https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 05:57:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-169529 Fri, 25 May 2012 17:41:55 +0000 Honeybee 169529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was super important during both my birth experiences. He literally held me up during contractions, talked me through each one, held my leg while I pushed, everything. Even when I got an epidural and fell asleep, he stayed awake and held my hand (both times!). </p> <p>I feel so lucky, expecially since a firend of ours behaved so badly during both of his wife's deliveries. With the first one, he slept through most of her labor and the delivery (in the same room!) and with the second, he stopped for coffee on the way to the hospital when his wife was 8 cms along! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168210 Thu, 24 May 2012 18:14:20 +0000 His Barista 168210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He was great! He knew when to be there and when I wanted to be left alone. He was a huge help!</p> <p>He still rocked when it came to nighttime feedings and changes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168185 Thu, 24 May 2012 18:02:48 +0000 Zuzu2and11 168185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I don't know if I would have been able go through labor and delivery unmedicated without him. We read Husband-Coached Childbirth - The Bradley Method of Natural Chilbirth, but we didn't take any classes prior to LO's birth. Once my contractions were painful, he coached me through each one and timed them. I did not want to be touched or hear anything but his voice. He helped me relax so much at home that I was already 7 cm dilated when we arrived at the hospital! </p> <p>Once we were at the hospital, he continued to talk me through the contractions, brought me water, held my leg and basically did whatever I needed haha. </p> <p>And then 30 or so minutes after LO was born, he passed out in an uncomfortable chair and slept for an hour :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168157 Thu, 24 May 2012 17:45:06 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 168157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mr. Jacks rocked! I labored at home for over 24 hours and he was awesome. He entertained me, walked with me, gardened with me, watched shows with me, fed me, and left me alone when I needed it. Then when we went in, we got settled and all took a nap for a while. I had wicked back labor, so he was getting me hot compresses and helping me reposition. </p> <p>We rested again while I labored down and then it was one test push and two pushes!</p> <p>He also stayed up all night with me as we changed mec diaper after mec diaper! </p> <p>He's a good one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168129 Thu, 24 May 2012 17:21:05 +0000 WiLLoWtReE 168129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Prior to labor DH and I didn't really discuss his role as far as labor goes but he did an awesome job. I planned to not have any pain meds and really needed all the support I could get from him. He walked with me, rubbed my back, and did basically whatever I needed to make it through. The only time I almost killed him was while I was in transition standing in the shower. He zoned out and started whistling... Not acceptable Haha ... Other than that he did great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168115 Thu, 24 May 2012 17:13:07 +0000 mrs. wagon 168115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: I am slightly similar... we had an agreement that he would not speak in the delivery room unless spoken to. He did a great job at not constantly talking while I was in pain unless I needed him to.</p> <p>He was 100% involved from the get go though! The only time he left me alone was right before we left for the hospital... he ran around getting the house ready to be gone for 3 days. He didn't know we could bring food into the delivery room so during our 24 hour labor he ran out and ate a sandwich in like 5 mins. The next day he was complaining that the bottoms of his feet hurt so bad, and all the nurses were like "uh, it's because you refused to sit down for like 24 hours straight." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168085 Thu, 24 May 2012 16:44:55 +0000 skibobrown 168085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was there through the entire 3 days that I was in labor. I let him sleep a little b/c he needed his rest, but he was there with me while I was in the bath, and he would hold me during contractions. He would help me breathe, and he would time the intervals between contractions. It was pretty amazing how supportive he was. If he had to go downstairs while I was laboring upstairs, he would even point the baby monitor at me, so he could keep an eye on me and hear me if I needed anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168017 Thu, 24 May 2012 16:11:36 +0000 chopsuey 168017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. He was there at the foot of the bed cheering me on and holding my legs up when I needed help, but I pretty much knew what I was doing and wanted to be left to labor in peace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-168015 Thu, 24 May 2012 16:10:47 +0000 Lozza 168015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was active through every contraction with me (except right after I got the epidural and was sort of in a haze for a couple hours and he took a nap on the floor of the delivery room). For the 8 hours between when my water broke and when I got the epidural, he was walking with me, rubbing my back, talking me through it, letting me lean on him, etc. And once I was pretty much bed-bound after the epidural, he was still right there for every contraction, and when I was pushing, he was the one who counted out loud for every push (for three effing hours. that's no joke right there). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167937 Thu, 24 May 2012 15:35:47 +0000 autumnlove 167937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He was amazing and supportive during active labor but, when I was waiting for cervidil to kick in...he was watching a Lost marathon on his Ipad! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167936 Thu, 24 May 2012 15:34:25 +0000 LAGS 167936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband helped me time contractions and once we were admitted would watch the monitor to let me know when my contractions were coming, peaking and tapering off - this was an amazing help! The contractions he wasn't able to talk me through were definitely the hardest. He also was a huge help dealing with the Dr's. I found it way too hard to concentrate on them with contractions coming so quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167923 Thu, 24 May 2012 15:28:12 +0000 Rubies 167923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I timed my own contractions. When I'm sick or in pain, I like to be left alone and I knew that if hubs tried to be doting or if he asked me things like, "Are you okay? Does it hurt? Do you need anything?" I would go nuts! We had an agreement that I would tell him if I needed or wanted anything and that he just had to be with me and let me squeeze his hand. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167919 Thu, 24 May 2012 15:24:26 +0000 MegWag 167919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was so supportive and awesome. He rubbed my back and looked up accupressure points to help me get my labor going when it wasn't going fast enough. Mostly he was just a great energy in the room. I don't really remember him doing anything specific once I was in the final stages of labor, but feeling his support and love was really calming and reassuring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167863 Thu, 24 May 2012 14:50:56 +0000 Mrsbells 167863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband also had an app on his phone for contractions although we never needed it since I was induced. My husband also watched documentaries with me and read books on the bradley method of birth so he was very wel informed and that helped a lot </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167841 Thu, 24 May 2012 14:38:14 +0000 heffalump 167841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He had the app on his phone to time my contractions. And when we got to the hospital he liked to tell me when I was having a contraction by looking on the computer when I was hooked up.... like I didn't know :) But I got an epidural so there wasn't much for him to do after that. We both got to take a nap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-a-big-part-of-your-labor-process#post-167813 Thu, 24 May 2012 14:24:46 +0000 mediagirl 167813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we are down to weekly appointments, my husband is getting ready to be my support partner during labor. He asked the OB today about contractions, to make sure he knew the proper way to time them. He said, "Hey, she's doing all the hard work, I can at least be somewhat helpful!" So cute!! :) </p> <p>Was your SO a big part of your labor or is he planning to be? </p>