Hellobee Boards Topic: Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 04:25:25 +0000 GrapeCrush on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-728542 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 05:42:31 +0000 GrapeCrush 728542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ no, he really wanted a boy with #1 and i wanted a girl. but i was really excited when #1 was a boy, because he was so excited. however, #2, i wanted to be a girl the whole time, and didn't care what he wanted haha. and it's a girl! :o) Cherrybee on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-728538 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 05:39:23 +0000 Cherrybee 728538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I really wanted a girl but when I found out DH wanted a boy I started hoping the baby was a boy - so much so, I was actually quite taken aback when the u/s tech said the baby was a girl! Over the next few days, as it sunk in, all my longing for a girl bubbled up to the surface and I was so excited!!! illumina on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-728519 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 04:57:21 +0000 illumina 728519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He wanted a boy, which definitely made me hope for a boy too. We're having a girl and we're both super excited though :) rachiecakes on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-727789 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 20:46:24 +0000 rachiecakes 727789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He really wanted a girl and was scared to have a boy. Because of that, I wanted to have a girl, but only for him. I really was just excited to be having a baby, for a long time I thought it wouldn't happen at all. swedishfish on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-727386 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 20:08:53 +0000 swedishfish 727386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I did want a girl at first and DH wanted a boy. He still wants a boy but now I'm open to having a boy. I'm a little worried that he'll be disappointed if baby turns out to be a girl (we are team green). But he has already assured me that he'd love a daughter. Mrs. Monkey on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-727280 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 19:54:36 +0000 Mrs. Monkey 727280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He really wants a girl so I feel like that has made me want to introduce the idea of a boy more! I just don't want him to be disappointed if we find out it's a boy, so I'm trying to trying to refer it as "he" to get him used to the idea. I honestly don't have a preference either way. Running Elley on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725295 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 12:39:02 +0000 Running Elley 725295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wanted a girl and he wanted a boy. My preference was definitely swayed by him. After awhile I ended up not caring as much about having a girl because I kind of wanted a boy since I knew he'd be really excited. banana on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725291 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 12:38:51 +0000 banana 725291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not at all. But we both wanted a boy first, which we have. He did want another boy but I didn't care either way. I think we're both happy with having one of each now. sorrycharlie on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725263 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 12:32:15 +0000 sorrycharlie 725263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! We wanted opposite! Alivoo01 on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725260 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 12:31:52 +0000 Alivoo01 725260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We want one of each, but I wanted a girl first, and the hubby wanted a boy first. Hubby won. teamjse on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725125 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:51:28 +0000 teamjse 725125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He didn't seem to have a preference, he just wanted the baby healthy and we certainly got a healthy little man. Chillybear on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725124 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:51:06 +0000 Chillybear 725124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ he really wants a boy, I switch back and forth. I feel like having a boy would be easier in a way, we already have a name, i'm more drawn to boy things outfits and decor. But it would be awesome to have a girl, i had 3 friends who had girls last spring so they are ready to give me all their hand me downs and she would have 3 built in best friends. lawbee11 on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725095 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:43:11 +0000 lawbee11 725095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He has 2 girls and a boy from a previous marriage, so he didn't have a preference since he already has both. I really wanted a girl and he knew that, so I think that made him hope it was a girl just because he knew that's what I wanted (though obviously I would have been thrilled with a boy, too!). Luckily we got our girl :) Mrs. Jacks on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725068 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:36:51 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 725068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I initially wanted a girl and he wanted a boy, then the second time around neither of us cared though I may have had a slight boy preference and he may have had a slight girl preference. We love our babies! marionberry on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725053 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:33:14 +0000 marionberry 725053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not at all! I had always wanted a girl and so did he, but even if we'd have differed I don't think it would've changed my gender preference. However, our baby's a boy and we are both thrilled! Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725035 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:29:29 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 725035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH really wants a boy and until recently I really wanted a girl. I don't know if he's rubbing off on me or if it was something I read. Fathers of sons have deceased risk of divorce because they connect to boys better than girls. Too many hens in the house drive men away? Foodnerd81 on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725031 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:29:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 725031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup-- I really don't have a preference, but he would really prefer a boy, so that is the only thing that would sway me a little towards wanting a boy. But really, I'm almost completely neutral and I know he'll come around in an instant if it's a girl (we are team green). Modern Daisy on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725020 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:26:28 +0000 Modern Daisy 725020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I kept my gender preference secret from my DH until we found out. I thought it was irrelevant since it's not something we could control and honestly I wanted a healthy baby more than a boy or girl. But when we found out it was a boy I felt comfortable confessing to DH that's what I wanted all along and I was trying to psyche myself up just in case it was a girl. DH had been all excited for a girl (we thought for SURE it was a girl), but he eventually also admitted he always wanted it to be a boy! I guess we kept it from each other! Springtime on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725011 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:25:16 +0000 Springtime 725011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He strongly wanted a boy, and yes it affected my preference. It made me want a boy too. LuLu Mom on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-725004 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:23:19 +0000 LuLu Mom 725004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wanted a girl but was convinced we were having a boy., he wanted a boy...we got a girl & he says he wouldn't change a thing, that he's now glad she is a girl :) Someone is already wrapped around her finger! MrsRoo on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724981 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:18:43 +0000 MrsRoo 724981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I honestly had no preference, so I was a little swayed by him wanting a boy so badly! He is super thrilled to be having a girl now, though. Arden on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724974 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:17:28 +0000 Arden 724974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both wanted a girl, but we didn't talk about it because we felt guilty for having a preference. But we got a girl! :) Bao on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724969 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:16:39 +0000 Bao 724969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both wanted a girl! loveisstrange on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724965 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:15:51 +0000 loveisstrange 724965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I wanted girls and he wanted a boy. He did tell me that he was secretly happy when we found out we were having a girl. I think he was team blue just to spite me. autumnlove on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724953 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:12:44 +0000 autumnlove 724953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, he wanted girls and I wanted boys. mrbee on "Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-gender-preference-affected-at-all-by-your-sos-gender-preference#post-724944 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:11:39 +0000 mrbee 724944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine definitely was! I figured since Mrs. Bee was carrying our baby, I should go with her gender preference. However I honestly forget what it was! So maybe I didn't really have a strong gender preference after all. Was your gender preference affected at all by your SO's gender preference?