https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 22:23:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213684 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 19:33:56 +0000 banana 213684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked and he said I treated him better before baby was here. hahaha. Oops. Maybe I should be nicer to him..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213676 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 19:21:18 +0000 chopsuey 213676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked and he said our relationship is better now. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213657 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 18:59:19 +0000 kgbee 213657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a difficult question! Our relationship is different now, but the crux of our interactions remains the same. We certainly feel closer now than ever, having gone through and currently going through so many new experiences. We've both accepted that ourselves-as-spouses are taking a temporary backseat to ourselves-as-parents; it doesn't really make either of us unhappy or unfulfilled, since it was a decision we made together for the good of our family. When it does start to take its toll, we make a conscious effort to remedy things (usually by making more time for intimacy and sex!). So, then was good, but now is good, too -- just different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213243 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 13:20:09 +0000 Andrea 213243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked DH this and while ago and he thought our relationship was still great after the baby. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213216 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:36:12 +0000 Mrs. Train 213216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our relationship definetly got put through the ringer, from infertility to difficult adoptions and pregnancies, not to mention going from 0 to 3 babies. But we both feel we have come out on the other side stronger as a couple. </p> <p>His one complaint is he wants more alone time as a couple. Since our youngest is still nursing it's a little tricky but I have promised him a weekend away when baby girl is one and done nursing so he has that to look forward to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213184 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:05:12 +0000 MamaMoose 213184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well our little one isn't here yet. But this is actually something I think about often. I don't want to be one of those mothers who focuses all her attention on her children and doesn't focus on keeping her marriage as a priority. I know things will change, and they will change a lot. But I intend to make an effort to make time for fostering my relationship with my husband and he is totally on the same page as me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213182 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:02:56 +0000 Running Elley 213182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m really interested to see the answers to this! One of my husband’s main concerns that we discussed quite a bit before we started TTC was that he wouldn’t be my “baby” anymore and that he wasn’t ready to share my attention. He’s not as worried about it now but I’m glad that he voiced those concerns because I know that I’ll be more mindful of paying him individual attention once the baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/was-your-so-happier-with-your-relationship-before-or-after-having-a-baby#post-213178 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:56:01 +0000 mrbee 213178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read a stat that after having kids (and when the kids are young), men tend to be less satisfied with their relationship than women. The explanation given was that men tend to fall way down the priority list when a baby comes.</p> <p>I was surprised because my first thought was that the primary caretaker (usually but not always female) would be unhappier because of all the extra work from being the primary caretaker. But according to this one article (which I can't find ugh), it's the other way around.</p> <p>I'm not sure whether or not to believe the article. That said, I definitely do see that priorities shift when you have kids... and that the relationship often goes from being the #1 priority to being #2, 3 or even lower than that. I saw one guy post online that he'd be happy if he was in his wife's top 10 priorities. Between kids, gardening, cooking and her cats, I guess he didn't feel he was in her top ten.</p> <p>Let's put aside all satisfaction and fulfillment with babies and family. Just focusing on your relationship, was your SO happier with your relationship before or after having a baby? How about you? </p>