https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 14:55:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone/page/2#post-1067850 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:09:05 +0000 bunnylove08 1067850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Llama: Thank you Mrs. Lama, I'm PMing you right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone/page/2#post-1067813 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 14:56:29 +0000 Mrs. Llama 1067813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A blog friend of mine wanted me to reach out to you with this: <a href="http://www.stinkerpants.com/2013/06/a-divorced-blogger-my-first-1-5-years-as-a-single-mother/" rel="nofollow">http://www.stinkerpants.com/2013/06/a-divorced-blogger-my-first-1-5-years-as-a-single-mother/</a></p> <p>She said to reach out to her if you want to talk... if you do, shoot me a PM and I can get you her contact info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone/page/2#post-1050173 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:09:02 +0000 bunnylove08 1050173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: Thank you so much. I hope we can find another daycare center. I spoke to one (much more expensive) but they assured me its a normal thing for children to feel this way at this age. I'm going to speak to DH about having her transfer to this daycare. </p> <p>@littlek: I think you're right. I'm going to ask what other daycares what the ratios are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone/page/2#post-1049828 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 13:55:42 +0000 littlek 1049828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: hmmm, maybe she would do better at a daycare with a lower child to teacher ratio. That way it is not a big deal if your LO requires more attention. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049726 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 13:25:41 +0000 edelweiss 1049726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm sorry about all you're going through. that's frustrating that the daycare isn't more understanding and/or able to cope with your LO's anxiety, which is a totally normal behavior (so i'm surprised that they're reacting this way). i'm glad you got to stay and help her transition today, but i also think it's good that you're looking for another situation. hope things get better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049674 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 13:12:00 +0000 bunnylove08 1049674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: there is no infant room. When I dropped DD off today and hung out with her there were 4 other children that came, so 5 in total and 2 daycare providers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049509 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 12:08:04 +0000 littlek 1049509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I hope you find a better solution. I was confused, what is the ratio of providers to children? I'm assuming your child is still in the infant room, so I would think it would be a 4: 1 ratio? or 3:1? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049490 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 12:00:49 +0000 bunnylove08 1049490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Thanks we are having terrible luck with child care providers ever since we moved </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049487 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 12:00:03 +0000 Smurfette 1049487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I am sorry you have to deal with this. It sucks enough having to work and send LO to day care. Fingers crossed she likes the new place better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049477 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 11:58:15 +0000 bunnylove08 1049477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: thank you. we're calling around right now </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049240 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:43:19 +0000 Smurfette 1049240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I would start to look for somewhere else. :sad: I mean they should be able to read her cues and figure out when she is tired. Not to mention they should be able to deal with the separation, this is what they are paid and trained to deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049233 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:40:42 +0000 bunnylove08 1049233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I'm going to call around and find out what the other providers do when a child has really bad separation anxiety. thank you so much for responding </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049231 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:39:45 +0000 bunnylove08 1049231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Thank you for your advice. I'm torn on what to do but DH and my sister have had it with the daycare. I'm a little more forgiving where I know DD is a little pistol and usually gets her way because she is the princess. </p> <p>@daniellemybelle: Thank you so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049230 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:39:26 +0000 looch 1049230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel terrible and I don't know what else you could really do other than change providers. All I can tell you is that my son had bad separation anxiety from 8-15 months, nothing we did changed it, other than time. 11 months was the peak of the badness, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049205 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:34:14 +0000 bunnylove08 1049205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Yup and she plays with us too. When I leave the room and she starts to whine i run back and poke my head by the door and say peek a boo and she laughs. I also started to extend the time I pop my head back </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049187 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:30:23 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1049187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say "note taken" and leave. Find somewhere else. You're child is 11 months, not 5 years old. Honestly, how can you control that she is clingy? And who can't stop an 11m old from crying all day? Surely, they have some strategies....<br /> A daycare *should* be able to read a child's cues for being tired. It's part of the whole "taking care of kids for a living" thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049168 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:26:57 +0000 daniellemybelle 1049168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I don't have any advice but I just want to say good luck! I'm glad you were able to spend time with your daughter at daycare this morning and help them understand the cues they are missing. Mama knows best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049150 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 10:23:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1049150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you started playing peek a boo with her? My mom said that even that short thought that mom is gone, is enough to help teach them that mom comes right back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1049043 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 09:59:09 +0000 bunnylove08 1049043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c: Our Nanny is only part time (she requested part time and we LOVE her so we will do anything she wants) My sister would be a possibility, I've already spoken to her and she said she would think about it. I'm looking at two other daycares right now to find out how much it would be for just the two days. </p> <p>So an update for everyone who has responded with hugs and advice:</p> <p>The daycare let me stay with DD today. I stayed for an hour and she had her crying fits but I didnt let her go. I noticed when she was sitting with me that she was sleepy and I mentioned it to the daycare people. They took her and gave her a bottle (she was fine with that) but didn't fall asleep. Kids were arriving and there was noise because of toys (understandable). She sat with the helper and they were fine. </p> <p>She watched the other kids play and I sat on the floor with another kid and played with him while DD observed what was going on in the room. She walked over to me and sat with me. I didnt pick her up or anything and we were talking and I was paying more attention to the other child and she was fine with that. The daycare people tried to simulate the "jealousy" (not sure what is the right term) with the helper. Unfortunately it did not happen when I was there she was fine sitting with the helper and having her interact with the other child. </p> <p>No problem, then she got fussy and I saw her eyes were a little droopy. I told the workers again and said she sleeps well in the dark and quiet (I understand this might not be a possibility since the kids are all in the same room) so the helper took her by the window and put her in the bouncy seat and gave her milk. I made my exit at that time since she was fine. </p> <p>I think they dont know DD's cues for when she is tired. She slept though the night yesterday and woke up at 7am (normal time), when we got there it was about 8am and when I left it was 9am. I think she is having trouble sleeping there because she's not on the same schedule as the other kids and she is over tired. </p> <p>I understand why they are giving her a 2 week warning. I was told today that she has been whiny ever since we started going there, I always ask DH for a report but he does not talk to the daycare because he said its pretty crazy during pick up (ugh I will speak to him more about this because I need more feedback). I talk with the daycare briefly when I drop her off and they usually tell me she was fine yesterday. I think they are overwhelmed because she doesn't nap for very long like the other children and has separation anxiety. the director said that she thinks DD is scared shes going to be abandoned. She asked if our nanny or we leave her for extended periods of time and I say no and I said i think the reason why she has the anxiety is because we don't leave her. She's allowed to follow us everywhere and we usually call her to follow when we leave the room. </p> <p>So yea. I dont know what to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048201 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 22:59:53 +0000 wheres_c 1048201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there are red flags all over this one.<br /> Could you find another daycare?<br /> You mentioned a nanny....would a nanny be a possibility instead? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048190 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 22:47:39 +0000 keiki_mama 1048190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stinkerpants posted about how her daughter got kicked out of daycare (given 2 weeks notice like you) but I think she took down the post. Here's another post where she addresses it: <a href="http://www.stinkerpants.com/2013/06/temperament-as-close-to-a-baby-owners-manual-as-youre-gonna-get/" rel="nofollow">http://www.stinkerpants.com/2013/06/temperament-as-close-to-a-baby-owners-manual-as-youre-gonna-get/</a></p> <p>*hug* good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048169 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 22:28:43 +0000 Purpledaisy 1048169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont have any daycare experience but that sounds really weird to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048138 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 22:12:34 +0000 littlek 1048138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, that's weird. Personally, i would take it as a sign to switch daycares. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048084 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:30:00 +0000 yoursilverlining 1048084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: We are still a work in progress - we switched to the toddler room and from FT to PT daycare at the same time, so its taking a little longer, but what we've done is:</p> <p>- quick drop-offs. We bring LO in, hand her off, wave and smile really big and tell her she is going to have a great day in a very happy voice, then we leave. Now, by the time either DH or myself turn the corner (so LO can't see us anymore), she immediately stops crying/screaming.</p> <p>- They immediately bring LO into an activity she enjoys when she gets there. Whether it's art, going outside, reading a favorite book, having a snack, etc; she is immediately brought into group play and an activity to focus on, and to focus her attention away from parting from us.</p> <p>- She gets more 1:1 attention from the primary teacher in the morning, which is the rougher time for her. By afternoon, they say that LO always has a great day.</p> <p>- They call me to let me know how LO's day is going. </p> <p>We also met with the toddler program director, LO's primary teacher (and the other teacher in her room), and the center director. I was really nervous that we would be "in trouble", but they just kept assuring us that everything going on is totally and completely normal behavior and something they deal with all the time. </p> <p>Hope this helps!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048070 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:21:07 +0000 pinkcupcake 1048070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I'm very sorry to hear this. What a stressful and difficult situation :( I don't have any advice but I know all babies start to experience separation anxiety around that time. According to my ped, it peaks around 18 months (my 18 month old clings to me like you wouldn't believe) and it is all a normal part of development. I hope your daycare tries harder to work with you or you can find another place that fits your needs better. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048067 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:17:14 +0000 bunnylove08 1048067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: thank you for sharing your story. What did the daycare do to help your Lo transition, if you don't mind sharing. </p> <p>I'm going to start researching other daycares. Dh was upset and so was my sister. She actually stripped lo down and checked her all over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048055 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:13:32 +0000 bunnylove08 1048055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Navy_Mommy: Actually asked my sister if she could watch Lo for two days since our nanny is only part time. She is thinking about it but we would have to wait a week after she takes her state certification for massage therapy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048053 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:12:10 +0000 yoursilverlining 1048053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa, not cool daycare! Most kids go through "difficult" periods of social anxiety, parental separation anxiety, etc. Dealing with these periods seems like something they should be used to, and should be ready to handle. My LO was a dream in the infant room, but when she transitioned to the Toddler room, she started crying HARD at every drop-off. Our daycare has worked with us to get LO comfortable with the new room/kids/teachers - and even when LO is screaming and sobbing at dropoff, when I pick her up they are always extremely positive and keep telling me how normal this is, and that LO has a great day after we leave, etc. I know that LO gets extra attention at dropoff, and they expect to have to give her extra attention while she is having her little social/parental anxiety issues. Again, this seems like very normal daycare issues, and if they cannot handle them; I would probably start looking for another place. </p> <p>Daycare teachers/providers should be able and willing to work WITH children and with individual children's needs - not look for children who fit the provider's particular mould. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048052 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:11:58 +0000 bunnylove08 1048052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: she has been there ever since July going two times a week for the full day 8:30-530. I was able to stay with her for a little but I was told last week I needed to do drop and runs. I'm going to ask if I can stay for 10 minutes and decrease each day. I hope the director goes for it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warning-at-daycare-this-happen-to-anyone#post-1048045 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:09:56 +0000 Freckles 1048045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, just saw your other post "drop and run". Honestly, i find that it's a lot harder for babies to transition when they attend daycare on a part-time basis, because they can't get into that routine quickly. It'll take longer than 2 weeks, and i hope the director will understand. :( </p>