https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 13:22:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude/page/2#post-2127749 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 09:02:14 +0000 HLK208 2127749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it was rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude/page/2#post-2127680 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 08:00:38 +0000 Mama Bird 2127680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess she was just trying to make a joke, but yeah, I see how it sounded a bit rude. I used to go to a dentist who always lectured me on how I have to floss, gave me horrible painful cleanings, and signed me up for another appointment in half a year. I'm sure I was a pretty steady paycheck. Luckily DH goes to a different dentist and I decided to go to her instead. She lectured me a lot too, but she also helped me get over my fear of dental work enough that I got all my cavities taken care of on time, and recommended herbs and toothpaste that finally helped my gum problems. I see her a lot less often than that other dentist, but it's thanks to being a lot healthier. She's awesome :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude/page/2#post-2127546 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:25:16 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2127546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always feel like a child at the dentist. I hate going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude/page/2#post-2127543 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:09:22 +0000 wonderstruck 2127543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems like the dentist was just trying to lighten the mood with a joke so that you wouldn't feel lectured about the flossing comment, which obviously they have to tell you that to make sure you're aware of it. It didn't work for you, but personally I would have laughed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127541 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:07:43 +0000 HabesBabe 2127541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh, this seems like a mountain out of a molehill. Not rude at all, but if you feel uncomfortable, find another dentist. There's plenty out there who dial it in and won't make any small talk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127540 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:00:03 +0000 sarac 2127540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, typical medical provider condescension. I can't stand that stuff - I find a new provider pronto. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127532 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 23:30:19 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2127532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHansen82: just anecdotally I think dentists tend to have way worse bedside manner than doctors overall. I've gotten so many weird/awkward vibes from dentists... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127427 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 20:52:26 +0000 turquoisemama 2127427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In response to PP saying it's her sense of humor, I don't think doctors, dentists, etc really should be making jokes about a patients health. I think it would be okay for her to say she was concerned about your oral health and encourage you to floss more though. A doctor wouldn't make jokes about someone being obese so why is this any different?</p> <p>Perhaps dentists aren't trained in bedside manner like doctors might be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127189 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 17:17:48 +0000 Kimberlybee 2127189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I picked other because it sounds like a quirky dental joke that they probably say to lots of people. Dental visits are my least favorite dr visits. I have gone to some shady dentists though that so once I found a good one, I have kept the same guy for 15 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127165 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:54:19 +0000 BSB 2127165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would have fake laughed. I have had other people say things that were more rude... probably without a joke. I love my dentist and hygienist. My hygienist was out of town one time and I got another hygienist and she said somethings that made me not want to come back to her. I brushed it off, though. My teeth are pretty bad and some people feel like telling you the truth. Some have to do it. Luckily, mine does it subtlety and she knows me so if she says something I trust her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127151 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:35:58 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2127151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it was really rude. It wasn't polite either.. but I wouldn't let it get to me. I would just change dentists if it bothers/bothered you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127150 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:32:35 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2127150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also why I hate going to the dentist. I vote rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2127136 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:17:05 +0000 Torchwood 2127136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as @MrsHansen82, that is precisely why I hate going to the dentist. I have terrible enamel. I could be perfect with my flossing/brushing, and I would still have issues. But making me feel crappy isn't going to help that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126931 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 13:33:30 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2126931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much expect a flossing comment every time I go to the dentist. I think she was trying to be funny, not rude but I would have been annoyed just because I hate going to the dentist. I would get a papsmear any day over that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126925 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 13:23:24 +0000 littlebug 2126925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would be irritated by it because it would make me feel like I'm just a paycheck to her, not a real person with feelings (like maybe fear or anxiety?)! I'm not sure I'd call it rude, just insensitive and frankly, kind of stupid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126892 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:53:42 +0000 edelweiss 2126892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would be annoyed. i feel like a big part of a dentist's job is not to shame people, because folks already don't like going to the dentist for that reason. so maybe it wasn't "rude" (although i did vote that way), but very unaware. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126856 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:30:23 +0000 .twist. 2126856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I may be biased because I love the dentist but... I think it was just her sense of humour! Dentists are necessary for everyone, so when they say stuff about getting you to come back, I never really take offence. If they were destroying my teeth and giving me bad advice and saying stuff like that, well... then I would find a new dentist. </p> <p>However, if they're taking care of my teeth and giving me good advice that I just don't listen/adhere to, then I don't mind them making money jokes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126852 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:27:35 +0000 Greentea 2126852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just saw a dentist who asked me why I hadn't been in for long time.... I was like... do I need to answer and then was asked what I do for work... I found it irritating but maybe she thought she was being friendly, but it's like why does it matter? kind of personal.</p> <p>anyhow, I don't think this dentist was rude. was probably trying to be nice. definitely straight forward! it sounds like she was just telling you like it is. the topic may be frustrating but maybe it is better to know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126847 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:22:09 +0000 Miss Ariel 2126847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I basically feel like this is how every interacting goes for me with a dentist. It's the main reason I hate going to the dentist. So while I'd definitely be annoyed and offended I feel like it's normal for a dentist, which is why I picked other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126846 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:21:09 +0000 Anagram 2126846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePeony: That's what I was hoping for! Like, obviously dentists don't recommend that you go for 3 years without an appointment, but hey, we're glad you're here now and let's get you back on track. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126841 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 12:18:19 +0000 PurplePeony 2126841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I did something similar with moving and skipping out on dentist visits for way too long (I'd had two not-great dentists in a row before we moved and would have had to look for a new one even if we hadn't moved, so I was burnt out on trying to find a good one to start with...and moving was a convenient reason to keep putting it off). I was upfront when I went in and the dentist was actually awesome -- matter-of-fact but completely nonjudgmental. He basically treated me the way I was hoping, which was that I knew I'd been stupid but it was in the past, I was there now, and it was time to just get things fixed up without a fuss (I did have a couple cavities). I'm SO thankful to have found a dentist like that!</p> <p>Anyway, I think the OP's dentist was kind of rude and I wouldn't have liked it, but if I was otherwise satisfied with their service I'd write it off this once. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126523 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:15:57 +0000 charlotte 2126523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I think she meant no harm but I find it a bit rude. I've been to several different dentists as an adult (due to moving) and the first few always made me feel bad. I have a permanent retainer that always gets a bit of stuff near it no matter how hard I try. I know I need to floss it and I don't appreciate lectures. That said, my newest dentist is great and tells me I'm doing a great job and getting the hard to reach parts is part of what the professional cleaning is for. At this point I will never stay with a dentist who makes me feel bad again. There are plenty of great ones out there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126519 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:14:05 +0000 cat620 2126519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: I think that's what irritated me the most. She knows most people hate getting fillings, so instead of being sympathetic about it, she approached it from a money making standpoint. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126514 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:10:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2126514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would agree that it's rude since you are the one that heard her tone of voice, etc. It's a fine line between a funny joke vs hurting the patient's feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126500 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:03:35 +0000 WinterBee 2126500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I would have taken that as a joke and probably laughed along. I wouldn't over think it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126491 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:59:22 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2126491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I often find that dentists think their office is my only option. However, it is not...I have hundreds of offices and dentists to choose from. Treat me like a customer or I will find another office. </p> <p>I left two offices before my current office. My dentist educates me, spends focused time during my appointment, and re-recruits me at every appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126488 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:57:49 +0000 yellowbird 2126488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She was probably trying to make a joke, but it really wasn't that funny! I try to be professional at hygiene appointments but I do make jokes sometimes but not really like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126482 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:53:54 +0000 californiadreams 2126482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think it depends on the tone too. Though either way, i don't think her intentions were to be rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126481 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:52:34 +0000 Adira 2126481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Her comments don't bother me, but it's hard to tell how rude she was being without being able to hear the tone. Sometimes the words themselves aren't insulting, but the tone used to convey them are, and vice-versa!</p> <p>That being said, I'm also one of those weird people that like going to the dentist. I love how clean my teeth feel after and I look forward to it! I also go four times a year because my teeth have issues, so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-this-dentist-rude#post-2126473 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:48:53 +0000 Cole 2126473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am admittedly a sensitive person but I would be really bugged by this too and would switch dentists. I think perhaps part of it is that she wasn't coming at it from a "this is best for your health" stand point? </p>