https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 23:41:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive/page/2#post-1806877 Sat, 09 Aug 2014 08:04:51 +0000 Mrs. Peanut 1806877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have also decided to wait to ttc #1. It's mostly due to my grad school schedule and wanting to build up some savings again. Plus my husband isn't quite ready to pull the trigger. I have some serious baby fever sometimes though. Anyone have any suggestions for passing the time? We are thinking of trying around summer 2015. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive/page/2#post-1794794 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 18:06:54 +0000 AprilFool 1794794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Badger: I think it is normal to worry after what you have been through. </p> <p>We are waiting to TTC #2. I am ready to go now but we have a big trip coming up in November and I don't want to be pregnant for it. I get increasingly clucky every day but realistically I know November will be here before I know it. If my cycles stay on course we will be able to start trying while we are away so fingers crossed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive/page/2#post-1794530 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 14:04:18 +0000 kjpugs 1794530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Badger: that's so great that you have such a thorough and caring doctor to discuss these less-than-fun subjects with you. I bet you'll feel much better about specific timing/trying again when you know SOMETHING. The not knowing is the hardest part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive/page/2#post-1794517 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 13:58:24 +0000 Ms.Badger 1794517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: His head ped. GI doctor called more than a week ago and said that everything on initial examination looked exactly as they expected, but all the specific findings could take up to a month. Lucas is still very much on her mind and she told me all the specialists (immunology) are still involved. She was very nice and really wants us to be able to go over it completely with us. </p> <p>Half of me hopes that nothing new will come up because I don't want to think we missed something and could have saved him and half of me wants more answers. </p> <p>We did full exome analysis in Nov/Dec and found nothing. I work in genetics and have no reason to believe that Lucas's condition will re-occur in a future baby but it's hard to not worry when we don't have a diagnosis or a treatment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1794486 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 13:48:56 +0000 kjpugs 1794486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also ready in some ways but waiting. Emotionally I'm ready. But with DH's work schedule having two so young together (LO is almost 10 months) would be hard. We also have to work a bit more on our marriage and our finances. I'm not sure when will be "right" but after a certain point (probably a year from now) we'll probably just try no matter where we're at, haha.</p> <p>@Ms.Badger: I can't lie, I actually wondered how this was playing out for you. (And I've been thinking about you and praying for you too.) It must be a huge back and forth on the big reasons on both sides that you're both feeling! Do you know when they'll go over the autopsy results with you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1794443 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 13:36:46 +0000 Ms.Badger 1794443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I revive this thread? I'm back to Hellobee sooner than I thought I would be. I'm doing much better than I thought I would. I still miss him terribly, and sometimes cry, but mostly I'm just putting my life back together. I started work this week and they are happy to take me full-time, so I've been busy getting back into things. We want another child, and my husband is ready to try now, but there are a few reasons I need to wait awhile. </p> <p>First, my husband and I need to work on our marriage, which, understandably, was such a low priority over the last 9 months that it practically didn't register. We are making plans to go places and do things together which I think will help. </p> <p>Then, the doctors plan to go over all the autopsy results with us, which may or may not shed light on what Lucas's underlying condition was and maybe if there are any other genetic avenues for us to go down before plunging into trying again. </p> <p>Also, I don't want our next baby to be born in May (Lucas's birthday) or July. So, I think at the earliest, we would try in November/December. But it's hard to wait, even with all these reasons, because I'm a mom without a child, which breaks my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1740712 Fri, 04 Jul 2014 19:58:21 +0000 pastemoo 1740712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be starting school. IF it seems not deathly difficult, we will TTC in September-ish. Otherwise we will wait either 6 months, 18 months, or 2 years... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1740623 Fri, 04 Jul 2014 17:19:01 +0000 mdf106 1740623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 10.5 months, and I plan to TTC when he is about 2 years, so about another year. I want that spacing so LO will be more independent. Also, waiting at least 18-24 months reduces the risks of preterm labor and low birth weight. Like catomd00: I never had baby fever for the first, and was somewhat ambivalent on having children, but it turns out I love being a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1739536 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 19:40:35 +0000 theonewhere 1739536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We plan to start TTC #1 after the holidays. It feels like forever, but also not nearly enough time to do some things I want to do first - get healthier, save more money, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1739455 Thu, 03 Jul 2014 19:14:17 +0000 MrsD2442 1739455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: I agree, there should be a Waiting board! I feel like I'm imposing on the TTC board whenever I post anything. </p> <p>DH and I are trying to decide when to start TTC for our first. We were married in October. I'm ready now, he's not so ready. We had a long talk a few months ago and decided to table all serious baby discussion until after our one year anniversary, so I'm hoping to start trying soon after then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1734820 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 18:45:29 +0000 littlecasita1122 1734820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are waiting to try for LO #2. Our son just turned two and while I'd love to try for another one this summer and have them close to three years apart, we need to save more money first and move instead of staying in our townhouse. We've gone through a lot of change earlier this year with my husband getting a new job and me going back to work part-time after being a SAHM for 18 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1734785 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 18:13:36 +0000 Hoots 1734785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: @Bookish: It apparently is a small world! We were in the med center area for while, but we moved out to Pearland last year (thinking we were pretty close to being ready to start a family). DH and I came from a small town, so sometimes we miss it a bit. Both of our families and friends still live in the same small town, and the community back home seems a lot more interconnected. One of the biggest adjustments for me has been tempering my expectations when we moved to the suburbs. Back home we knew all the neighbors and the neighborhood kids all played together. Here, we haven't met many people in our new neighborhood, and while everyone seems nice, they all keep to themselves. :bummed: I was seriously hoping for more kids running around and more neighborhood activities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733829 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 09:58:56 +0000 MrsSCB 1733829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookish: heyyyy! It is a great city and very different than I imagined. I love how diverse it is! And great food -- that's important :-)</p> <p>@PermaStudent: So exciting! I'm hoping it'll be just a few more months here, too. I'm actively applying and interviewing for jobs so hopefully it won't be too long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733646 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 08:58:35 +0000 Synchronicity 1733646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: My SO is also raring to go, and I'm the one holding us back right now (even though I really want to TTC!). We have too much going on at the moment to even consider it, but things should calm down in a few months and then it will be go time ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733583 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 08:38:49 +0000 Bookish 1733583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hoots: @MrsSCB: Hello Houston ladies! I'm from there (SW Houston/Sugar Land) and DH and I are contemplating moving back in a couple years. We currently live about 2 hours away in a much, much smaller town. I miss it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733560 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 08:33:59 +0000 MrsSCB 1733560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hoots: ahh, what a small world, we moved to Houston lol. We had been living in NYC for five years when my H got a dream job here. I'd never even been to Texas when he took the job! I do like Houston but it's very different than NYC, so it's definitely been an adjustment. I love having a car again and everything is SO much more affordable here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733416 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 07:08:56 +0000 Hoots 1733416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: Cross county moves are exciting, but also really really hard. Ours was 6 years ago and it took me a long time to consider Houston home. Where did you move to?</p> <p>I completely understand about the new job. I took on a new job about a year ago specifically for the ability to have maternity leave (I was a 1099 contractor before) and time to spend with a family. Now we're just waiting for DH to finish up his MBA as it was his goal to finish before we had a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733412 Tue, 01 Jul 2014 07:04:48 +0000 My Only Sunshine 1733412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this thread! We're waiting to try for #2 as well. Our daughter is 9.5 months and we're waiting until after her first birthday to start trying. We're trying to just really enjoy this time as a family of three. I'm getting baby fever though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733261 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 21:18:51 +0000 MrsSCB 1733261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hoots: @PermaStudent: @krispi: Also waiting to TTC #1 here! I thought we'd have started awhile ago, but we made a cross-country move for my H's job last August and we've been settling in so here we are still waiting. My H is pretty much ready any time, but honestly the biggest thing holding me back right now is I really want to find a new job first. I was lucky enough to find work the first month we moved, but I haven't really been happy at my job. I'm hoping to get that sorted out before TTC! Glad I'm not the only one waiting on #1 :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1733210 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 20:36:21 +0000 Hoots 1733210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PermaStudent: I wish I was doing something to make time go faster. DH is working full-time and finishing up his MBA, so he's not much help. Sadly, our families are both in the Midwest, and many of my friends scattered after school so I'm starting to run short on things to do by myself. But, my busy season at work is just about ready to gear up. Hopefully, that will do the trick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731819 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 10:24:29 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1731819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so excited to get to know all of you and share this journey with you. I plan on responding to everyone tonight hopefully when I have a free moment but nice to meet you all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731675 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 09:51:31 +0000 Synchronicity 1731675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hoots: thanks! I feel like time is crawling, too, but we have a lot going on this summer to keep us occupied so that helps! I hope you get your AF issues figured out soon... I was having really long and unpredictable cycles for a while, and it sucked! Are you doing anything to stay occupied and keep the baby rabies under control? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731291 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:35:58 +0000 NavyRN2012 1731291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abmamma: DH is on the fence as well. I also casually bring it up in regular conversation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731203 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 05:14:16 +0000 krispi 1731203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are waiting to try for our first. Right now, we're on schedule to start TTC in October. Our first anniversary is coming up at the end of July. Originally, we'd agreed to wait until at least then, but my grad school schedule pushes us out another couple of months. We are also in the process of selling the townhouse where I lived when I was single, so that's a big financial goal we need to accomplish before a baby comes along. We can't wait too long though - I'll be 36 in October, and he's 37. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731200 Mon, 30 Jun 2014 04:49:14 +0000 BabyMats 1731200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are waiting to try for #2 as well! Lo is 10.5 months and it will be at the end of this summer as our go time. Labor day weekend is actually my date in my head. Hubs is on board we are just going to enjoy the heck out of our first one as much as we can now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1731006 Sun, 29 Jun 2014 20:45:49 +0000 abmamma 1731006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this thread! DD is 22 months old and I am ready to start TTC #2. But DH is not. And it is not totally clear to me when (or if-- sigh) he will be. He is generally resistant to change and I am hoping this is just another example of that. I try to bring it up on a semi-regular basis with the hopes that he will get used to the idea. The waiting is so hard though-- lately whenever I see pregnant women with little ones of similar age to my girl, my heart aches. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1730996 Sun, 29 Jun 2014 20:37:06 +0000 travelgirl1 1730996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: thank you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1730945 Sun, 29 Jun 2014 20:05:33 +0000 catlady 1730945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are waiting to try for #2. LO is 9 months. We can't make up our minds about the age gap that we'd like. I flip back and forth between wanting to get the newborn stage out of the way sooner and wanting to enjoy more time with LO while it's just her. I think Jan 2015 would be the absolute earliest we'd start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1730934 Sun, 29 Jun 2014 19:57:11 +0000 Ocean girl 1730934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are waiting to see what will unfold for DH post residency training. We know we want a 2nd (and possibly 3rd) and it could be to our benefit to try to time it so my mat leave starts a couple of months after he finishes, which will be this time next year. DD is 10 months, now. Maybe another August baby is in our cards.<br /> Anyway, probably waiting to TTC until December/January, at the earliest!<br /> First things first: Are you there, AF? It's me, Ocean Girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-conceive#post-1730820 Sun, 29 Jun 2014 18:40:28 +0000 Bookish 1730820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love to join in! We are waiting to TTC #2. We are currently wavering between spring and fall 2015 for TTC. We need to have our financial ducks in a row, and I'd like to be at a healthier weight! </p>