https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 20:17:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457728 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 08:24:41 +0000 erinbaderin 2457728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>An interesting question I just thought of (at least, I think it's interesting) that is sort of specific to this "I'm just running in for 2 minutes" situation. So the alternative is that she sits and waits for one of the non-accessible spots to be free, right? Just on the off chance that somebody who needs the spot comes (or in this case, two spots). But why is it not ok for somebody who needs one of the spots to have to wait? Obviously in the mall or something it's not ok because it could be hours, but given the high turnover of the daycare parking lot, it seems to me to be the same kind of question as "If all the other stalls are taken can you use the accessible stall". I don't have an answer for this, it just occurred to me - either way, somebody has to wait a few minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457627 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 03:25:44 +0000 OhCaptain 2457627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you guys really call them handicapped spots still? I thought that term was outdated. Like, waitress or stewardess. I call them "accessible" spots. Maybe that's just from working for a municipality, all PC all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457595 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:16:44 +0000 jedeve 2457595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was it wrong? Technically. Was it immoral? No. </p> <p>I would feel worse if I was the guy who yelled at you. That actually had consequences for someone, not just theoretical ones. Jerk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457592 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:12:37 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2457592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: There was still another handicap spot and the lady still yelled at your husband? She wasn't even displaced, sounds really territorial to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457591 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:09:43 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2457591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously, it's not legally allowed, but that guy needs to get a grip! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457529 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 22:45:02 +0000 lady baltimore 2457529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Pumpkin Pie brings up an interesting point: it's not just about the hypothetical disabled person you are displacing, it's about the other parents who are not using the handicapped spaces, and are instead waiting for one of the five general spaces to open up. In this particular case, I think the greater infraction is jumping the line.</p> <p>That said, I don't think what you did justifies the guy screaming at you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457518 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 22:23:32 +0000 skipper2010 2457518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I agree that handicapped spots should be used only by those with a tag, I also don't think it's such a big deal in this particular situation. It's a daycare facility not a shopping plaza. The odds of two handicapped cars entering the lot in the 5 minutes it would take for you to run in and grab your daughter are slim to none, and on top of that you had the directors blessing. I understand it's the law, but seriously that dad was a little over the top and should cool his jets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457505 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 22:01:47 +0000 hb3233 2457505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the guy handled it very poorly, but I also found this post by the mother of a disabled child really informative on why it could be frustrating to see those without the right tags parking in a handicap space: <a href="http://thegreatumbrellaheist.blogspot.com/2013/02/huh-so-now-youre-victim.html" rel="nofollow">http://thegreatumbrellaheist.blogspot.com/2013/02/huh-so-now-youre-victim.html</a> Lots of businesses have expectant mother spots, and I agree that this completely makes sense if the constraints of the parking situation permit it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457496 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 21:48:23 +0000 Greentea 2457496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You never know, maybe it was very personal to him? I try to look at things from a variety of perspectives. Once when we were moving, DH took one of the two handicapped spots (this was years ago). I didn't realize, I was busy inside. DH was loading the truck, that was the closest spot.</p> <p>Shortly thereafter I brought something out, and admittedly we didn't have help and it was taking us longer than we expected. A woman came out and literally screamed her head off and said horrible things to DH, including, "you better hope you don't end up disabled." I was pretty shocked and didn't really know what was going on, she was approaching him as I came out. I told DH he really shouldn't have parked there and he moved the truck. Turned out she was the mother of a disabled son who lived in our building. I felt bad. I guess you never really know where someone is coming from and maybe he has a wife, mother, son, sister, friend, who needs to utilize those spots and has struggled with it, maybe in his own way he felt offended/ disrespected.</p> <p>Maybe I'm just blah blah blah and everyone is collectively rolling their eyes. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457474 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 21:33:56 +0000 iheartleopardprint 2457474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think being pregnant is a handicap, personally. I wouldn't park there and abuse a system that is intended for people who need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457449 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:49:24 +0000 catomd00 2457449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: if she feels she is handicapped enough to use it she can simply do the paperwork to get the proper tag. I've broken my leg before - definitely a handicap, but I never parked in the spots because I didn't bother to get the paperwork done for it. It's pretty simple, if you don't have a tag it's illegal to park there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457445 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:47:52 +0000 macintosh 2457445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you've gotten a lot of feedback already, but I wanted to chime in since I have handicapped plates. They are for my DH. I'll admit, I do sometimes use handicapped spaces when DH is not with me. I try not to do it if it's the last accessible space around or if there's another space available.</p> <p>I know others have covered that handicapped parking is governed by law. I do sometimes get annoyed when all the spots are filled when I'm out with my DH. I'll look to see if the car has a placard and they always do. I would never approach someone who was parking there if they didn't "look" disabled because you never know. I did once leave a note for someone who was parked in the loading zone of a handicapped spot with no placard. A handicapped person with a wheelchair ramp on the size of their van really needs that.</p> <p>I don't think what you did was that bad :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457431 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:22:09 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2457431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: I think if she wants to park there she should go ahead and get the decal. Just because someone thinks they are handicapped doesn't mean they can just use those spots. You have to follow the process. And you're right in most cases a doctor would issue a temporary pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457430 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:19:45 +0000 avivoca 2457430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: The problem is that she doesn't have the handicapped decal or placard that you need to park in those spots. It's illegal to park in them when the car is not marked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457427 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:17:51 +0000 Trailmix 2457427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually very surprised at the responses saying you should not have parked there. You're 36 weeks pregnant, to me that IS a handicap! You're not physically able to do the things you would do if you weren't pregnant, therefore...handicapped. The dad was obviously out of line and huge jerk but I really cannot believe how everyone is saying you should not have parked there. 9 months pregnant and having to carry your toddler on icy/snowy ground is absolutely a valid reason to park in a handicap spot. Something quite serious could happen if you were to fall! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457327 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 18:33:29 +0000 MrsBeluga 2457327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: I dont think you were in the wrong at all... I think that dad was! What a jerk for a dad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457298 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:48:11 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2457298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the daycare's we've used, it was kind of normal for people to use the handicap spots when all the other spots were taken. I never felt comfortable doing it, but I didn't really judge those that did. </p> <p>The guy was way out of line to be *that* rude to you. I don't care if you were in the wrong or not - people need to mind their own business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457295 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:45:53 +0000 HLK208 2457295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: bahaha to the tears 🙌🏼 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457292 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:39:42 +0000 lemondrop 2457292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since nobody usually uses those spots legally, I would absolutely get the placard just as a big old F YOU to Mr. Douche Bag. </p> <p>I'm not one to make a big deal, but I also would have made a huge scene by bursting into loud pregnancy tears about him being a complete asshole to a very pregnant lady. It's OK to make things easier on yourself, your safety and baby #2's safety is really important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457274 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 17:20:28 +0000 PawPrints 2457274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That dude was off his rocker. But just let your doctor get you the placard! Why not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457185 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 16:06:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2457185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You shouldn't park in a handicapped spot ever unless you have a placard, regardless of the director's blessing. But we've all done things we shouldn't have done and that definitely includes that guy for chewing you out. Very rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457146 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 15:36:03 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2457146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a complete a-hole! I suggest that you register for a temporary handicap place card just in case he really has nothing to do but try and make you miserable. That guy is seriously a douche 😟 I think it's absolutely horrible that he talked to you in that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457143 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 15:34:42 +0000 Mrs.Waffles 2457143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you were in the wrong. There was still a handicap space available. The guy was just a jerk. I didn't have problems walking during my pregnancy, but some women do. I think it's nice that the school said that you can park there. Why risk slipping in the ice. I wouldn't feel bad using it as long as there is still one available and your not park there for more than just a few minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457142 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 15:34:36 +0000 mediagirl 2457142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're pregnant - not handicapped. I don't think pregnancy = handicapped unless there are other medical reasons that make you unable to walk far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457121 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 15:22:28 +0000 pastemoo 2457121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: if you need that spot it is not hard at all to get ahandicap permit via your OB. It would be temporary but falls are a huge risk in pregnancy and I'd rather not risk falling on ice.<br /> Legally he could have you ticketed despite what the director says you have permission to do. I would file for the permit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457115 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 15:15:53 +0000 catomd00 2457115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd never say anything to someone, but yeah I think it's wrong. You're pregnant not disabled. If you need the spot that badly, you can get a temporary tag. I also think the director is wrong allowing you to park there. They can at their discretion have stork parking if they think it's necessary... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457089 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:59:27 +0000 Eko 2457089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So that dude was a jackass. I mean if he needed the spot then I get it, but just to out someone to out them I don't get. And you have the buildings blessing. </p> <p>But, contrary to what everyone else has said, I honestly probably would've done the same thing, given that the other spot was open. On a normal day, no I wouldn't park there, but if it was following an ice storm where salt trucks haven't gone in and LO is acting up and I need to carry them in to get on with my day. And I know I am going to be in there for all of 2 minutes. Yeah I would do it if I was that pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457088 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:59:25 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2457088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: that definitely would have made me cry with pregnancy hormones! Actually probably anytime. I mean of course you shouldn't park there but it's like... What is he gonna make a citizens arrest? Meany. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457075 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:51:11 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2457075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think<br /> 1. Yea you were wrong<br /> 2. Dude sounds kinda rude<br /> 3. Just have them come out and grab your daughter since they offered if it's slippery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-i-really-that-wrong/page/2#post-2457073 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:50:24 +0000 Mrs D 2457073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At least we all can agree the guy was a jerk... hopefully he was just having a bad morning...I cant wait to speak to my closest teacher friend and get more scoop on him... :silly: </p>