https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 19:32:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412941 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:36:32 +0000 Lindsay05 412941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always got the "so how long were you trying". Well lets see let me go into detail about our adventures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412931 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:25:48 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 412931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got asked a lot with our second child, because they are less than 2 years apart. And we did get pregnant the week we started trying, so it's not like we had told people that we were ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412920 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:12:02 +0000 MamaMoose 412920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't think of anyone who asked us that. But we are 28 and had been married for two years when we got pregnant and I'm totally baby obsessed so I don't think anyone was surprised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412916 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:01:59 +0000 sarac 412916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Woah, I would NEVER dare ask the question. I've wondered, certainly, but never. Never! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412888 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 20:32:21 +0000 BKCaribBaby 412888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only one person has asked. I was a little surprised at the question, since DH and I have been married for over 3 years and are in our mid-30's. Umm.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412726 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 17:29:06 +0000 allison 412726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: Same here. My MIL kept telling people: "They've been married for FOUR YEARS! About time they had a baby!" I always feel insulted when she says it, A) because I don't think 4 years is that long of a time to be married before having kids (I'm 26 now), and B) what if we had been trying for 4 years and had a hard time getting pregnant? That wasn't the case this time, but how does anyone know that? So rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412708 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 17:08:43 +0000 pastemoo 412708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tons of people asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412707 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 17:07:30 +0000 cranberry 412707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has really asked us this yet, but probably because my DH told just about everyone we were going to start trying after we got back from our Napa/Sonoma trip in September. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412699 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 16:59:15 +0000 sera_87 412699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i got this from my MOTHER, of all people. &gt;__&lt;</p> <p>everyone else knew/figured out he kind of wasn't - he was born almost 10 months to the day after our wedding &amp; I was always quite vocal about waiting so I wouldn't get the other rude newlywed question about when you're gonna have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412666 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 16:04:28 +0000 blackbird 412666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had a lot of people ask me this! Mostly strangers. We've been married 3.5 years, it's SO RUDE. I just kind of look at them like, "um, are you stupid?" because that question does not deserve an answer. All my friends knew we were trying, and after a mc, our families figured it was planned, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412651 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:42:32 +0000 kml636 412651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 RUDE person asked... I couldnot believe it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412640 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:27:56 +0000 JoJoGirl 412640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only had 1 person ask- which was more than I expected! We've been married 18 months and are 34 and 38, what makes you think this was an accident?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412548 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 13:15:32 +0000 Mrs. Blue 412548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone asked me in front of my boss, and I was really peeved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412517 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 12:18:21 +0000 immabeetoo 412517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got asked this by almost everyone - to be fair, I'd been telling people we were holding off for longer because I didn't want to get bombarded with TTC questions. But still. I would never ask anyone that!! Something about pregnancy makes people say, ask, and act in the weirdest ways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412500 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 11:56:33 +0000 prettylizy 412500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't remember anyone asking me this, but I've been dreaming about babies since I started dating DH. I wanted to start trying on our wedding night!!! I don't think anyone was surprised when we announced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412496 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 11:37:36 +0000 lomom 412496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I've tried that, the asker replied "Oh, so it WASN'T planned!" and then I just got pissed and said that of course our child was planned! Ruuuuuuude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412453 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:56:16 +0000 Minnie_Girl 412453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one asked. Go figure, we definitely didn't plan this baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412451 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:52:54 +0000 JessicaMcB 412451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one ever asked us, but it was pretty clear to everyone that we were going to try right after we got married- Emma was born 10 months to the day of our wedding!</p> <p>DH however was a doink and when he found out an old friend was also expecting a little girl he asked if the pregnancy was planned on his facebook wall! I don't think men understand that this is rude because when I called him on how wildly inappropriate that was he thought it was a totally valid question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412450 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:52:25 +0000 Trailmix 412450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. I actually got an 'I'm sorry. Was it planned?' from our school nurse after she caught me throwing up in the bathroom. Um, seeing as how I did infertility treatments and an IUI, I'd say it was pretty damn planned! Yeeesh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412448 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:47:00 +0000 HLK208 412448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My real estate agent asked me this the other day! So inappropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412432 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:35:03 +0000 Arden 412432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and I replied with "That is an extremely personal question that I'm not comfortable answering." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412430 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:34:21 +0000 Mrs. Train 412430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was pregnant with my twins I got that all the time. It's kind of awkward when people at the grocery store ask you things like that I never knew how to answer. Do random strangers need to know that I had adopted because I was having trouble getting pregnant then immediately got pregnant with twins?</p> <p>When we got pregnant with our fourth everyone thought we were crazy so she must have been an accident. She was not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412428 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:33:13 +0000 .twist. 412428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my co-workers knows that we're trying and when I told her she said "so... how would you feel if it happened [got pregnant]?" well... we're trying... obviously I'd be devastated. Like, what do you think!??! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412423 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:28:12 +0000 singingbee 412423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sisters get asked this for me! Mainly, it's are they trying again--since we lost our daughter at 20 wks. One of my sisters always quips back that yes and we are enjoying ourselves. That makes them stop asking questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412421 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:27:30 +0000 autumnlove 412421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant before LO turned 8 months so everyone asked us this question! It always leads to comments about our love for sex! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412402 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 10:07:15 +0000 matador84 412402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes got asked this along with so many other rude questions...is it twins...you're pretty big...are you having a vaginal birth...what goes thru people's heads!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412385 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:51:57 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 412385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>P.S. #1 wasn't planned, and #2 was :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412384 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:50:57 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 412384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People always asked, but that's bc we got pregnant 5 months after we got married so I'm sure it was on everyone's minds! I was really surprised when I got asked so much the 2nd time around though esp since my two little ones are spaced a very normal 2 years 2 months apart, but more often than not it was a very hesitant, gentle way of asking so I didn't mind it too much. I think if the approach was different I would've minded more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412383 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:46:55 +0000 lemondrop 412383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, what we got was, "Well it's about time," which sounds nicer, but annoyed me to no end because it took us almost a year for that BFP. At one point, my husband's aunt even asked me why we hadn't started having kids yet- if I hadn't just found out about the pregnancy, I would have been homicidal. Nobody's damn business planned or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned#post-412377 Sat, 24 Nov 2012 09:33:14 +0000 GrapeCrush 412377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes! we were only married 3 months when we got pregnant, we had started trying the night of the wedding. people constantly asked, i was floored! my SIL even was so rude as to ask again AFTER DS was born! i couldn't believe it. </p>