https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 20:19:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037521 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 18:26:11 +0000 Mrs. J 1037521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yep, including by my high school students! So awkward coming from them, especially coupled with, "When did that happen?" Well...</p> <p>lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037210 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 16:58:08 +0000 AprilFool 1037210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes by a few people but one of them was my mum!! I had told her a different TTC timeline so she wouldn't bug me. I still thought it was an odd question because oops or not what difference does a few months make if we were trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037147 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 16:30:13 +0000 HeartAbandoned 1037147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not an applicable question yet, but having watched my DH around one of his close coworkers who just had a baby, any rude questions that get asked around him will have equally rude answers. Why does it matter? How his this relevant to your life? People are dumb! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037118 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 16:16:02 +0000 MrsStormy 1037118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been asked, and its sort of an awkward thing to answer, but in all fairness I was pretty vocal about wanting to wait for a while (although while I did want to wait awhile, I had been married 2 years when I got pregnant, and part of why I told people that was so they wouldn't ask me all the time about having babies). The worst though someone asked me if "I was okay" like I was going to be upset, um yes, I'm a grown up, I did in fact plan this, I have been married several years, I think I will be fine.</p> <p>ETA: I also had a client who was youngish ask me if I was totally SHOCKED when I found out I was pregnant, I answered not really, but she just kept persisting, I finally had to explain to her that no, when you are not using protection pregnancy can happen, and when you are intentionally not using protection it normally means you are TRYING to have a baby, which takes a little of the shock factor away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037088 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 16:00:42 +0000 mrsdoily 1037088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has asked, but we have been together for 9 years and married for 1 year. However, people did ask us what took so long, which killed me, since we had one miscarriage during 12 months of active trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037040 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 15:34:37 +0000 MamaBehr 1037040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's even worse with the third baby. ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1037025 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 15:27:57 +0000 MrsRcCar 1037025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got it when I was pregnant with N all the time. This time a few people have asked. I am sure once we formally announce it to everyone we will get it more. We planned to have them about 18 months apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1/page/2#post-1036901 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:41:33 +0000 Ellie 1036901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only had a cousin ask, thank goodness (unfortunately when I was standing next to other cousins, SIL, etc). We're not too close and I didn't want to get into our trials TTC and what-not, so I lied and told them all that she wasn't planned. I didn't want to get into a long conversation about it. </p> <p>I think I'm actually a bit ashamed of how long we TTC or something. I don't know why I don't shout from the rooftops that we were finally successful. At least DH and I know and appreciate our daughter even more for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036852 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:31:37 +0000 Vegmama 1036852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! And I want to say something like, "Yeah, and we tried for a long time ... Had a miscarriage too, wanna ask me about that?" ... I would never say that outloud, ha, but I can't help but think about it. So rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036843 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:27:09 +0000 beachbee 1036843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pregnant with multiples, so yes it definitely came up a few times. As well as the "does that run in your family", "did you get pregnant naturally". etc. People have no tact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036815 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:21:18 +0000 PixieStix 1036815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple people have asked me but most aren't surprised since my husband and I have been married 5 years. In fact, we were starting to get the, "What are you waiting for? and "You're not getting any younger!" kind of answers. Funny how people seem to give you one extreme or the other kind of comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036796 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:18:34 +0000 MsLipGloss 1036796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I actually objected to the question (yep, from my own client) on the basis of relevancy (I wanted to object based on a clear display of a lack of decency and social etiquette!), and asked opposing counsel if he would agree to strike the comment from the record. He did. I was equally mortified and livid. </p> <p>Annnnd, inorite?! The kicker is my client was a woman! *lesigh* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036607 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:30:21 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1036607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: wth?? How did you respond to that? "Ummmm... How does that apply to what we're talking about??" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036461 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:52:54 +0000 deerylou 1036461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sure did. I found it rude but was usually honest. DD was a surprise baby, but DH and I are both educated, employed, and in our late twenties. I had nothing to be ashamed of, so I just made the other person feel awkward for asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036373 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:25:49 +0000 wheres_c 1036373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Hated it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036362 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:22:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 1036362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Yep. Once by a client. On the record. During a deposition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036338 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:14:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 1036338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only one person, and she is a bit younger. But we are in our 30s, married almost three years, and everyone knows we wanted kids. We got asked when we were having kids way way more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036295 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:59:14 +0000 Boheme 1036295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, people asked all the time. So rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036263 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:48:24 +0000 Dandelion 1036263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm bracing myself for this one. I haven't announced, yet, but I know I'll be getting it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036250 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:44:04 +0000 rattles 1036250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got asked this all the time too! I was flabbergasted that people would be so nosy and rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036246 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:41:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1036246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha ha! This reminds me of all the shotgun wedding questions I was asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036241 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:41:01 +0000 Cherrybee 1036241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this a few times!! I was pretty surprised - I'm in my thirties (with no previous oops children) and married, why would they assume my pregnancy was an accident?! Weird! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036228 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:37:37 +0000 Mrs Spoon 1036228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes all the time! I think it's weird. We've been married almost 4 years and are in our 30s there isn't much in my life right now that isn't planned. I also am not a fan of people asking me how long we tried for unless it's a close friend. Um, do you also want to know how many times we DTD?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036185 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:20:33 +0000 yin 1036185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of people asked with my first, and I haven't had anyone ask about my second. They will be 2.5 years apart, and I assume everyone was expecting me to get pregnant soon anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036178 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:18:25 +0000 MrsCastro 1036178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes...pregnant with my first and when people started finding out at work the receptionist asked "was it planned??" i gave her a death stare and said he sure was...</p> <p>what is wrong with people!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036160 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:10:49 +0000 daniellemybelle 1036160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: That's my standard reply for rude questions but I am often not brave enough to say it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036155 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:08:32 +0000 Torchwood 1036155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems so rude! No one asked us, but everyone who knows me at all knows I've had baby fever for a loooong time, so they were just surprised we waited so long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036150 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:06:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1036150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, all the time. They are 21 months apart and our second daughter was adopted, so very much planned! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036142 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:02:37 +0000 catomd00 1036142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes they do since we got pregnant 3 months after our wedding and I don't think anyone expected it. Granted, it wasn't really planned in the traditional sense we weren't trying "okay I'm ovulating, let's go". But, when you aren't on birth control and you have unprotected sex, how is it not somewhat planned?! I don't feel the need to explain that to people though so I just say yes. We wanted a baby in fall, we got one a little sooner than expected! We definitely didn't think one time without pulling out would get us pregnant, but we're intelligent people who know the risks of not using contraception. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-it-planned-1#post-1036134 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 10:59:36 +0000 Springtime 1036134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! So many times, especially for baby #2, they will be 22 months apart. It's so rude, I just want to say it's none of your business!! </p>