2, but normally WAH 30-40 hrs/week. My mom watches DD at our house and I've found that really trying to act like I'm not home (except for lunch time when I go out and chat and eat with my mom and DD) works well. Sounds like the day-weaning you're working in will be really helpful for you, since it frees you up a bit! My DD would never take a bottle and in the first six months I always felt frustrated to be torn from work so often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511454 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 11:35:32 +0000 cornucopia8 2511454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a WOHM but have to WAH occasionally when she's too sick for daycare, and grandma's not available. </p> <p>Focus on one thing at a time. If I have to get out a report at 9am, I put all my attention into that. Then I switch gears and try to fully pay attention to my daughter for the next 30 minutes of baby time (feeding, changing, playing, whatever the task is.) That's basically the whole day broken down into 30 minute chunks. I hate it as well, I miss the days of intense focus on doing one thing and doing it well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511359 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 10:39:20 +0000 lamariniere 2511359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I WAH, but my kids are in daycare full time so I don't have to really balance anything until daycare pick-up. Daycare closes relatively early here though, so my day ends right before 4 when I have to go pick them up. On slower days I do any housework/chores/grocery shopping that needs to be done before I pick them up so that we can spend more fun/quality time together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wahm-how-do-you-find-balance#post-2511205 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 08:56:11 +0000 mrsjyw 2511205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work from home most days of the week. My mom watches DS2 and DS1 is in parttime preschool.</p> <p>I'm so grateful for my flex job, but at the same time, sometimes I feel like I'm half-assing it at both! Half assing my work day hours so I can tend to some baby things; half assing being a mom because I obviously am working most of the day even though I'm 20 ft away.</p> <p>How do you find balance?</p> <p>I'm working slowly to day-wean my baby who prefers to be bottle fed during the day and that is giving me more room to work at our house after dropping the kid(s) off at my mom's. It helps me to focus on work 100% and then be with the kids wholly after the work day! </p>