https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 12:40:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1/page/2#post-2780412 Wed, 18 Oct 2017 09:52:30 +0000 LindsayInNY 2780412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@delight: Thank you &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1/page/2#post-2780408 Wed, 18 Oct 2017 09:37:00 +0000 delight 2780408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-misoprostol-experience-for-missed-miscarriage" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-misoprostol-experience-for-missed-miscarriage</a></p> <p>I'm so sorry mama. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1/page/2#post-2780382 Wed, 18 Oct 2017 08:41:39 +0000 LindsayInNY 2780382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@delight: Do you know where the cytotec thread is? I saw one (I think) but it's gold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2696083 Sat, 11 Feb 2017 09:43:19 +0000 periwinklebee 2696083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: :heart: I really hope your HCG drops quickly, and you get your rainbow baby soon. :heart: :goodluck: :heart: Can you feel symptoms disappear as your HCG drops, or does it pretty much feel the same? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695982 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 21:50:46 +0000 Kemma 2695982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I'm sorry to read your news and hope that you get some closure and resolution soon. I'm still waiting to miscarry (hcg is dropping) and I know that hanging in limbo sucks :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695897 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 18:27:39 +0000 periwinklebee 2695897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@StrawberryBee: Thanks - my husband was reading the form (I would have prob just signed it) and was like what? I will be relieved to have it over with...</p> <p>@Periwinkle: @Banana330: Thank you :heart: </p> <p>@delight: Thank you so much for your support. The way the doctor explained it, they don't actually test the fetal tissue - since it is so small - but if any of the placenta is still alive they can put it in a petri dish and grow it, and then test that. The placenta comes from the baby, so will have it's DNA. I won't count on live cells, though. The doctor didn't mention anything about miscarrying naturally, though I know I should be prepared. Thank you again :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695744 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 14:56:06 +0000 delight 2695744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I'm so sorry for your loss. My recovery from my D&amp;E was physically easy and I was 23 weeks along. The nurses were all super nice and DH was able to come see me right away. Emotionally it was super hard on me. We were able to try again 3 months later but hopefully you can try again right away. I don't know if there will be enough tissue though to test. I posted above in this thread before but with one of my MC there was a slow heart beat at 8 weeks and by 10 weeks there was nothing in the sac. I hope they can do the testing for you though. Did your doctor say there was a chance you would miscarry on your own before next week? I'll be thinking of you and again I'm sorry you're going through this. Best wishes in your next pregnancy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695640 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 13:28:35 +0000 Banana330 2695640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I was 9 weeks with twins. Hopefully it will all go smoothly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695634 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 13:25:33 +0000 Periwinkle 2695634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Wishing you strength in this difficult time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695625 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 13:16:05 +0000 StrawberryBee 2695625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I don't even remember that one, so I must have just signed without reading. The worst (for me) was the anticipation leading up to it. DH was allowed back to the prep room with me, which was good. After I was wheeled in he left to get some lunch and got the notice I was out as he was eating. The physical recovery was easy, emotional took some time longer. Give yourself time to rest and recover. Thinking of you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695574 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 12:24:47 +0000 periwinklebee 2695574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas: @Bibliolove: @junebugsmama: @Mrsbells: Thank you :heart: </p> <p>@Banana330: Thank you, this is good to know. How far along were you? The doctor was pushing a d&amp;e in order to do the testing, but I won't expect anything out of it (except the bill, hah hah). I'm sorry again for your losses. </p> <p>@StrawberryBee: That's good to hear. Having to sign the consent forms about the risk of a surgical instrument puncturing the uterus, etc was a bit unnerving, though I know the risks are quite low. It's good to hear that recovery is usually pretty quick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695554 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:58:42 +0000 Mrsbells 2695554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695546 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:49:49 +0000 StrawberryBee 2695546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Everyone at the hospital was so nice when I had my D&amp;E. They put a nice warm blanket on me and then next thing I knew I was being wheeled out. It was surreal. I expected to feel different in recovery, but I felt completely normal. Hoping yours goes as easily and that you're able to try again soon :heart: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695537 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:42:51 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2695537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: sorry to hear but glad you can have some closure. I hope the testing is able to be done and you can heal :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695530 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:39:59 +0000 Bibliolove 2695530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: :heart: I'm sorry, this sounds heartbreaking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695516 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:15:28 +0000 Banana330 2695516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I think mine was about a week from no heart beat to D&amp;C. They did take tissue for testing but couldn't get live cells to test. Don't be surprised if that's the case. We never found out what the issue was but my next pregnancy was my DD! Good luck. Remember to take it easy for a few days after your D&amp;C, I went for a long walk a day or two after and had heavier bleeding/cramping. Sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695512 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:12:30 +0000 mrskansas 2695512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2695507 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:08:25 +0000 periwinklebee 2695507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little update...we went in today for a follow-up and the heart had stopped. We were able to schedule a D&amp;E, but unfortunately not until next Friday. Our doctor recommended testing the tissue, which surprised me a bit since it's our first loss, but I think the slow heart rate/slow growth can be the result of translocations, which could affect future pregnancies, so they'd like to rule that out. The doctor said there's also a good chance that it was a perfectly healthy baby and just had its blood supply choked off by an SCH blood clot that developed at 5 weeks, which is heartbreaking in its own right. I'm a bit worried now that in a week things will have disintegrated too much to test the tissue - they need the placenta to still be growing - but anyways it is what it is and will be over eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2693021 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 13:04:12 +0000 periwinklebee 2693021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: Thank you. Your doctor sounds really good. I hope they'll be able to schedule things quickly for me. My experience with my doctor has been less than great, but the clinic is in a hospital and I wouldn't be surprised if they refer out to another unit in the hospital - there's a bunch of clinics affiliated with it. I hope it's not something my doctor does himself - he spends most of his time in his lab/teaching and only sees patients once a week, so I imagine that could take awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692976 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 11:51:25 +0000 MaryM 2692976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I think it depends on doctors, but my OB keeps an hour or so in the morning and afternoon relatively free (and I think all day Friday) in order to handle emergency appointments, deliveries, and surgeries. So when I saw him on a Monday, he scheduled me for Friday because it was totally open for him. </p> <p>When I called Wednesday morning when I started spotting and cramping, he just had to work with the hospital to find an opening with the OR (which ended up being at the end of the day). I think I had my pre-op time scheduled within an hour or two of calling him that morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692646 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 18:40:55 +0000 periwinklebee 2692646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you so much for the responses and support. Hearing the stories of others who've been through a similar experience gives me a much better sense of what to expect, and I'm really touched by all the wonderful support in this community. I'm so sorry for everyone who has experienced losses. </p> <p>If we make it to the point of not seeing the HB before a natural miscarriage - which from other's experiences seems likely - I'm hoping to be able to schedule a D&amp;C relatively promptly. It's really good to know that they can be done under either general or local anesthesia. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692343 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 13:10:22 +0000 bubblegum 2692343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. No advice but you're in my thoughts during this time. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692318 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 12:26:04 +0000 MaryM 2692318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're going through this. </p> <p>Not totally similar, but I found out at our NT scan that my baby had trisomy and likely wouldn't make it to term. On top of that, her heart rate was only about 60 (half what it should be) and the geneticist said she likely wouldn't make it through the weekend</p> <p>I scheduled a couple of follow ups, and at the first one, the outcome was the same. About a week after the first US my doctor couldn't find the heartbeat, and she'd moved to a different position. We scheduled a D&amp;C for 4 days later, but I ended up going in two days early when I started spotting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692250 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 10:52:39 +0000 shellio 2692250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I'm so sorry - this is exactly what happened to me. At the second ultrasound we saw a flicker that may or may not have been a heart beat, like you, it was too slow if that's what it was, and the embryo hadn't grown from the previous week. I opted for a D&amp;C because I wanted to try again ASAP. The 2nd ultrasound was a Tuesday, the D&amp;C was a Thursday and by the time I had the D&amp;C they only saw a yolk sac on ultrasound but told me there was still no way to predict how long it would have taken to miscarry naturally. I had the D&amp;C in the office with local anesthesia and it was very uncomfortable for a couple of minutes but overall much simpler than if I had gone into the OR. (I only mention this because when I was looking for experiences here, it seemed the vast majority had their D&amp;C under general anesthesia.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692240 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 10:35:20 +0000 FaithFertility 2692240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I'm so very sorry for your loss! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692175 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 08:43:16 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2692175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. We never found a heartbeat but I didn't have a follow up visit until two weeks after my first ultrasound and I know how you feel. Every day I was sick, praying to see blood or hoping that when I went back everything would be okay. I still hadn't miscarried on my own by my follow up so I had the D&amp;C because I couldn't take it any longer. I am so sorry you're going though this. It's so so hard. Know that you are not alone. We are all here for you and many of know the feeling of just wanting the whole experience to be over. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692174 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 08:42:51 +0000 SweetiePie 2692174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really sorry to hear this. Limbo is also the worst. :heart:<br /> For me it happened twice.<br /> MC1: 7 week ultrasound showed to be measuring 6 weeks and slow HB. 1 week later it had stopped beating. At first I wanted to try and MC on my own but after 4 days and knowing it could still be weeks and I could be anywhere when it started, I felt tortured. Got a D&amp;C. </p> <p>MC2: 7w ultrasound showed just a couple days behind but HB was good. 8w ultrasound showed even more slowing in growth but same HB. I was concerned but my doc was not. 10w ultrasound again behind in growth but good HB so again I was worried but doc was not.<br /> Went in at 11/12 weeks (I forget now) and there was no HB. Stopped growing at 10 right after our previous US. Doc was shocked, I was not. I got a D&amp;C a couple days later. </p> <p>If you are ready to move on and want to end symptoms and so forth, once the HB stops I would opt for a D&amp;C. I felt the same as you, I just wanted it to be over. Waiting can be weeks and I've heard very painful and traumatizing. With a D&amp;C you are completely out and don't remember a thing, recovery is generally very easy and just like a regular period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692133 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 07:07:56 +0000 periwinklebee 2692133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@delight: I'm so sorry - that sounds absolutely devastating. I'm so glad that you finally have your rainbow baby now. Thank you for your support. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692132 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 07:02:50 +0000 delight 2692132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: with that miscarriage I honestly wished I had not seen a HB and that things had ended sooner than 10 weeks. All that waiting and time between ultrasounds really wears you down. This miscarriage was also about 6 months after we lost a little girl at 23 weeks which made it hard as well. I am happy to say though that four months later we fell pregnant with our little rainbow boy. I wish you all the best in the next few weeks and if you have questions please message. I have had a D&amp;E, a medically induced mc and a natural one. I really am sorry you're in this situation and I wish you lots of :heart: and support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/waiting-to-miscarry-1#post-2692130 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 06:58:13 +0000 periwinklebee 2692130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all so much for your support :heart: I'm sorry for all those who have had losses. </p> <p>@delight: I saw more about your experience when I was looking through some old loss threads, and it seems very similar. I couldn't find many stories that involved measuring so far behind but still having a heart beat. I'm sorry for your loss. </p> <p>@Pollywog: I'm sorry that you had a similar experience. We could go to planned parenthood for termination, and obviously the outcome would be the same either way, but I'm hoping it will take it's natural course soon, as I'm sure that's difficult in its own way. The wait is definitely torture. </p>