https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 00:51:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated/page/2#post-2207885 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 10:02:19 +0000 MrsF 2207885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: if you had a colicky firstborn, there is no way that this will be harder - no matter how difficult your second baby is. I was SO worried about having another nightmare baby. I really felt like I had ptsd from my first. DS turned out to be a difficult baby as well, but doing it for the second time is just SO much easier. Obviously having a toddler adds another component, but this time you have the benefit of hindsight. You know that it won't last forever, and that some day the fussy baby will be eating sandwiches, hugging you and telling you that they love you! Already knowing how to be a mom makes things totally different :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207823 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 07:33:15 +0000 Anagram 2207823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: we have the car issue, too. I commute two hours a day with LO and up until the last month it was almost all scream crying. Now finally at 22 mo ths she's better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207813 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 07:10:48 +0000 meredithNYC 2207813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Harder. If I only had to deal with my newborn, it would be fairly easy. But I'm a SAHM, so I rarely get a break from the two of them and it's exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207779 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 05:57:55 +0000 NovBaby1112 2207779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsF: everyone is also convinced DS will be super laid back and chill bc DD was soooo colicky/high maintenance as a newborn. I'm not that convinced! I'm a little freaked out by the thought of another difficult newborn but hearing a few of your stories of how things are improving and you are surviving makes me feel better.</p> <p>I'm really curious how I will adjust. I feel similarly to @2littlepumpkins in that I refuse to even entertain the idea of it being harder than 0-1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207770 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 04:42:12 +0000 Kemma 2207770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: my wee guy is pretty chilled out but my big girl has struggled with the change to our family and we're both finding the transition difficult. Throw in a major toileting regression / refusal and the late onset of the "terrible twos" and life isn't a bunch of rainbows at our place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207764 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 03:29:26 +0000 erinpye 2207764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: it makes me feel badly when everyone talks about how much easier it was the second time, too. You're not alone :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207763 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 03:24:42 +0000 erinpye 2207763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: that's why it was so much harder for me. Both were extremely high-needs and are terrible sleepers. My first screamed her head off for the first 6 months of her life straight, and only slept on me. Didn't STTN regularly until over a year old. My second screamed for 3 hours straight every single night for the first year, and woke sooooo much at night until after a year old. Neither has ever napped well, if at all. Both scream(ed) in the car for at least 1.5 years. Both want to be held all.the.time. My oldest throws raging tantrums regularly. My youngest has just started throwing them, too. My youngest didn't let me wear her much, and protests being in a stroller, making getting out with both exceedingly difficult for quite a while. They are 22 months apart, so I've basically had 2 high-needs babies at once. For me it was so, so very hard. I dealt with really terrible PPD and PPA for the first year after my second was born. It was so exhausting, overwhelming, and all-consuming. I actually sold my business because I couldn't handle it all. 16 months into it, it's WAY better now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207648 Sat, 13 Jun 2015 20:56:10 +0000 MrsF 2207648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: my first LO was very colicky and has always been super high -needs. Everyone had me convinced that DS would be an easy baby but he has been really challenging too. Crying all the time, never content... It's so hard to give that kind of attention when you also have a toddler! J is 6 months now and just starting to sit up and I think I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. This isn't very encouraging but I want you to know you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2207627 Sat, 13 Jun 2015 20:21:35 +0000 autumn865 2207627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Harder :-/<br /> I never expected how hard a colicky high needs baby is in the beginning along with adjusting to being a SAHM with a two year old and new baby. Even now at 4 months sometimes I feel like we are finally settling into our new normal and other days I feel like I have nothing figured out. The colic has subsided but the baby is happiest when she has 100% of my attention (which is obviously not possible with two). This thread is making me feel a little bad with everyone's easy second babies and adjustments :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206694 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 11:22:48 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2206694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: mine isn't here yet but I can't let myself think it's going to be harder than 0-1 or I'll go crazy. 0-1 was rough and I had the newborn baby that could cry for hours and hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206583 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 10:06:25 +0000 Anagram 2206583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: I wish cosleeping solved our LOs sleep issues. This whole week, either we've taken her to our bed or DH has slept with her in the bed in her room---and no dice. She's still up crying every other hour or so. Ugh. She has 2 months for her sleep to improve before this new baby comes.</p> <p>I also think (aside from sleep) that my toddler is way easier now than as a baby. But I guess she was a challenging baby and she's a very laid back toddler...during daylight hours. Not super tantrummy, very good at entertaining herself, generally pleasant, a good eater. As a newborn, she never slept, wouldn't eat, cried if I put her down ever.</p> <p>Maybe this baby will be totally different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206581 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 10:05:29 +0000 cascademom 2206581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @dagret: I can see and understand this. DH has to do morning routine with E while I do the night shift with the baby. He never did mornings until almost 3 weeks ago. He also doesn't get the same level of interaction with J that I do because of maternity leave. I can see how it's tougher on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206573 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 10:01:38 +0000 cascademom 2206573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Seriously, compared to a toddler, newborns are easy. I'm more confident this time too. We went out two days in a row at 2.5 weeks old. J went to E's daycare yesterday for parent teacher conferences. Huge change from with E. Now just waiting for him to gain enough weight to wear him in the K'tan and Tula to keep getting out minus the stroller. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206525 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 09:32:49 +0000 travellingbee 2206525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: I've heard this a lot from friends. 1 to 2 is easier than 0-1 for mom but harder for dad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206517 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 09:26:17 +0000 Mamasig 2206517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: My boys are not horrible sleepers but they aren't great either. But I don't have high expectations. They are babies and I assume they will have average to crappy sleep. But I know this is a short phase of their life. They both have low sleep needs and need me to fall asleep. My 2.5 year old has co slept since he was about 7 months. He now usually starts off in his toddler bed and then climbs in with us if he wakes up. My 1 year old is in his crib and I would say STTN 60% of the time. The other 40% he wakes up somewhere between 3 and 5. I then go get him and he joins us in the bed. This is the only way I get nice decent sleep. </p> <p>DS1 is not high needs at all. DS2 is a bit more of a challenge. He's a mamas boy that is clingy to me. However, now that he is almost walking it's getting better. </p> <p>Unlike most of the other posters, I think toddlers are way easier than newborns/babies. My almost three year old can tell me what he needs and entertains himself. I lucked out with him - he's a breeze. Babies are mysteries to me! And I did not have those newborns that only sleep and eat. </p> <p>I was worried about taking care of two, but you do what you have to do! Seeing them together is worth it 100%! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206510 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 09:18:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 2206510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I wonder too. C isn't a terrible sleeper now, but she was a very difficult newborn- at least compared to our baby friends who are the same age, not just my own perception. I am just really hoping this next one is easier and sleeps better and actually naps not attached to my boob. Either that or I figure out nursing in the baby carrier I guess. </p> <p>Still these responses give me hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206495 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 09:03:51 +0000 bushelandapeck 2206495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easier for me because I knew what to expect. It was a tough transition for DS and DH though and the first few months were pretty stressful for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206441 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 08:29:16 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2206441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way easier!! Newborns are so easy compares to toddlers. All they do is sleep and eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206436 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 08:25:49 +0000 dagret 2206436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easier for me, because R is a very easy baby.<br /> But I'd say it's much, much harder for my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206375 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 07:42:02 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2206375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way easier than I thought it would be.<br /> It's shocking how easy newborns are when compared to off the wall toddlers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206310 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 06:58:21 +0000 Anagram 2206310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On these threads, I always wonder about parents who have two high needs kids or two bad sleepers---anyone out there like this that wants to weigh in?</p> <p>Our toddler was and still is a horrible sleeper. After she turned 1, she started having brief periods of good sleep, but always followed by another bad streak. The past three nights, she was up literally 4-6 times each night, scream crying. Not sure if her molars are coming in, if she's coming down with something---but this happens very frequently.</p> <p>So I do sometimes wonder how I will cope with her AND a newborn if the newborn is as bad of a sleeper as my first (didn't sleep through the night even once till she was a year old, and then only infrequently since then).</p> <p>Anyone? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206296 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 06:37:26 +0000 Mamasig 2206296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easier - sleep deprivation didn't hit me as hard and I'm more laid back. DS2 was an easy newborn and DS1 showed no jealousy issues. It did get a bit harder as DS2 got older because he wanted me all the time. Now that he's one, it's getting easier again. </p> <p>Honestly, now I think back and wonder why I worried so much. It all works out and it's a season of life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206268 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 05:29:50 +0000 BandDmommy 2206268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>easier! But we have a super easy DD who started STTN at 2 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206257 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 03:59:25 +0000 Pumuckl 2206257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot easier! For the one part my second was even easier than my first and for the other part I just knew that it's okay to cut myself some slack sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206246 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 02:34:27 +0000 SeptMomma12 2206246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say easier but that doesn't mean it's been easy at all. Just not as completely life-altering as going from 0 to 1. I'm still finding it pretty overwhelming most days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206235 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 00:55:09 +0000 erinpye 2206235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Harder. But around a year it eased up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206227 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 00:10:56 +0000 sometimesshesings 2206227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, this thread is making me feel much better about welcoming #2 in November! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206178 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 22:28:43 +0000 PinkElephant 2206178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easier. LO2 was an excellent sleeper at the beginning. LO1 was also young enough that we weren't yet dealing with tantrums, potty training, etc. things got tougher for me about 6 months in, and have recently improved again just after LO2 turned 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206164 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 22:11:30 +0000 Kemma 2206164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easier because I'm much more confident and relaxed, and because I had a much smoother delivery, recovery and first few weeks, but it's also been harder because my girl is still struggling with the change to our family and is having a major potty regression :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-the-transition-to-2-easierharder-than-what-you-anticipated#post-2206107 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 21:18:31 +0000 GrapeCrush 2206107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way easier than I was anticipating! Mine are 15 months apart, and I was terrified I wasn't going to be able to handle it. We were both so surprised when it was much easier. </p>