https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:28:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2260478 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 00:48:31 +0000 MrsRcCar 2260478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say it's even been magical. However it did get so much better around 12 weeks old. After that I set small goals like 6 months old/9 months old/ 12 months old/ 12+. Here we are at 18 months today and still going strong. I never thought we would get this far in a million years. On day at a time momma. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2260472 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 00:19:12 +0000 lemondrop 2260472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Magical? Never for me. But much better? At 8 weeks. I was still in tears on a regular basis at 6 weeks. You've still got to take it feeding by feeding at that point, baby steps. </p> <p>It has it's brief great moments, but mostly it's just a sacrifice I've made for my kiddos. My mom loved it, but I have honestly never felt that fond of it, I still don't understand how she describes it. It caused me a lot of stress and I've never worked so hard at anything in my life. I'm proud of it, but very ready to wean my second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2260293 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 20:06:04 +0000 autumn865 2260293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're struggling! I have overactive letdown as well and I really struggled with both my LOs. DD1 was the sleepy, cuddley, always up for a nice long BFing session kind of baby. It was nice and cuddles once we settled into feedings. DD2 is totally different. From day 1 she was never a baby who likes to waste time BFing. Now at 6 months she's squirmey and impatient for immediate let downs and feeding her is nothing cuddley and the farthest thing from magical. I just try to relax and realize that it is what it is and I can't change her nursing style. I think there is also an unfair expectation of BFing to be this magical experience. Sometimes (like a lot of things in parenting) it is just something you have to just push through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2259994 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 13:28:18 +0000 sweetooth 2259994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: So true, the cost of formula really does add up. But still, it's pretty amazing that there is another option.</p> <p>@Ash: I am SO glad to hear that! Not to jinx things over here - but we are doing better. Taking it day by day and thinking of all of the helpful advice and words of wisdom from everyone who shared their thoughts on this thread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256835 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 14:57:45 +0000 Ash 2256835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: so so so much better! I'm so glad I pushed through. I only made it a month with C and yesterday was 7 weeks with G! I wouldn't say it's magical but it's definitely not horrible anymore. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256602 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 13:01:46 +0000 snowjewelz 2256602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Agree that being able to nurse back to sleep MOTN is quite magical, haha! And oh yeah, the free part is so motivating! I started supplementing last month and I'm still using samples, but I've been looking for deals and realize how costly it is if I were to FF full time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256564 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:43:30 +0000 sweetooth 2256564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@My Only Sunshine: Very familiar with kellymom - SUCH a great resource! Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256561 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:42:58 +0000 sweetooth 2256561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsF: Thank you so much for the hugs, relating, and for that great link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256560 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:42:42 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2256560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: The website kellymom is a great resource for breastfeeding advice or just general "is this normal?" information. Here's the link to their article on growth spurts - <a href="http://kellymom.com/hot-topics/growth-spurts/" rel="nofollow">http://kellymom.com/hot-topics/growth-spurts/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256557 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:42:09 +0000 sweetooth 2256557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: Hugs right back atcha! So - inquiring minds want to know...since your past was over a week ago, how are things with you? Better? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256554 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:40:50 +0000 sweetooth 2256554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Thank you for relating and for the support :)</p> <p>@SleepyMonkey: 4 months seems like an eternity from now...but I have to think that this will get better. It will.</p> <p>@PawPrints: Thank you for sharing your opinion and for the support :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256547 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:37:26 +0000 sweetooth 2256547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Thank you for the reminder to set small goals. Sometimes you need some help with brainpower during all of these sleep-deprived days.</p> <p>@LovelyPlum: I'm definitely filing away all of these suggestions and bits of motivation for the next time it gets hard! I'm glad to hear that this 6 week one is really a doozy and I'm not just going crazy!</p> <p>@BadgerMom: I'm just going to keep reminding myself that it will get easier. Thank you!</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: Oh my goodness, more wrestling? I feel like I'm batling chicken wings and frog legs all the time right now. It really will always been something, won't it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256538 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:31:47 +0000 sweetooth 2256538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I think that's a hard part for me. Our lives improved when we switched to formula with our first son. I think I just really want to give it my best shot this time around. I don't have thrush this time, so I feel like I need to push through if I can. But life with formula is familiar to me - so we will see.</p> <p>@simplyfelicity: Hey there my fellow July mama - sorry to hear you're in the same boat. One day at a time :heart: </p> <p>@Mrs.Someone: I do have access to great lactation consultants at our pediatrician's office. I'm going to see how things are by the weekend, and then decide if I need to make an appointment. Thank you for the reminder to reach out for help.</p> <p>@jh524: Thank you for the encouragement! I will definitely reach out to my LCs soon if things don't improve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical/page/2#post-2256528 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:25:56 +0000 sweetooth 2256528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Thank you!</p> <p>@mrsrugbee: Yeah, I'm letting go of the idea of it being magical...everyone here is making me realize that's not reality.</p> <p>@catlady: Sounds like there's always something...thank you for the encouragement though! I appreciate it!</p> <p>@YouGotMe: One day at a time is excellent advice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2256525 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:22:46 +0000 sweetooth 2256525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: That experience with the bottle sounds hard! So does nursing laying down...but as we all know, nothing is forever, right? The free part does provide motivation, doesn't it?</p> <p>@gentlelunette: I have no desire to pump. I just can't mentally get there. I'm kind of trying to figure out my next steps with work, and if I don't return, then I don't really want to pump. But I do like the idea of a stash if I get sick, or have to be away from him for a bit. Ah, thinking of this as a distant memory does help :)</p> <p>@Adira: Now there's the magic :) Nursing them to sleep...I'll look forward to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255935 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 19:30:29 +0000 MrsF 2255935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Six weeks is really the height of horrible as far as breastfeeding. I stopped at 8 weeks with my DD and don't regret it - formula was really the right decision for us. </p> <p>This time with DS it got much easier after the 6 week growth spurt and I've enjoyed it more and more as the weeks have gone on. He's 8 months now and I really do love it. </p> <p>Six weeks is the worst though. *hugs* :heart: </p> <p>This post really helped me at 6 weeks: <a href="http://nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/" rel="nofollow">http://nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255904 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 19:05:56 +0000 Ash 2255904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* </p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-begin-to-like-breastfeeding" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-begin-to-like-breastfeeding</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255863 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 17:55:26 +0000 PawPrints 2255863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went into breastfeeding assuming that the first month or so would be challenging, and I was right. I didn't expect it to get harder (in different ways) after that. I think 6 weeks and 3.5 months were the times I came closest to giving up entirely. Now, at 4 months, I can finally say that it has gotten easy. I really really hope it stays this way. I still wouldn't describe it as magical though - maybe that there are magical moments, when I look down at her and just melt at her little face blissfully sucking away, but it's not every time. Hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255854 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 17:29:30 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2255854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never magical. It became easy at 4 months. It was still very hard at 2 months and my baby was born only a week early. Their mouths are still so small at that point. I enjoy it now but it really isn't magical for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255840 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 16:46:07 +0000 LovelyPlum 2255840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: I have super large breaststroke and areolas as well, and that did make it really challenging. The shield helped with my flat nipples, as well. But once she got a bit bigger, it got easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255690 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 14:41:15 +0000 simplyfelicity 2255690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: He had a tongue tie and lip tie that got snipped at 8 days old and I haven't seen an improvement. I have talked to four LCs who say everything *looks* good. I have really large arreolas which is what I think makes it painful. A couple of latch techniques work for us. One breast is especially painful because it's really large. Pumping sucks but I prefer the predicability to not knowing if I am going to have nipple pain or not. I really want bf to work for us but I am essentially waiting for his mouth to get bigger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255677 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 14:34:57 +0000 blackbird 2255677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Shit was REAL 6 weeks ago. It's much better and easier now, but magical? Special? Fabulous bonding? Meh. I'm not overwhelmed at all. And I'm not sure that'll happen for me. It's ok to pump a couple of bottles, hand them to DH, and check out for a few hours! Reassess tomorrow or next week-whatever feels right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255673 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 14:33:55 +0000 LovelyPlum 2255673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: the interwebs stole my response. But :sad: How is his latch? We had latch issues and had to use a shield for a while. It helped. Have you had the chance to see a LC? I only did at the hospital, but I wish I had gone to see someone later. I think it could have helped us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255670 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 14:33:28 +0000 daniellemybelle 2255670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, it was probably 6 months or thereafter before I had those super happy peaceful feelings breastfeeding. We had a hard road. I'm glad I pushed through because from about 10-18 months nursing was by and large awesome and a very special part of our relationship. But it did not feel magical at all in the early days - far from it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255657 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 14:26:09 +0000 simplyfelicity 2255657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: Thanks, friend. After a particularly painful feeding, I gave him a bottle of BM. It hurts my heart because I know he prefers the breast. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255560 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 13:27:12 +0000 LovelyPlum 2255560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: :heart: it gets better, love. I promise. And if you want to pump a bit, do it. I pumped almost daily at the beginning, because there were so many times that it seemed easier. But my DH kept reminding me that not only was I learning to nurse, and she learning to nurse, but she was also learning how to learn. Deep breath, focus on staying hydrated and fed, be gentle with yourself and babe, and know that it gets better. Just do what you have to do to get through the newborn phase. There is a reason they are cute, because this is HARD. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255558 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 13:26:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2255558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that after the 6 week spurt it got easier. But it did take a while longer (probably closer to the 2.5-3 month mark) until it became magical. Magical as in, I could actually relax, get comfortable, check my phone, he would look up and smile a bit and it didn't hurt. Then they get active and it becomes a wrestling match as they get older around the 8-9 month mark. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255550 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 13:24:06 +0000 BadgerMom 2255550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say it got easier around 8 weeks, but it was never magical :bummed: . Like truthbombs said, I stuck with it for as long as I did because I thought it was the best thing for LO, not because I really loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255542 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 13:20:31 +0000 LovelyPlum 2255542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Yes, focus on the rhythm. That is key! Once it becomes routine, it is much, much easier. We never hit magic, per se, but I did have a good number of times later on where I thought, this is pretty darn awesome. But it took a long time and lots of patience for us both.</p> <p>Also, I echo @Adira: the six week growth spurt is real and hard. It was the six month one that almost broke me, but that is a different issue altogether. Hang in there. It gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-for-it-to-be-magical#post-2255522 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 13:11:37 +0000 lawbee11 2255522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: I think setting small goals for yourself is a really good idea. In the early months my LO would eat all day long and while I didn't hate it it was definitely a lot of work. I pushed through and it became much more enjoyable sometime after 8 weeks. At the end of the day it's a means to an end (feeding your LO). Even if you don't love it or find it magical it's ok to just view it as any other parenting task as long as you find it tolerable :) </p>